***RANT & VENT***

[water4two]

Here is my advice: Each person has to make choices. Yes, the way you are raised or not raised impacts the choices you make. But it is still a choice. Your brother is making a choice…so what will your choice be?

Good luck, this will not be easy!

 

[bigkford]

I have been in this same situation. You are being an enableler to your brother. I was to my sister. And needless to say she is still herself and I stuck to my guns. It took awhile but I finally told her follow our house rules or I would move her myself. One day her stuff was packed and loaded on my trailer. We still talk and everything but the relationshop is not the same. She still is. She left her husband of 10 years and her 5 girls. Some you can help some you can't doesn't matter if its family or not. Take it from experience take care of your own first. Thats the only way you will feel better. You can't help someone who doesn't wanna help themself.

 

[Brindlebtch]

CoonX gave a couple of really scary scenarios you need to pay attention to.

 

[water4two]

Quote:
I agree!

 

[chickpeaz]

re: the "predators and pests" board:

I just think it's ironic that what started out as a post about a predator dog has ended up to be about a pest brother.

 

[allison finch]

I work with people like your brother every day (I'm a cop). The truth of it is, he has no family but the drugs, now. You are only a means to an end. Soon, your belongings will start disappearing. Any children in your home are AT RISK! Uncle so and so will be happy to give them their first toke.

Until he cleans up his act, he needs to go. You can still love him, but at a distance.

 

[Mrs. Glassman]

Coon x...
That kind of thing is on my mind all the time. The only relief I get is knowing that once he gets his check, he's outta here for a few days. He comes home BROKE & sleepy.

I'm guessing it takes that long to smoke a payday. I'm left to feed & water an animal I wish were dead.

I've told him what to expect. Now it's just a matter of method, not motive. Rat poision? Strangulation? Hanging? Shotgun? Drowning? What is the most 'humane' method??

I hate for a silly little 'no-raising' dog to suffer. But it's really coming to that.

I've told him what to expect if I see the animal off it's chain once more. For crying-out-loud, we were raised thinking EVERYONE ate the Easter bunny once it got big....we have seen our Dad kill an animal 'just because'. He knows I was raised this way. He knows when I say, "Enough is enough" that I'm not talking about alternate homes & adoptition stuff....yet he is lazy. He'd rather let it off it's lead than take time with it.

I WILL NOT putt up with an animal who does this to the things I pay good money for & take time wth.

Anyone want a dingo looking mutt at their homes? It chases cars, chickens, rabbits, and barks at the wind.... FREE anytime he's not looking & it's loose. YOU PAY SHIPPING.
(That BTW is my ONE bid to find it a home, other than mine.)



OMG....
My stepson tells me that the animal is NOT on it's lead right now.


I'm sorry folks, to those who oppose animal slaughter.....read no further on this topic.

I AM DONE.

 

[Wolf-Kim]

No reason for the animal to suffer! Send it off to the pound.

Why make an animal suffer, when your brother will only go out and get another?

Take both the dog and the freeloader to the pound. Bet the dog gets adopted first.

If the dog is to be killed. Shoot it.

-Kim

 

[cassie]

You really need to get rid of the brother. You are not doing him or you any favors by letting him stay. The dog is the least of your problems.

 

[HennysMom]

Mrs. Glassman :

Wow...all these replies so fast. A lot of you out there must know what it's like having to deal with this kind of bull.

On one hand, I feel the need to help him. He is my younger brother, our father was murdered when we were young, and he had to live with our 'mom' who BTW introduced him to drugs.
(mom is in quotes because I have no respect for that woman....long story), he has no education, no personal belongings other than his clothes & that dog. (EVERY THING he loaded the trailer with belonged to the landlord & had to be returned the next day.)

On the other hand...he is going on 34 years old. I grew up in the same house with the same crap going on all the time. I made a decision that I just didn't like my circumstances, and have worked (sometimes 2 jobs) since I was 16 years old, to improve my life and have nice things.

I feel the responsiblity to rescue him, because I'm the only one who got out and did well...not great, just well. And I have always been the one to lend extra money, or buy a buggy full of food for any of my siblings who were in need.

But I am going to have to draw the line at me & my things being disrespected.

Ok....While posting this, My brother woke up from his nap (must be nice).

I pulled him aside and told him that this was something that I was only going to say ONCE....

And I told him that I love him, but hate his dog. And if I catch it off the chain just one more time, I was going to plot to kill it in a horrible fashion. I explained what it was doing, & all.

He hung his head & said, "But it's all I have." & went out side.

SEE it freaking makes me SAD. Dang It!!

Only time will tell what happens next. He knows my Daddy raised me. He knows I'll rise to the task if it's nessasary.

I am at my wit's end here. My house is a peaceful non-drama house.

Thanks for all the hugs & advise. It's all welcome.

Oh.My.Word.

Reason I bolded your comments are two-fold:

1. first bold: you're not helping him - you're enabling him in every sense of the word. Why do you think he got kicked out of his last place? Same thing he's doing to you now.

2. second bold: Guilt trip being played by him. Answer: "No, what you currently have is a roof over your head, food in your stomach, utilities, vet care, and a good life - FREE OF CHARGE because you wont get up off your lazy behind and A. work, B. Pay me rent for living here, C. help out around this house, D. take care of your dog. So this stops right now immediately and you will pay me XXX a week and take care of that dog or you and the dog and "all you have in this world" will be out the door next week, no sob story, no tears, no "I have no place to go" - there's a homeless shelter somewhere in the area I'm certain and your dog can go to the SPCA - you will not miss one week of rent payment, and you will also contribute to groceries and utilities as well. If your dog gets out once more because you fail to chain it or purchase a kennel pen to keep it in, it will be going to the SPCA and I will do the removal - is that clear enough for you?"

Dont enable.... you are not responsible for your brothers happiness, livlihood or care. He's 34 years old... time to grow up or get out. Simple as that.​