question about kids today..

[shareneh]

The best thing to do is to teach your kids the right way to do things and hope for the best. If you taught them everything you want them to know they will be turned off by the other behaviors you don't like.

In my humble opinion kids should never be allowed to cuss in front of adults. It's disrespectful. We all know that they cuss around their friends or out of earshot and it's just understood that they don't do that in front of us.

 

[debilorrah]

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You crack me up.

Glad to be of service. I HAD to pick my battles. I was a single parent from the time he was 4.

 

[mtnhomechick]

One thing that infuriates me ( one of many these days ) is how tobacco companies STILL get away with targeting the young kids.

I have four kids. They all said they hated second hand smoke as we did.........a good thing right?

Then I find out years later that two of them took up the habit and I NEVER knew it until they were over 20.

The other two still hate it. And they're not shy about stating so.

It's such a vulnerable age...............now, all I hear is how they want to quit but it's so hard.

If I could have buried them for a couple years and then gone back and dug 'em up........bet they wouldn't smoke.

Also.........too many parents want to buddy up with kids. Kids need structure and the security of knowing someone is in charge.

 

[redhen]

OOh no!..something is wrong with that picture!..in no way shape or form would i let my kids smoke OR swear in my house....its just disrespectful and shows the lack of the parents morals also!....how can you teach a kid any morals when you let him swear and smoke around you?...and really the swearing is MUCH worse...it really shows no respect!!..IMO.......now, i KNOW teens will swear..but, to do it in front of a parent...NO WAY!!...thats why kids today have such problems( drugs...deliquency..)they have no respect for adults OR authority...and THATS what leads them straight to jail...my job is taking care of problem teens(some straight from lock-up)...i live with them 24/7....and they dont ever swear in front of me...ever...they know my rules..and respect them...because i make them follow them!... there is no picking battles with my kids...they are simply not allowed to do that stuff in my house..period....if the parents dont teach them, and yes,sometimes even MAKE them be respectful..who will?...

 

[Cackel]

I raised two sons , two of the smartiest boys in this town, The reason I say that is because if they ever did anything wrong ,They were smart enough not to let me find it out .I knew where they were at all times and what they were doing ,I thought that was my job and I did it 24 hours a day .I was good to them and they were good to me ,They knew they did what mama said until they walked across that stage and that dipolma was in their hand ,Then I told them now you are your on man ,what ever you do with your life from now on you will have to live with,Just remenber what all you were taught .Now one is 44 and the other is 40 and I am so proud of them both.

 

[skeeter]

sounds like that kid will be in jail before he is old enough to vote,that is a big problem in this country,idiots having kids and then letting them do what ever they want,no accountability.our prisons are full of those.
I was in the military a long time so you can bet my 16 yo son gets discipline
and he is a very great kid because of it,he has a 4 point and plays football wrestles and plays baseball,but I do support him all I can,and tell him I love him,he is my buddy



wow looks like im not the only one with the same opion,cackle and red hen were posting while i was typing,I have to hunt and peck so im slow

 

[debilorrah]

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You are a good example.... I wish there were more of you. For single parents, quite often choosing what to except is very hard. the cussing is my example. I never did say it was ok for him to cuss a blue streak all over the house, but letting loose with the f word when he slammed his hand in the cupboard.... I let it go. He is actually very good about it now at 19. He is a very well adjusted, bright, smart, funny, loving kid, and I thank God every day that He made it so easy for me.

 

[LittleYellowOne]

I've been allowed to cuss since I could talk, so have my my two younger siblings. My mother drops the "f"-bomb every other word, and so does my construction worker stepfather, so it was pretty hard NOT to pick it up. So no one starts hatin' on my mother, I must add that she believes that words are words, and only hold whatever power you choose to give them; they lose their potency after awhile, and I find that I don't swear NEARLY as much as some of my family does now.

Part of that arrangement is knowing time and place as well, for the repurcussions of swearing at the wrong time are ours and ours alone. I've been tackled and had hotsauce AND pepper dumped down my throat by my father-dearest (when I was little), but my grandparents and the rest of my family cuss too, so I've never been reprimanded by them. My 13 year old brother cusses pretty bad, but knows better than to do it in public, or at school.

I've also been allowed to smoke since an early age, but it was my responsibility to buy my own cigarettes; I bought ONE pack when I turned eighteen, and ended up giving them to my mother. I experimented with smoking at an early age, and found it really gross, so it never stuck~

As far as drugs are concerned, I've never done any, and my mother knows this, but isn't ignorant of "the way things are". I've been around drugs AND alcohol, and I won't claim to have never done some illegal drinking, but she knows that, and just tells me to be safe. She would rather me call her to be picked up, than try and hide my actions and wind up wrapped around a telephone pole.

I kinda take offense to people saying that boy is going to wind up in jail though... I dress in a less than typical fashion, and I have to put up with closed-minded idiots all of the time.

Just because I dye my hair crazy colors, pierce my face shut, tattoo my body, and decide to wear a lot of black, doesn't mean that I'm a bad person.

Just because my mother has smoked since she was 12 (and was also allowed to do so), doesn't mean SHE's a bad person.

Just because I say a few bad words, doesn't mean that I'm a bad person.

Just because 95% of the teenage population has tried drugs, doesn't mean that THEY're bad people.

They're just that...people. We all make mistakes and do stupid things, and the teenage years are perfect for that, but what matters is the type of person you turn into at the end of all the crazy.

To sum it up, that teenage boy is a cookie-cutter image of almost every boy I knew in school, though styles may differ.

 

[agnes_day]

it really does seem like a lot of parents want to be friends with their kids, instead of the parent. i don't know..it just really took me aback when she told me that she buys this kid cigarettes and is perfectly ok with it..i talked to my step dad about it later and found out that the kid really did get kicked out of school for getting high on school property, but he feels that he cant do anything. to me, that is a total cop out!
i really do feel bad for the boy because he doesn't have any role models and i can just see already how he is going to be as an adult if something doesn't change soon. i was just hoping for the police to drive by because for whatever reason, because they will ticket an underage smoker 200 dollars if they are seen doing it.(small town thing i guess!) i also felt bad for my oldest because he kept trying to talk to him and be polite but he didn't want any of it and finally my 3rd oldest told him to quit talking about drugs around my little ones (found this out after they left, or i would've said something then)
i think next year, i wont invite anyone over!

 

[mullers3acers]

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No you are doing the right thing when my oldest daughter was in middle school she hung out with a girl that we thought would give her bad advice and get her doing drugs we told her she couldn't hang out with her any more. Now that girl could go to jail for 20 yrs for vehicle homicide as she was doing drugs and was drinking.