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Thanks for clarifying. I can't blame you for not wanting a face to face, again, thats where we differ (and not saying you are wrong or saying that you are a doormat). I would try and catch them outside or knock on their door. People can hide behind words, but it shows the character of people when questioned face to face. I would then document my conversation to the parents and sons (if they are there) about their sons behaviour, if it continued then I would send them and the boys a certified return receipt letter from me, and if it didn't stop, I would go through the proper channels through the courts. But thats just me, that is how I would handle it.
These kids might back down when confronted. They are just trying to intimidate you using punkish tactics.
GANewChick, you have been such a calm voice of reason through this whole thing, and boy is that a gift when so many of the rest of us are jumping to the top of the woodpile to howl and pontificate to loose our outrage on behalf of Lickskillet and her family...(I blush as I write this) this time, while I do see that you are working through steps to a better long term end, I have to respectfully disagree with your advice about this approach of knocking on the neighbor's door to further conversation without the support of an official third party. Given the behavior that family has actually demonstrated already, is very similar to stepping up to a powder keg wearing a blowtorch. Again, demonstrably, they are unreasonable, and can't saddle their emotion, so the use of service from a police officer, CA, or other professional, unrelated mediator is really a much, much safer way to go about diffusing the situation before it spins out of sense and control. There is so much power in graceful triangulation - it isn't passive aggressive, it's sensible and safe. Police and officials would much rather deal with things this way, than after something else terrible happens, or after unnecessarily continued heartache on the part of Lickskillet and her family .
Thanks ~ maybe I didn't word the message I was conveying very well. I wasn't advising her how she should handle it, just how I would handle it. Another POV as it might not work for her situation but could work for her or others in future instances depending on the circumstances.
