So many happily married signature lines :)

[saddina]

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I do so love when people agree with me.....

 

[robbdebbie]

Thanks everyone for all of the responses. I would say our marriage is going through a "rough" spot. Nothing major, I would never get divorced or anything, but we just "lost that loving feeling" so to say. We recently lost a baby, and had a new baby within 1.5 yrs, not to mention finances, house remodeling, and we run our own business together that I haven't been able to help with much. I know we both could act nicer to eachother, and I really have enjoyed reading about all the happy people. I guess maybe it gives me a little more motivation to do better. I am pretty isolated, and I am sure more than a little depressed which doesn't really relate into me being such a good wife.

 

[debilorrah]

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My advice to you is to sit down and really discover what it is about him that you love, that you can't live without. The answer is there.

 

[Chicky Tocks]

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Perfect!!! And while you're at it, let's build you another chicken coop!

I've been with my DH for 15 years. Yes, the newness wears off. I don't get those butterflies anymore and I'm sure he doesn't either, but we're so comfortable with each other. I've trained him and he's trained me and while we do occasionally bark and growl at each other, we never go to sleep without the makeup smooch and I love you. To be totally honest, he can easily get on my last nerve, he's OCD and I'm ADD. That's quite the opposite of each other I tell ya, and it leads to lots of head butting. But when the day is done, we're still crazy about each other and I wouldn't trade him for David Hasselhoff.

We're just good for each other.

 

[ChooksChick]

I think it has also to do with the person's point-of-view! I'm an optimist. I found a silver lining in every bad thing life has thrown at me, and I always will. It makes him nuts sometimes, but I won't stop. House burned down? Well, we needed new furniture anyway, and the insurance was replacement value! All the pets made it okay, and we weren't home! Awesome!

He's my best friend. When something happens that sucks, or is funny, or makes me furious (and I'm a soap-box kind of girl, so a lot of things get me worked up) I want to tell HIM. He's the one I go to first. We finish each other's sentences. He can start to open his mouth and I answer the unasked question- and vice-versa.

He will show up with something I didn't yet know I needed, and make an improvement in my life in some small, ridiculous way, but it's an act of love, and I know it.

He puts up with a yard full of chicken poop and dirt, with a few scrawny blades of grass, but he's a golf course superintendent!! This guy keeps an entire course immaculate and lush, each blade polished and clean...all for me, he ignores our desolate chicken yard.

He's a wonderful friend and father, and I couldn't ever state how much he means to me, after 17 years together- a signature line couldn't show jack! He respects me and supports everything I do.

He stinks, snores, whines and gets grumpy. He won't ever stop throwing clothes NEXT to the hamper. He walks in the house with muddy shoes all day long, and I just know he does dishes to make up for it. We're broke, stressed and struggling, but it's as a team who work as one, so I think of this as bliss.

 

[saddina]

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Oh honey I can honestly say that after being married 10 years, about 1/3rd of that was not good times. We lost a baby too, and that was the worst thing. We're both pratical people, so losing a baby turned into long discussions on bad genes and herditary, instead of loving and supporting each other. I can honetly say I have made huge mistakes and small unkindnesses that a man who loved me less would've left over. Many times stubborness kept us married, as we'd both decided we would get through anything to keep our boys' family intact. It's certainly not all daffodills and roses, but there's no one else who would do this with me.

 

[PlymouthRocker]

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I feel bad for your situation here, and understand it very well. I find there are multiple ways to approach your situation, which just may be depression from the loss of your baby and the stress of a new baby. These are serious losses - and even a lovely baby can mean a loss of couple time and personal time. It's hard to adjust.

I always say, "Women need women." We do. We need someone to talk to and let us know we aren't unsuccessful wives and mothers - we are just normal. You may need to talk to a counselor too. Do you have a mother's group you could attend? Getting unisolated is a great idea for you.

One last thing: my husband wants my respect more than he wants my love. I want his love more than I want anything else. Sometimes we give each other what we want, not what the other one wants. Start with something little each day to show him your respect, and tell him each day that you are proud to be his wife.

Blessings,
Stacey

 

[Rebel Rooster]

This past July 28th was year 24 that I've been married to my wife. We've raised 2 wonderful children, a daughter 23 and a son 21.
A foundation built on faith in our Creator is most important. If we remember what Jesus told the rich young ruler: "The 2 most important commandments are these; Love the Lord your God with all of your heart, soul, mind & strength, and love your neighbor as yourself." If we live by these, then the needs of our spouse will always be more important to us than our own needs. After a terrible accident at work back on Oct. 10th 2000, I became permanently disabled. And after 2 knee surgeries and a home regiment of physical therepy (my wife is a CNA),,, you will find out just how much a woman can love her husband! I'm always trying to find ways to help suppport my family. We've started what could be considered a small poultry farm here at home, (this was my idea! My wife really loves and supports me!) We now have over 150 chickens, loads of quail, some young pheasants as well! I've built my own incubators and guess what! They work! Too good according to my wifey! So... "What makes it work so good?? It's Faith, Lots of Love, and a dumptruck load of patience... With these, you can work thru anything baby!!

 

[hikerchick]

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Hey it's Bikerchick again!!

bashing marriages AGAIN!! So sorry you had it rough but, please don't accuse those who ARE happily married of faking it to make you feel bad and ourselves look good.. how ludicrous.

eta: nothing is perfect. Im not saying my marriage is and I don't think most people on here are saying their marriage is but that doesn't mean you cannot be madly in love with your spouse and just be happy.

Why do you call me Bikerchick? Is there some hidden insult there that I am not getting?

I don't recall saying I had it rough. Are you saying there are NO people out there pretending that there is no trouble in paradise? Everyone who claims to be blissfully happy really is?

I have a bridge I would like to sell you.

And by the way- I believe I am entitled to express my opinions on marriage the same as you are. So just leave me alone.

 

[debilorrah]

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Hey it's Bikerchick again!!

bashing marriages AGAIN!! So sorry you had it rough but, please don't accuse those who ARE happily married of faking it to make you feel bad and ourselves look good.. how ludicrous.

eta: nothing is perfect. Im not saying my marriage is and I don't think most people on here are saying their marriage is but that doesn't mean you cannot be madly in love with your spouse and just be happy.

Why do you call me Bikerchick? Is there some hidden insult there that I am not getting?

I don't recall saying I had it rough. Are you saying there are NO people out there pretending that there is no trouble in paradise? Everyone who claims to be blissfully happy really is?

I have a bridge I would like to sell you.

And by the way- I believe I am entitled to express my opinions on marriage the same as you are. So just leave me alone.