Official Pagan Thread!

[deb1]

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So far I have been pretty honest with my younger children. Because I don't see premarital sex as a sin, I am not really concerned if my older children have relationships nor do I care that they know that I had sex before I met their father. I have told them that there is a lot of unnecessary baggage and emotional annoyances that come with sex that they might want to avoid until they finish their education. I have also been very, very honest with my daughters about the fact that society has a double standard when it comes to women and men's sexuality. I have probably given them more reasons to wait for later to have sex then most very religious people. My brother is in the medical field and he is supposed to take each of my children out privately and give them an honest discussion on STDS.

 

[Dust Bunny]

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So far I have been pretty honest with my younger children. Because I don't see premarital sex as a sin, I am not really concerned if my older children have relationships nor do I care that they know that I had sex before I met their father. I have told them that there is a lot of unnecessary baggage and emotional annoyances that come with sex that they might want to avoid until they finish their education. I have also been very, very honest with my daughters about the fact that society has a double standard when it comes to women and men's sexuality. I have probably given them more reasons to wait for later to have sex then most very religious people. My brother is in the medical field and he is supposed to take each of my children out privately and give them an honest discussion on STDS.

just make sure that std discussion includes pictures LOTS of pictures, it was those nasty pics of std infections that had the most impact on me! i mean babies are cute and can be appealing but venereal warts? not so much! lol

 

[Dust Bunny]

oh and scandals? my great uncle is really my biological grandfather on my dads side, crazy hugh?!

 

[mom'sfolly]

Both my grandmother and my husbands grandmother were pregnant when they got married. My family all knew my dad's real birthday, but none of his relatives did. We didn't know until after my dad and grandparents had all died and my brother was asking a cousin about some family history. He said "I know my dad was born in December, but when did my grandparents get married?". The reply was that my grandparents were married in June, and my dad's birthday was in April. Oops! I'd often wondered how my dad ended up born in California when the whole family was in Utah. My dad's gravestone even has the wrong date on it.

My dh's parents and their siblings found out when they were planning an anniversary party for their parents, where all the original wedding guest were to be invited. The parents fessed up before the invitations went out. Evidently, dh's aunt was devastated to find out she was a 6 month baby.

Marriage ceremonies and what not are fairly recent. In the middle ages, only the wealthy or nobility really married, marriage was more of a contract involving property than what we think of as marriage now. Later, in Skandinavia, it was common for engaged couples to have full sexual rights. If the girl was not pregnant within a year, the engagement was dissolved without any blame on either side. Having kids was important, and you might be able to do so with someone else.

 

[deb1]

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So far I have been pretty honest with my younger children. Because I don't see premarital sex as a sin, I am not really concerned if my older children have relationships nor do I care that they know that I had sex before I met their father. I have told them that there is a lot of unnecessary baggage and emotional annoyances that come with sex that they might want to avoid until they finish their education. I have also been very, very honest with my daughters about the fact that society has a double standard when it comes to women and men's sexuality. I have probably given them more reasons to wait for later to have sex then most very religious people. My brother is in the medical field and he is supposed to take each of my children out privately and give them an honest discussion on STDS.

just make sure that std discussion includes pictures LOTS of pictures, it was those nasty pics of std infections that had the most impact on me! i mean babies are cute and can be appealing but venereal warts? not so much! lol

that is actually a good idea!

 

[ebwy]

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So far I have been pretty honest with my younger children. Because I don't see premarital sex as a sin, I am not really concerned if my older children have relationships nor do I care that they know that I had sex before I met their father. I have told them that there is a lot of unnecessary baggage and emotional annoyances that come with sex that they might want to avoid until they finish their education. I have also been very, very honest with my daughters about the fact that society has a double standard when it comes to women and men's sexuality. I have probably given them more reasons to wait for later to have sex then most very religious people. My brother is in the medical field and he is supposed to take each of my children out privately and give them an honest discussion on STDS.

That sounds like the best way to handle it

 

[ebwy]

so... how are you all?

 

[saddina]

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My mom was screwed with simple subtraction, her age minus my age. Moral of the story, should've lied about her age.
My husband could use the "I waited for your mother" though...

 

[ebwy]

mine just avoided all questions about her first pregnancy (easily done, since the baby died) so until I was told I had no idea

 

[saddina]

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Good, business is good, we cleared 10 grand had a lunch party, and boss went out that afternoon to restock. So for a few brief hours we had record profits.