So, extraordinarily lonely..

[Momagain1]

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NO NO NO...that response..was from a so called FRIEND..NOT hubby.....I'm sorry I didnt make that clear..my fault!!!

hubby NEVER gets upset w/me when I vent about the stress I am under...he just tells me to hold on..a few more days etc...
we talk all the time about it..he's ok..he understands and really does try to help...

 

[RHRanch]

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NO NO NO...that resonse..was from a so called FRIEND..NOT hubby.....

hubby NEVER gets upset w/me when I vent about the stress I am under...

I would unfriend that "friend" with the nasty response on FB. He seems like a jerk, both things he said to you were venemous and resentful. Not the attitude of a friend.

 

[the Pollo Loco]

He tries his best to help me...he makes the bed the way I like it, he'll text me just to tell me he loves me etc..but it doesnt change the fact I am lonely..
tonight he got out of bed 20 min early and sat with me..and I cried the whole dang time...he just said hold on two more days honey..two more...

I can sympathize with this fellow... Sometimes men try their hardest... thinking they are doing what their spouses want them to do... that is, go to work, bring home the bacon if you will... work their tails off, thinking to themselves: this is my responsibility, I must provide, yadda yadda, yadda. And in the process forget the whole reason why we do this!!! And, that is, the the ones we love the most in this world... Having the best intentions, Sometimes we men just miss it... Hopefully you can see his true heart... communication is the key... wish you the best...

 

[redhen]

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NO NO NO...that response..was from a so called FRIEND..NOT hubby.....I'm sorry I didnt make that clear..my fault!!!

hubby NEVER gets upset w/me when I vent about the stress I am under...he just tells me to hold on..a few more days etc...
we talk all the time about it..he's ok..he understands and really does try to help...

Well, thats VERY good then!! I was also just going by some of your past threads involving situations with your husband that you wrote about in the past.
And YES, i would dump that "friend" What a JERK he was being to you!!

You dont deserve that...
With friends like that, you DONT need enemies...
Personally, i would have told him to piss off.... but you know how i am....

 

[Momagain1]

yeah..usually I post about this work thing...or somethign that irks me...

but honestly; my hubby would do ANYTHING in the world that I want...
he is trying to help our family by making a point to pay EVERY bill off as well as the house;w ithin 2 yrs so he can
quit his as he says "life sucking job" and help work the biz full time...

thats his and I's goal...

he is an amazing man...and we communicate a TON..except on the wk he works..just due to his schedule..
I adore him..he tries..really really hard..

 

[Beekissed]

My "friends" response to me in an email:

....i am not mean to you, i live in the real world...i also dont post my life on facebook for the world to read. however if i did i would have to accept any response i got on it. you want helpful..here it is..you have a life that allows you to work from home and be with your kids all the time, this is a life most parents would kill for. since i see my boy every wed and every other weekend..i have a hard time when someone complains about time with their kids....the helpful part is enjoy what you have, some of us wish we had it. its not harsh or mean, its just the truth...

I know this sounds like a mean response...but he is a guy and they tend to put it where the metal meets the road, so to speak. I must admit, everytime I read how hard SAHMs have it, I have the same reaction inside. I have always had to work, my husband left and has never paid child support. I never had the luxury of staying home with my kids, having a husband with a job that actually pays for my support or time on my hands to do things I would love to do. I guess it is all in how you look at things....the grass always seems greener on the other side, I imagine.

Maybe if you could look at the gifts you have been given with another's perspective, like your friend(no matter how blunt, he had a good point.), you might see your situation in a whole new light. I would have given anything to get to stay home and prepare healthy meals for my kids, clean the house properly, greet a great husband when he came home~no matter how late or infrequent, he does indeed come home~and be a proper wife and mother. As it was, I made the best of being both mom and dad and me and the kids lived a happy life despite being separated each day.

You can have my life any time you wish it...I have to deal with so-called adults all day and sometimes it is pure agony.

I keep thinking of getting home to the quiet of my house!

Yes, I'm lonely too, but for a whole other reason. If you have a good mate and healthy kids, your life is truly blessed and full of riches.

Your friend? Could be the best friend you have...at least he tells the cold, hard truth when everyone else sugar coats it for you. Fact is, life is just what you make it....I'm lonely and that isn't going to end soon but I am not going to let any present circumstance kill my joy and never have. Look around you for the blessings!​

 

[sumi]

You have us to talk to and we DO care

 

[mikensara]

maybe i shouldnt admit this on here but yeah from time to time I will leave the house by myself after dinner and leave hub to put the kids to bed just to go 20 minutes to the nearest mcdonalds for a mocha frappe just to escape everyone. Would you leave the kids with your hub if hes open to it just to give you a chance to get out of the house even for a hour sometimes is a mood lifter for me it gives me a chance to just have some quiet time and escape the choas that can feel so overwhelming for a stay at home mom.

I did take my youngest to a play group so he could socialize with his peers but i found that the moms there were younger than me and I felt suffocated because i was a veteran mom and had already survived the pre school years so i felt like i was the odd man out and had nothing in common with these moms.

You have a busy schedule but i think if you open yourself up and look to expand your horizons and make it your goal for yourself to leave the house and socialize. How about teaching a class on how to make your own sauce. At the girls school they sometimes have people come in and teach others in how to do this workshops and the bonus i have met other parents through these workshops. You have so many skills I wished we lived closer I would be asking you to come over for coffee and teach me some of your skills i would love to learn to can and make things in my home. The reality is I lack the motivation and stick to freezing because I tend to get sidetracked and would have a pot of exploding glass shards everywhere. I would need someone to keep me focused so i wouldnt be a danger to others in the kitchen

I think its hard for moms to make time for themselves to destress and unwind because they feel guilty about saying its time for me to do something that i enjoy.

 

[Momagain1]

beekissed; I do understand how grass is greener...

believe me; I've had my share of life where it was not good; I was a single parent who lived in an abuse shelter..I've been homeless etc..

I'm more than "just" a SAHM..I homeschool, I run a FT biz on top of being a SAHM, I have a older DD who has a mental issue; who doesnt really have a place
to live; she just shacks up w/her boyfriend & family right now where the mom threatens to throw her out every other wk..last yr she was suicidal..my mom is dying from heart
failure...

believe it or not; I'd RATHER be working outside the home...and believe it or not; my husband would rather stay at home...I'm not like this all of the time; but just SOMETIMES life
gets me down..and unfortunately yesterday was one of them...
We made the choice of me staying home with our children after our oldest was sexually abused at a daycare and my husband had a better JOB than I did at the time...so we made
the choice for me to do that..and do it we will...until our children are out of school..I will be here to make sure they are taken care of..period..its just something we are choosing to do.

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mikensara:

we live 30 min from the nearest town to get "out"..but yes; he is COMPLETELY open to when the week he is home to let me go do what I need to do; but unfortunately, even though
he is home, doesnt stop my SAHM, teacher and biz requirements ya know? so sometimes I catch up on sleep...

I completely know I'm blessed...but yes...I suffer sometimes from loneliness and thats OK...it happens right?

 

[I have WHAT in my yard?]

You sound depressed. You're entitled to be depressed every now and again. Maybe its a depression that needs medical help. Maybe not.

Maybe you just had a bad day. Maybe you're having a hormone surge. Maybe it needs fixing maybe it just needs a moment of sisterly sympathy.

We've all been there. You are not alone. I've had bad days and I have had depression. Sometimes on-line support is good for the short term fix.