Rude Teenage DS

[herfrds]

DD is 4 years younger and started getting a smart mouth recently to DH but not me. She knows how fast she would be getting a red backside.
DH always says he has no respect around here, but from what I see he never follows through with his threats while I do.

HollyBird DS does have rules and such but on somethings we figure it is best just to sit back and let him learn.
He also cleans his own room and washes his own clothes.
Which is why his attitude yesterday was not acceptable.

 

[TinyChickenLady]

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You'd not make it in MY house...*tsk tsk*
Sounds like your parents have given up on you... that's very sad to hear..

Yup that's too bad

Wouldn't make it in my house either. No matter how much we tried to ignore my parents, they never gave up. I'm glad they didn't.

 

[twentynine]

My parents were consistant.

I was never asked to get up-- I was told to hit the floor running boy. Once!

I was never asked to do my chores-- I was told that I wasn't born with a siver spoon in my mouth, so work was what I had to look forward to, so I best get used to it.

Invite people over for birthday? Why? I was told happy birthday, then told to get to school or work.

Take away 4-wheeler. Didn't have one, Dad said I was born with feet, so use'em.

Curse my Dad or Mom. Nope never did, as proof of that I am still here and breathing. Dad's 86 now, if I cussed him he wouldn't beat me today, he knows he's to old, he's liable to shoot me. I can't imagine speaking a profanity in my mother's presence, let alone cussing her. When I was a child or teenager, if I would have done that, I can't swear they would have killed me, but me being in pain would have been the result.

I remember vividly I was 15 or 16, Saturady morning helping my mother clean house. Being a young male it had occurred to me that mopping the floor was beneath my dignity. So I gave it a half arse effort. Mom corrected me a few times, made me remop, rerinse, and rebuff the kitchen. By that time I had, had enough. I remember I bowed up my back and with as much anger as I could muster, through gritted teeth, I told Mom, that she didn't do anything, it was me doing all the cleaning and I was tired of being treated like a slave. Mom didn't say a word, she advanced on me, taking the mop out of my hand, I figured oh boy, no more mopping. Here's where things went wrong. Mom took that wet mop, turned it around and swirling it like a samuri sword she began to beat me from toenails to tophat. She ain't said a word, but when she finally let up, I was a quivering mass of young male humanity crouched in the corner. Told Mom that she better sit down and rest, and I would finish the floors and the dusting and the laundry and the sidewalks and fix her a nice cup of coffeee too!

That a member of the house was allowed to curse anyone else in the house, let alone their father, with out dire consiquences, is amazing.

 

[Poultrybonkers]

Im a teen and cant say i ever did that. I have no reason to.

 

[CluckyJay]

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[CluckyJay]

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it isn't yours until you're out on your own, paying your own bills. Hopefully they begin to take a more involved approach in your rearing.

 

[Rusty Hills Farm]

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See, that's where you are confused. Your parents are NOT your friends. They are the people who are responsible for you as long as you live under their roof. It's not about you being easier to live with. It's all about you learning right from wrong and how to be a decent respectable human being. The world already has enough punks. It doesn't take any effort at all to be a punk but it sure does take a whole lot of work to become a worthwhile human being.

Maybe it was all the years I spent in the Marine Corps, but yours is an attitude I would not ever accept from my own offspring. I say a thing once. I do not ever ask. And I don't say it a second time. Kids are a pain to raise but we invest our hearts and souls in you. The least you can do is respect us for this.

As always, JMO.


Rusty

 

[ChicknThief]

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You'd not make it in MY house...*tsk tsk*
Sounds like your parents have given up on you... that's very sad to hear..

Yup that's too bad

Wouldn't make it in my house either. No matter how much we tried to ignore my parents, they never gave up. I'm glad they didn't.

x3 Don't worry hun, someday you are gonna have a kid juuust like you and maybe then you will know what we are talking about

 

[lowry075]

I teach teenagers and I will say that the best thing you can do is always let your son know you are involved. The students I have who get into trouble, who give up in school, act out, are usually the ones whose parents are too busy for them or let their kids run the show. Teenagers don't want to admit it, but they do need discipline and guidelines.

He is trying to become his own person, and that process is seldom smooth, but I have lots of students who wish their parents cared or tried. Don't feel bad and hang in there.

 

[HollyBird24]

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You'd not make it in MY house...*tsk tsk*
Sounds like your parents have given up on you... that's very sad to hear..

If thats the case, I don't think you would either. If I'm going down, your coming with me!

They just don't try to control me. I'm not a wild child. I've gotten straight A's all through highschool and I work part time on the farm helping my dad. I know what they expect of me, and they know how far they can go. Theres a balance. As soon as one side gets tipped a bit too far we start fighting and shout at each other for days until the balance is settled again.