Should I be feeling mad?

[Robin'sBrood]

Derby, good for you for being a good wife to a man who has a not-so-good mother!

(How does a mom forget a child's, even a grown child's, birthday?

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[al6517]

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First off Welcome. Man did you pick the wrong thread to make your first post in LOL. What you need to know about these threads is it's all about the old Hens attempt at empowering themselfs and recruiting the upcoming firing squad. The guy is always the evil devil in these threads, it's not about who was right or wrong because they always tell us who that is. Try not to take it personally when they form these vigilante threads, they just want to know that they are right as rain and are just looking for others to tell them that all of their DH's are idiots. I am sure this poor fellow meant well and did his best, which as you know is never good enough. I think we should say a prayer for this poor unwitting guy for the wrath and scorn of the old hen society is about to ruin his day, or week as I suspect.

AL

 

[Beekissed]

I think, if you have a good husband~which are in serious short supply~and he actually came home for his birthday instead of going down to the local "place" after work, or over to his girlfriend's house and had to take that hot bath when he got home for another, and way more disgusting, reason besides just feeling work grungey...........

1. You should get down on your knees and thank him that you don't have to leave the house and your kids to hold down a stressful job that prevents you from doing normal chores like baking and laundry on a regular basis.

2. Kiss him so long and hard that he knows how much you appreciate that he works away from his home and family to provide you a comfortable, stay at home existence.

3. Understand that he is merely a man, and as such is flawed in the making anyway, and little things like this can be overlooked when viewing the larger picture described in the previous paragraphs.

4. If you are still mad, send him to my place....I'd throw in a full body massage and hot nasty lovin' on top of the dinner, cake, bath and clean house....... and send his mama a bouquet of roses myself! She deserves it for putting in the hard work and time it took to produce for you this good man!

Well....you did ask......

 

[fowltemptress]

This may not be a "man" thing. It may just depend on the relationship he has with you and his mother. Does he not communicate with her often? Are you pretty consistent in your loving, wifey ways?

My mother does the same thing based on her relationship to her children. I call her everyday just to chat, and I make her special cards every holiday that can take me up to a couple of hours to finish . . . I like making pop up cards and whatnot, so it can take a while. My brothers blame my mother for the divorce (because they were too young at the time to notice the abusive happenings of the marriage), so they refuse to speak to her for the most part. One of them text messaged her Happy Birthday this year, and she gushed about how thoughtful, how wonderful it was that he would think of her, while my card and cake I baked was all but forgotten.

People can tend to appreciate things more when they come from people who have set their expectations so low that any little thing they do becomes a wonder. It's sad, but it happens. I don't know if this could be an elpanation for your husbands behavior, but I'm throwing it out as a possibility to consider rather than, "Grr, men . . . so dense. Must punish."

 

[al6517]

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ROTFLMAO !!!! Bee do you realize you will be thrown to the wolfs for that comment LOL. you are at serious risk of being banned from the Old bitty Hen society, you totally missed the point of this thread. You were supposed to say you go girl!!! string him up!!! LOL, Let's get the possey formed quick before he get's away.
Thanks for a truly different take on this manhater thread hug's

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AL

 

[rodriguezpoultry]

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DARN tootin'! He could have gone out drinking with his beer buddies, but instead decided to spend his time with his family.

 

[Beekissed]

Guys, all the folks who know me will tell you that I am the President and Founder of the Local Chapter of the She-Woman's Man Hater's Club.....I even wrote the by-laws!!!

BUT.....telling someone like me some sob story about a GOOD man who has just been merely a little forgetful of saying thanks to his wife for something she should be doing each day for him anyway?

That dog won't hunt!!!!

Its like telling a blind man that you hate the view!

To all you ol' biddies who don't have to leave your children to scrabble for a livin' in the hard, cold world...

...to all you women who can sleep in if they want each morning...

...to all you women who have NOT waited for 23 years to see a dime of child support and have NOT watched your children cry over never, ever seeing their father....


... to all you women who even have someone to open that jar lid that is too tight~and you don't have to scrape the drunken man off the floor, or out of his girlfriend's house or drive him to yet another job he will quit in 2 wks....

.....I say~get a life....no, go get a job and buy a life!!!!

Shut yer whinin' and thank God each and every day that he has given you a faithful husband, provider, father for your children and a companion who treats you like the mother of his children!

OR....send him my way!

All the single mothers say, "AMEN!!!!" Let me hear ya? Can I get a "Hallelujah!!"???

 

[al6517]

Bee :

WOW!!! very powerful stuff, and very very well said. This women people doesn't need a hug she needs a TROPHY, your a winner.

This comes from a guy who waited forever for THE ONE, and when she showed up, I devoted my life to her. We were 8 mo into our lifes together when I went off to war, 2 yrs later when I returned not the same guy she was there!!. I never looked back, now that's a woman, and she get's 110% from me. The guy's are gonna kill me so let's keep this under wraps LOL LOL.

Good luck to Bee, sending the good cupid your way.

AL

 

[Beekissed]

Good husbands and wives are pearls of great price....they should be cherished and loved for all their worth in the short time you have on this earth.

Al, it sounds as if you have found that wisdom all on your own! Bless you for being able to recognize something good when you hold it in your own two hands.

 

[PurpleChicken]

Me and DH could be twin brothers. All too often we forget the women
in our lives who stand behind us.

Let all this pass and just forget about it. Yes, he was an insensitive
jerk, no doubt. But, as a member of his species, we are all subject to
being JERKS!!!!!


Ot sounds to me like you have a good grasp on the reality of all this.
If you need and insensative, arrogant, ignorant jerk to talk to then
you always have my PM address.

By the way I grew up in a town called Derby.