Somewhat personal question for parents...

[Frozen Feathers]

Thanks all...your comments make me feel better!

I honestly don't know what'd I'd do if I had no way of reining her in.

 

[helmstead]

I don't understand the new parenting that revolves around a child getting everything they want, when they want, and getting away with bad behavior. My daughter understands time outs, and respects the word no (well, most of the time) and she is also 2 1/2.

This scenario is why I tend to avoid Gymboree, etc. I don't want some other kid being rude to her and the parent standing haplessly 10 feet away saying that's just what kids do. I also don't like screaming kids to influence my daughter's behavior.

 

[CarriBrown]

Bravo for teaching your daughter right from wrong. She is obviously learning from and respecting the "naughty spot", so phewy on what those other moms say. Just wait until that lady's 2 year old is a screaming 5 year old that can't be taken anywhere!!

 

[herechickchick]

It is never to young to discipline a child, they need boundaries and they need to know that YOU are in charge. I think what you did was great and I applaud you! I think the moms reaction and statement "that it did not work with her child" is the reason that so many children today are horrible. I came from a home where if we acted up my mom spanked the tar out of us. Now that was years ago and it does not work for all situations but in my opinion many kids today need a good spanking and these goofy parents need to be smacked in the head. Oh by the way I love my mom VERY much and we are VERY close so don't be afraid to be the boss. Good Luck and I would get out of that play group and find another they sound a little crazy.

 

[Frozen Feathers]

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Well, to be honest I've only spanked her once and I hope to never do it again. We live on a very fast road, and one day this past spring, she thought it would be funny to run off. She ran up the driveway towards the road and I was screaming stop! Of course she was just laughing. Well I just about had a heart attack but I caught her just about 10 feet from the road. I was so angry and scared too death, that I lost control and I just spanked her 3 times on the butt. I immediately felt so bad and so upset.

Just to see the look on her face after I did that, she didn't know why I did it. It came out of anger and she was scared of me. I don't want her to be scared of me, I want her to respect my rules. I hope I never lose it like that again, because I don't think it taught her anything but to be scared. JMHO

 

[luvzmybabz]

We just got home from my son's 18month well child check up the doc saw a bite bruise from his cousin (our 2 year old nephew living with us) and we discussed that the 2 and 4 year old gets time outs and she looked at my like I was crazy and said if my 18 month old is biting then it is time he learned time out and that it is easier to nip bad behavior in the bud early and get the bluff on them.

Kasi

 

[brooster]

its hard to see the look on her face, but she probably has not done anything that horrible since. just dont lose too much control.

 

[@migocontodos]

I don't think 2 years old is to young to begin teaching dicipline. I think it's a good move. However, I to agree that 15 minutes in time out is to long for a 2 year old. In 15 minutes, their little mind is racing so much they have fotten why they are there.
Spanking...my mother spanked us, and so far I nor my siblings have been to jail or robbed a bank..etc etc...Yet, my wife is 100% apposed to spanking because she believes children learn from example and if she hits the kid, then the kid believes it's okay to hit others. Our kids are 15 and 18 and they argue and binker...but I've never seen one look like they were to hit the other.
So, I'm not opposed to spanking, just thankful it's not been needed here!

 

[plester01]

I have raised 2 boys ages 23 and 15. Time out is good at that age as long as it is not in their room. In there they can play or destroy things. I used either a time out chair or a time out corner. They stayed in there 1 minute for each year of their age until they got much older anyway. I do agree with spanking in moderation. I have tried it both ways spanking and not spanking. My oldest son was spanked and he turned out to be a wonderful, caring, responsible man. My younger son we did not spank (mostly because of peer preasure) and even thought he is just 15 we have more problems with him than the first. Such as disrespect, spoiled, problems in school, ect. The only other difference with my boys is that the younger one is a A student where as my older one struggled more C student.

Good luck with your daughter. I thing you will be a great mom and she will grow up to make your proud!!!

 

[gritsar]

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IMHO, that's exactly the sort of situation spankings are for. My kids got the times out, privelages revoked, etc., but if they did something that threatened their wellbeing/safety or the wellbeing/safety of someone else, it was spanking time. That's serious business, not the same as pitching a temper tantrum. I always made sure that the initial crisis was over before I spanked, to allow myself time to cool off. And a spanking involved a few swats on the rear end, not a belt and nowhere else on the body.