Son keeps threatening suicide

[redhen]

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Yes only love can mend a broken heart. get him dating.

I agree..
I know that for myself..when i have had a hard break-up and feel down in the dumps..
The best thing for me is to find another guy to occupy my time and mind.
Even if its just a friend... its "someone" to take my mind off of things.
It beats sitting at home and wallowing in self-pity.

He still needs to go and get professional help and be evaluated though. Asap..

I also wanted to add.. not ALL depression is a mental disease.. some depression is situational. Such as your wife leaving you and was cheating with another man. That would make anyone depressed for a bit.
But...If it is an actual chemical brain depression.. then he does need meds to help him get out of it.

 

[Cindiloohoo]

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It doesn't sound like this guy has a disease. Diseases don't come and go. Mental illness is a disease, but getting depressed when things are quite honestly crap in his life...not a disease. That was my point.

If he had a history of mental illness/suicide attempts etc. then yes, I would agree. People who aren't chronically mentally disturbed go through some severe depression too. This sounds like the case. I don't think he needs medication, just space, and time to settle down. Worrying too much over him is going to add stress on him and he has enough of that already. If he goes to talk with a counselor to sort out his feelings, fine, but to medicate him and act like it's crazy to want to be done with life, which for him is crap at the moment...not helpful IMO. I'd be more worried he'd have a heart attack from all the stress, rather than actually following through with what he is saying he feels. It's normal to get so down when your whole world is turned upside down. He's very obviously crushed by the things he has had happen that he has no control over. He just needs to recognize he has no control over it, and move on the best way he can. Suicide aint the best way, he'll come around.

As far as a girlfriend...lol!! Uh...no. Won't that just add to his confusion?! He has a little girl, he should be focusing on her...let that be his little "girlfriend" for now. Daddy "dates" might be a way to bring him around. It'll give him something to do, and help them become closer...even if it's just taking her to McDonalds for an hour or so and letting her play. Little girls love their daddies, unconditionally. He could use a good dose of that it seems.

 

[Cindiloohoo]

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You said it better than I did

 

[arabianequine]

He only has his daughter if I heard right on weekends or every other weekend. Needs something else to do. Does not have to date he can just be friends or go out with friends to do things.

 

[joebryant]

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And I have to disagree with your presumptions in spite of your not knowing all the facts.
He has a situation with no solution other than having the will to put it behind him, and the sooner that he can get on with that the better. There are plenty of women who would/could/should appreciate a guy who'd work two jobs to support his family. She/they could help to console him while he makes plans to divorce the one who betrayed him, fight for custody of his daughter, and hope to win child support from his future ex; that way she'll have to get off her back long enough to get a job to help pay the bills that have accumulated and pay child support for her daughter's maintenance. You can be SURE that she's making plans to take him to the cleaners and sticking him with all the unpaid bills; he needs to strike first and HARD.

ETA He also needs to tell her that all telephone conversations are being recorded (and do so). If she doesn't like that, she is to put everything in writing.