Old Boyfriend Looking for ME!

[Quillgirl]

Beefy, thanks for they guys perspective. That's something to consider:/

 

[Picky Chicky]

Beefy makes a good point.

 

[Kgee]

I totally agree with ChickBond 007

 

[Gingersnap6]

Leave well enough alone. You are married after all. It can only cause trouble that you don't need in your marriage.

 

[Katy]

ignore, ignore ignore!!!!!

 

[usschicago1]

BE Honest with Him! But stay away. Tell him its the past. it does eat us up inside jelousy, but honestly is KeY

Keep us posted

 

[Julie_A]

I had a similar scenario a few weeks ago... Old ex with lots of unfinished drama contacted me on Facebook. I added him and we chatted for several hours. Then it all got really, really weird. My husband and I had a big fight. I decided just to block him. Wish I'd never seen him to start with...

My advice, leave it alone.

 

[fordmommy]

I say, if he came to your wedding, it shouldn't be a big deal. BUT...you are asking our opinions, so I think you may have some kind of left over feelings for him, whether or not you admit it.

A hello is in no way a big deal. Maybe he just wants to see what's up with you. Old friends and all.

As long as you tell your DH..... so everything's on the table .....say "Hi!" Not a big deal.

 

[Angelic Vampyre]

You said you parted on good terms and that he even attended your wedding right? Well that to me sort of states that he knows you have moved on.

I would treat it as any old friend getting in touch, if you have his e-mail drop him a line, say you where suprised to here from him after all this time, you hope that he is well and then tell him a little about where you are, something simple like, still married and still in love with DH, have X amount of kids and X amount of Chickens... Keep it ligh hearted and show your husband what you are going to send him.

Then if he writes back be open with your husband as to what he writes.

I had a ex try and contact me once, I was in a relationship and worried about it and just ignored it, found out later that he had died, he had cancer and just wanted to reconnect with friends (he was married with two kids) he told his wife that he regerted never getting the chance to say goodbye to me as we had been friend for a long while before we became something more.

I am not saying this is the case with him but maybe it is just someone getting in contact just to be friends.

 

[babylady4]

#1. What does hubby think; if he is ok with contacting this guy then go ahead but make your hubby aware of all conversations.

On a personal note, I am friends with almost all of my ex's AND their wives without issues. You can be friends and all get along even if there is a past there....... trust your gut.

Good luck!