My "friends" response to me in an email:
....i am not mean to you, i live in the real world...i also dont post my life on facebook for the world to read. however if i did i would have to accept any response i got on it. you want helpful..here it is..you have a life that allows you to work from home and be with your kids all the time, this is a life most parents would kill for. since i see my boy every wed and every other weekend..i have a hard time when someone complains about time with their kids....the helpful part is enjoy what you have, some of us wish we had it. its not harsh or mean, its just the truth...
I know this sounds like a mean response...but he is a guy and they tend to put it where the metal meets the road, so to speak. I must admit, everytime I read how hard SAHMs have it, I have the same reaction inside. I have always had to work, my husband left and has never paid child support. I never had the luxury of staying home with my kids, having a husband with a job that actually pays for my support or time on my hands to do things I would love to do. I guess it is all in how you look at things....the grass always seems greener on the other side, I imagine.
Maybe if you could look at the gifts you have been given with another's perspective, like your friend(no matter how blunt, he had a good point.), you might see your situation in a whole new light. I would have given anything to get to stay home and prepare healthy meals for my kids, clean the house properly, greet a great husband when he came home~no matter how late or infrequent, he does indeed come home~and be a proper wife and mother. As it was, I made the best of being both mom and dad and me and the kids lived a happy life despite being separated each day.
You can have my life any time you wish it...I have to deal with so-called adults all day and sometimes it is pure agony.
I keep thinking of getting home to the quiet of my house!
Yes, I'm lonely too, but for a whole other reason. If you have a good mate and healthy kids, your life is truly blessed and full of riches.
Your friend? Could be the best friend you have...at least he tells the cold, hard truth when everyone else sugar coats it for you. Fact is, life is just what you make it....I'm lonely and that isn't going to end soon but I am not going to let any present circumstance kill my joy and never have. Look around you for the blessings!
