So, would you be offended, POed or what?

[patnjess]

ya total guy but agree.

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[patnjess]

alright gotta respectfully say WHATEVER!!! If he were cheating it would be more then once, and it would be all the time. He would be sneaking all the time, phone calls late night, not being at work! BELIEVE me I have lived it, he was such a male whore. I still didn't say anything until I had proof, then bam!

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You said it, sister! I'm guessing that there's gonna be strippers at that party. You don't have to follow him. Just wait until after the party and ask Boyd cuz I'll bet he's gonna be there. Beat it out of Boyd if you have to.

 

[horsejody]

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I didn't say he was having an affair. I said that he and Boyd (and probably Backyard_Chicken_rancher) are going to watch strippers at a party.

 

[Chickenmaven]

MomtoSyd&Emma :

No way would I go, you are only being invited because you guilted him, I wouldnt want to be there if that was the case, if he REALLY wanted you there, you would of been the first person he invited.

Agreed! Also, who wants to sit around the fire with a passle of drunk dudes?

If your BF had simply told you his plans, "Hey, I am going to do X, next weekend" would you have said, "Okay, honey, have fun"?
I didn't think so...

I think your BF was tip-toeing around you, because he was afraid you'd *make him* stay home or take you with. Was this a no-win situation for him?​

 

[SarahFair]

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Agreed! Also, who wants to sit around the fire with a passle of drunk dudes?

If your BF had simply told you his plans, "Hey, I am going to do X, next weekend" would you have said, "Okay, honey, have fun"?
I didn't think so...

I think your BF was tip-toeing around you, because he was afraid you'd *make him* stay home or take you with. Was this a no-win situation for him?

I know Im that way a lot. Im sorry... I just dont want to stay cooped up in the house when youre my only friend left and you sound like you are about to have TONS of fun!
Staying home and painting my toenails or taking a bubble bath sounds awful to me! But then again the only time I ever get to leave the house is to take my son to school... So why in the world would I want to stay here even more!?
I am more of a tomboy so usually whatever man stuff my SO is doing I want to do it as well. I get left behind on hunting weekends and such (which really hurts my feelings cause Ive only been 1x and I have wanted to go since I was single diget age..) and it really sucks.

So I know how you feel. It stinks when you get the left behind and all you have to do is stare at a wall in a quiet house.

 

[horsejody]

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Agreed! Also, who wants to sit around the fire with a passle of drunk dudes?

If your BF had simply told you his plans, "Hey, I am going to do X, next weekend" would you have said, "Okay, honey, have fun"?
I didn't think so...

I think your BF was tip-toeing around you, because he was afraid you'd *make him* stay home or take you with. Was this a no-win situation for him?

I know Im that way a lot. Im sorry... I just dont want to stay cooped up in the house when youre my only friend left and you sound like you are about to have TONS of fun!
Staying home and painting my toenails or taking a bubble bath sounds awful to me! But then again the only time I ever get to leave the house is to take my son to school... So why in the world would I want to stay here even more!?
I am more of a tomboy so usually whatever man stuff my SO is doing I want to do it as well. I get left behind on hunting weekends and such (which really hurts my feelings cause Ive only been 1x and I have wanted to go since I was single diget age..) and it really sucks.

So I know how you feel. It stinks when you get the left behind and all you have to do is stare at a wall in a quiet house.

If you want to go hunting, go. You don't need his permission. You don't need him to take you. Go on your own. Go with other friends. You are a family, and he can watch the kids. Get out and have some fun.

 

[SarahFair]

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I know Im that way a lot. Im sorry... I just dont want to stay cooped up in the house when youre my only friend left and you sound like you are about to have TONS of fun!
Staying home and painting my toenails or taking a bubble bath sounds awful to me! But then again the only time I ever get to leave the house is to take my son to school... So why in the world would I want to stay here even more!?
I am more of a tomboy so usually whatever man stuff my SO is doing I want to do it as well. I get left behind on hunting weekends and such (which really hurts my feelings cause Ive only been 1x and I have wanted to go since I was single diget age..) and it really sucks.

So I know how you feel. It stinks when you get the left behind and all you have to do is stare at a wall in a quiet house.

If you want to go hunting, go. You don't need his permission. You don't need him to take you. Go on your own. Go with other friends. You are a family, and he can watch the kids. Get out and have some fun.

No one I know goes.. Only him. Plus I dont have a gun

 

[horsejody]

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Buy a gun and join a gun club.

 

[EweSheep]

I would say let the guy go to camping and knock himself silly!

Hubby wanted to go on a vacation to WV and I told him, go ahead and have fun! We saved up enough money which it can not be more than his whole two weeks paycheck. He did go and had fun but all the while, he missed me and DD BADLY! He said this time he isn't going without his family next year, that is, if we can afford it. Also our DD is in school so taking five days off from school isn't going to benefit us when we are paying for her education out of our own pockets.

We IM'ed each other for three nights and he enjoyed himself. When he got back, he told me everything and I do not have any reason to NOT to trust him because there isn't anything I would doubt him.

In the meantime, FOR ME, my father and mother and I built a front wooden deck porch, painted the railings black and boy, did we have fun and I was pleased as punch the way it turned out. Put up the green shutters and tore out the rotted wood foundation....all those things that hubby would have done but I save him the time and hassle, my birthday gift from my parents and making the house look realllllllllllly nice! Now that WAS girl time for me!

From where he is coming from, seeing almost most of his friends being divorced, witnessing nasty fights among people, he does not see any reason to cheat and if he did, oh it will be very very devastating to him and his marriage, that is for sure. He knows that I do not tolerate cheating either in person or online. He would have his head in a square hole that he is trying to get out of would be a very long time to escape from. We are the only family that loves him and losing that, he has NOTHING. So it is not worth for him to do it and saw no need for cheating.

For those who has to "hang" around the man 24/7 all the time sure got an emotional hangups and a great deal of insecurity going on.

 

[Boyd]

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You said it, sister! I'm guessing that there's gonna be strippers at that party. You don't have to follow him. Just wait until after the party and ask Boyd cuz I'll bet he's gonna be there. Beat it out of Boyd if you have to.

hahaha I'll be in dallas in a couple short weeks, so

Do I hit the clubs like that when I am out alone and on vacation? Sure. BTW, I doubt there will be strippers involved. Camping... bugs, ladies dancing around with scant clothing = poison ivy in the making... Not a good idea. Doubt that'll happen, but what if that's the worst?