Stop Dressing Your Daughter Like A...

[Rhett&SarahsMom]

"I have one other recommendation: DO NOT take your daughters shopping!!!

You can't do this forever, but you can probably get away with it from ages 6 to 10 or 12."

Seriously?

I would never do that. I have been taking my daughter shopping for her own clothes since she was old enough to have an opinion about it.
Heck she has nixed some things I have picked up. And over all been right about it.(when I am foolish enough to not listen to her)
It is helping HER learn to make good choices about clothes and everything else.
She is extremely independent and I foster that any time I can. But I also GUIDE her. She makes smart choices. She knows what is and is not allowed.
I have had to send her back to "re dress" now and again. But never because she was dressed inappropriately for anything but the weather or the holiday ie red Christmas outfit on Easter.

When she was 2 I took her to KMart. She saw a Zoe sweat shirt she wanted. Then saw a Big Bird one. I told her(A 2 YEAR OLD) that she could have ONE sweat shirt and that she had to decide which she wanted. She looked at both and then said "Zoe" I put the Big Bird one back and got no fussing from her at all. And it has continued til this day. She owns spaghetti strap tops. She wears them under other shirts. Or will wear them during the hot days of summer to the park or the campgrounds. If I tell her no when she picks up something I wont let her wear she smiles and tells me she was "joking" with or "teasing" me.

I dont worry about her ability to make good choices about things.
She knows the "rules" She knows how her dad and I feel about things.
I have been telling her since she was an infant only days old, that smoking is gross. Drugs are bad and drinking excessively is wrong. I point out the girls dressed like hoochies and tell her how trampy they look. I point out the boys with their pants hanging down to their knees and tell her how trashy and inappropriate that is. And I know she hears me and has been taking it in.She will whisper to me when we are out about the people she sees doing any of the above.

You dont have to avoid shopping. You just have to teach them as you go

BTW. I have never had a problem finding appropriate shoes either. Where do you all shop? Payless has decent shoes as does Target and Sears. Or is my area really NOT that bad? Or being cheap and not going to the mall is saving us all the grief and slutty clothing.

 

[Mom 2em All]

Rhett&SarahsMom :

BTW. I have never had a problem finding appropriate shoes either. Where do you all shop? Payless has decent shoes as does Target and Sears. Or is my area really NOT that bad? Or being cheap and not going to the mall is saving us all the grief and slutty clothing.

Payless was the place tha I threw the biggest tantrum with the shoes for my toddler-they did not have one pair of dress shoes for sunday school or Easter Sunday for my toddler to wear that did not have a heel on them. Babies do not belong in heels, period.
I let them know I was not happy with their shoe choices, and by the looks of what they carried- I am sure I must be the only one not happy with it. Even now, my daughter wears a size seven shoe- there are no dress shoes at Payless that are fashionable and at the same time- do not have hoochie heels.​

 

[gudrin]

My daughter is two, and I've been rather careful about how she is dressed. I will admit she did have a two-piece swimsuit that was given to us, but she only used it here at home. I do some sewing for her. I use the Kwik Sew books that my neighbor lent me. Kwik Sew
They have a lot of patterns that you copy onto tracing paper (freezer paper for me!) and then use them to cut out. You can also adapt them in many different ways to get different types of clothes out of them. Just talking about this makes me realize that I have some sewing to do yet! I have material sitting here for a pair of bib overalls and one for a skirt with suspenders. Hmm...Nap time should be longer today...

Otherwise all of my daughter's clothes have been given to us by people who have the same thoughts about dressing children that we do. I just recently received a big tub of clothes from one source, and all of them are still in good repair and cover well. I'm very thankful for that!

Beth

 

[NoelTate]

I agree completely with the article. I have been complaining about how slutty kids clothes look for a couple of years now. What's wrong with teaching kids to dress modestly and act decently? What's wrong with instilling a little self-respect for the person you are on the inside, not for the attention your body can get you? I gotta write a letter to the lady who wrote that article.
As a high school teacher, I see those sort of clothes all the time. Luckily, we have uniforms in Mobile, but I still warn my girls not to come in my room or show up for one of my field trips dressed like a hoochie mama or a hooker off the street corner. They look at me like I am crazy, but they certainly remember it! lol

 

[arabookworm]

theres a bigger except of this story on google books by the way.

and if you think its hard to find non-skanky clothes for a 7 year old, think about how hard it is when you move on to the juniors section. several of my shirts are actually dresses, but they were so short I figured they wouldn't look out of place over a pair of jeans.