***RANT & VENT***

[Mrs. Glassman]

Did it. Tossed the brother out. We had let him use one of the phones on our family plan. We have free unlimited text & pic, plus 1400 mins ( which between 5 phones, we NEVER come close to using.)

As in my last post about this, he had gone to spend "the night" with some friends...he stayed gone for a few weeks (lost count).

He didn't bother to come by and check on the animal to make sure we had bothered to feed it or water it. I could have been a real jerk, and not have....but the animal was chained, and it was not it's fault. Also, it would have stank up the yard if it died there.

Well, the WHOLE point of him being here was so that he could save money, and get his own things ( like a car our place to live.)

The final straw came with our phone bill. $200 in "adult content" downloads.

DH called him immediatly. It was around 4pm...and the sorry piece of crap was asleep on someone's couch. We were holding the last two checks he got from unemployment and told him that he was going to be escorted to cash them, pay us what he owes, collect his crap INCLUDING his dog, and give us our phone & keys, and get out.

He sheepishly complied.

The next day I got a barage of texts from his ex/current girlfriend. She was the one who left the same day we explained we did not tolerate drugs. She chose drugs & homelesness, and took off walking at 1am. All the while, texting me to tell me how I had ruined their life. If I were a child, or moron...this may have offened me. But I am grown, I have a job, I provide for my family, and I have this thing that dopeheads don't sem to have: common sense.

Anyway, this skank of a girl with no teeth at 25 yrs. old from drug use, starts texting me trying to rub it in my face that he was with her. As if she really matters to anyone other than her dealer.

She told me to go to hades, and I told her, "Sure, but I don't know how to get there...can you lift up your shirt and show me that road map of stretch marks on your gut? I'm sure it's listed on there somewhere."

Last I heard of them.

 

[chickencoop31320]

Sorry you had to go through all this.

I hope it will at least be a learning experience and not a total loss for you.
You have a kind heart and a dork for a brother.
You did what you could for him and he's not willing to get off the drugs.
You can't force rehab, a junkie will only reform if THEY are ready.
Sometimes no amount of love and/or help can change the way they are.
I'm not saying you should give up on him, just that he's obviously not ready to help himself right now.


I would HIGHLY suggest changing ALL of your locks.
He (or his wonderful GF) could have made a copy in the time he had the extra key.

Meth = Soulless stealing and messing over even the ones you love.

I wish you all the best.

 

[Bizzybirdy]

Good for you! Sounds like he was going to be nothing but trouble. We all try to love our family members but sometimes they are beyond our help and the best thing is to let them go. It is difficult enough nowadays to take care of ourselves.

You did the right thing.

 

[chickypoo]

I've sort of been following along, not posting. I'm glad everything came to a decent conclusion. It could have ended worse ways, you could come home and things could be missing, or he could still be there. Worse yet, if he got mixed up with the police and they got back to your place and found any drugs there you would be in massive trouble.

Anyone else like Calvin and Hobbes?

 

[LizzyJo]

You can't charge your own brother! Give him the kick in the butt for free.

 

[featherpants]

I hate to say this, but you are enabling this man.. Kick him out. I know it is hard to do this with your relatives, but it's something you must do, before the situation worsens. Meth is destructive. Not only does it destroy the user's mind and body, but it tears families apart. Take it from me. I had a daughter hooked on the stuff. I allowed her to live with me for 9 months, and during that time, there were numerous calls to the police, constant worry about whether or not she would come home, when she went out, and waaaay to much drama for the rest of the neighborhood. You need to give the boot, before you lose more than just your animals. My daughter had problems with depression, but the meth eventually ate up her brain, causing her to become schitzophrenic. Was the hardest thing I ever had to do, when I threw her out, but she was becoming violent, and I didn't want to take any chances as my youngest son was only 13 years old, at the time. Meth heads will lie, steal, cheat, put blame on anything and everything, except themselves, to get the drugs they want. Stop being an enabler and take back your life!

 

[Brindlebtch]

Way to go Mrs. Glassman!

I agree you should probably change the locks to get into your house.

Hopefully your life will now become calm and serene.

Best Wishes!

 

[2boxers]

Mrs Glassman, I am so sorry for your troubles. I grew up in a very dysfunctional family and I know how hard it is to love them without enabling them. It really is a horrible, gut wrenching drama. I hope your drama is about to end.

Lock your doors and make sure that you & yours are protected. Junkies have a habit of not thinking rationally.

 

[enola]

Good for you ! I knew you could do it !

When he is REALLY ready for help, he will let you know. . . .

 

[Love my Critters!]

Good for you! Change your locks and keep the house locked up tight. Now he knows what all you have.
Unfortunately my DH had a really good friend that turned out like your brother. We have bent over backwards for years trying to help him. (He doesn't want the help) Now that we have children all ties were finally cut. This friend was like a brother to my husband and he even stole from us after all we did for him. Once when my husband saw him at a convience store and confronted him about the last thing he stole (100 cash), the "friend" was with another dope head and he pulled a gun out on my husband while my husband's "friend" stood behind the man with the gun. This "friend" that we have done sooooo much for, just threatened to take my husband away from me and my children's father away from them. I DON'T think so!!! The final line was crossed and if my DH's friends shows face on this property he will be met by a 12 gauge! It's sad but the drugs take over, and I don't want you and your family to lose anymore than you already have.
You did more than you were obligated to do, be at peace with that and move on. All you can do is pray for him.