So, would you be offended, POed or what?

[turney31]

Sorry but you won't like my opinion much. Why would you go where you are not wanted? If you go now what you will create for him is a long time of ribbing from his buddies! Whipped! I believe hard working men deserve guy time. Isn't he a step father? Maybe he needs a little break . I was divorced with 3 children and married a man who had no children. I know there were times when he looked kinda like this

about something the kids would do. A little hunting, fishing, guy time and he was back in the trenches with me. Cut him some slack If it turns into an all the time thing then

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Micah

 

[Boyd]

sounds like he was guilted into having you come along

The fact he lied means (at least to me) that he isn't very quick on his feet and without tact. He just wanted some guy time to recharge his batteries. If you really feel bad about being excluded then go. But at this point, I'd cut him some slack. A cornered animal tends to act dumb, and he only proved that when you kept up on him about where/when/who etc.

Don't be surprised that he feels a little sore about you not trusting him enough about splitting with his buddies without you. Not passing judgement or saying either is right or wrong, but I am just giving you a guys perspective.

Hope it all works out for you either way!

 

[aprophet]

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I was going to say something like this but someone always says it better then me LOL In my group of pals I am one of the old ones . i doubt any of the youngins would accuse me of being whipped but they sure do tease / rib each other something fierce about who can do what without getting their wife's permission etc etc . My wife does a non profit here called newborns in need to me it is much like a hen party when they need a big strong man to do something they come get me

until then she really enjoys it when she gets to be with her pals at the hen party I don,t enjoy that near as much as being in the woods in the marshs/bogs we live around.

May the Creator grant peace between the two of you.

 

[texasgal]

I'm with Boyd on this one all the way.

Maybe he just wants time with his buds .. And judging by your reaction, I can understand why he didn't just say "Honey, we are just having a guys night out - no ladies."

And if the reaction is too much, NEXT time he might consider making up another lie so he doesn't have to go through this confrontation again. Or that might be why he lied this time .. ?

I'm all for:

Let the boy go play with his boys.

Rent a good movie, buy some good wine, invite a good girlfriend over and RELAX without him.

I ENJOY my quiet time when DH takes those rare occasions to go play with the boys.

 

[patnjess]

alright here is my opinion. First of all don't stress about this. If he is lying and cheating, "his sin will find him out" always does.

Now from his perspective....He probably doesn't want you there, you know all those guys will call him whipped and everything else if his girl follows him out there.
STressing him out will only drive him away.
I have been married before he cheated, and I didn't stress, I just happened to find out. My husband now, I let him do what he's gotta do, and I will find everything out, it just works that way. He's lied and I didn't give him a hard time when I thought he was lying (it was over stupid stuff), but guess what I confront him when the truth comes out.

Let me again say, just him being with his buddies is not him cheating. Again, he probably didn't want to hurt you or have you be mad at his friends. I know I heard my husband call some of his friends P- whipped before, when their girls weren't cooperating.

so for me, I would not bring it up, and have a good time on my own, with or without the kids. If he does bad you will find out.

 

[Katy]

I've never minded when my husband wanted to go have some guy time fishing, camping or just a BBQ with some of his buddies. I just don't see anything wrong with it. There are times I want to go have lunch with the girls, and I'm sorry but I really don't want him tagging along or feeling like he has to follow me to spy on me. I do think he should have just told you up front this was going to be a guy outing rather than not telling you the truth right away, but he probably knew what your reaction would be and was trying to avoid that. Either you trust the person you're with enough to feel like you don't have to be together 24/7 or you don't....and then my question to you is why be with someone you don't trust? I've been married for going on 37 years....to the same guy.....so we must be doing something right.

 

[schellie69]

I was married to someone who lied about everything, I divorced him and married a man who I can talk to about anything, we are best friends first. a couple of weeks ago, him and our son-in-law and 2 friends went to the bar to hear another friend play in a band I stayed home took a hot bubble bath read played on the computer and did my own thing we do things as a couple but also do things as individuals we trust each other that is the first thing if there is no trust the relationship won't work. I would stay home if you have the weekend to yourself pamper your self , get a home spa kit give your self a pedicure and manicure and take a bubble bath rent a girl movie and just relax work on your projects that you have just have some me time. call a couple of girlfriends over for a girls night. I know as a mother of 4 I loved the me time when I could get it. and some time men just need to be with other men it is just a time to recharge themselves. I would talk to him and tell him you would rather he had just said I need a time out instead of lying tell him to be honest with you the let it go and enjoy your weekend. and let him have his. If there is more to the story you will find out the truth comes out. just my 2 cents...

 

[Backyard_Chicken_rancher]

Allow me to start with I'm a 100% male and may get My member shiped taken away for teelling all you women this but here it goes.

WE ARE MEN.......we can't come up with a great exuse to tell you that your staying home so I can go and hang with the guys drink beer,cuss,spit,be a man when we are home with you we have to be loving and caring and honestly we get a lil tired of not being a MAN *beating chest like Tarzan* *grunt grunt grunt* so we need time to be alone with the guys and beat our chest besides I am sure he feels the same way I would if I brought my wife with me the guys are all drinking and looking at my hot wife saying things or asking things I don't wanna have to fight with any of them over that so just easier to not take her(you) with.
Besides how can we men B***H about you women if your standing there right beside us.
In short it is a camping trip with the guys and he doesn't want to be the wuss that had to bring the Ol'lady cause she don't trust him alone (like a mom with the son).

I hope this helps you understand a bit better about us men. now need to go place my cohonies back in my wifes purse where she says they belong....lil does she know I have a spare set hidden from her

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The best thing any of you women can do is to rent Tim Allens stand up *early years* called Men are Pigs if you really want to learn about us men and how we think.

I hope this helps you out and everything turns out alright for you both.
Good luck

 

[toletiquesbysam]

Sorry, I'm with the BF on this one, let him go, tell him to have a great time! Even couples/married or not need their ALONE time away from their SO once in a while!

 

[horsejody]

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You said it, sister! I'm guessing that there's gonna be strippers at that party. You don't have to follow him. Just wait until after the party and ask Boyd cuz I'll bet he's gonna be there. Beat it out of Boyd if you have to.