stupid assumptions people make about others

[perchie.girl]

Indeed ! Interesting story. Father bailed when he was very young. Went 2 years to community college, 2 years to a major school, law school - all on his own dime, passed bar on first try. He's had to be a 'control freak' to accomplish all of that. We'll work on lowering the level of seriousness. The dog did like him - that's a good sign.

Yep that was my acid test when I was dating.... If the dog liked him he was a go.... If the dog didnt like him he was a give him a second chance... if the dog still didnt like him... ON to another.

 

[perchie.girl]

Indeed ! Interesting story. Father bailed when he was very young. Went 2 years to community college, 2 years to a major school, law school - all on his own dime, passed bar on first try. He's had to be a 'control freak' to accomplish all of that. We'll work on lowering the level of seriousness. The dog did like him - that's a good sign.

Sounds like a keeper.... and Brilliant to boot...

 

[perchie.girl]

I LOVE this thread so glad I found it, agree totally with person who posted about being "too thin" I've been horriblely thin my whole life, when I was 14 they finally diagnosed me as a Juv Insulin Dept Diabetic who knows how long I went undiagnosed. My mother is a type 2 diabetic so we already ate healthy at our home. I thought things would get better for me after they got me on insulin but nope turns out it wasn't just the diabetes that kept my weight so low I also have a metalized that is 5 times too fast for my body. So yea I have heard it all eat more, you Can't be a diabetic you are too thin, No I didn't bring you a diet soda you are too thin I brought you a good natural o' coke to get some weight on you, I KNOW you said you didn't want any dessert to be polite since you are soo thin but I cut you this huge piece cause a dessert once and in while won't hurt you. Yea so finally hit my mid 30s and my condition corrected itself soo happy that I no longer get a bruise for a month when I touch my arm to door. But yea the years and years of hearing all these things plays hell with your frame of mind. So giving out Free Hugs and also have an open ear for anyone needing to vent or just be reminded you all ARE beautiful NO MATTER WHAT anyone said.
Our 17yr (daughter) was born a son also just came out to my hubby and I a couple months ago that she feels that she is a girl in a boy body. Sadly when my blood family was told this we got tons of THAT CAN'T BE right he Never played with dolls, wanted to rock a baby or dress up..ect and we told my family a simple statement that regardless of what you THINK or Feel about this ISN'T open for discussion you can either love her as much and in the same way you loved "him" and treat her as a granddaughter just as you treated him as a grandson or you can have no place in her life your choice.

we love our children unconditionally.... thats how it should be...

 

[oldrooster]

I wear my Air Force Veteran hat a lot. Several times I have had people tell me to thank my husband for his service. I've usually replied that I'll let him know (He's a Navy Submarine vet) but that the hat I was wearing is mine... and I get a shocked look.

Yes, women can and still serve in the military!!!

when I was about 8 I was watching TV and asked mu parents because ALL the toys I say where men in military and the show had WACS and WAVES on it they chuckled and told me yea thy served, and told me they figured I already knew by us watching MASH since I was 3 or so........

 

[oldrooster]

I have ADHD and some of my teachers think that they know better than my psychiatrist on what dosage of medicine I should be on.

Yep I have family members whom think they know more about all medical problems than any doctor, and most of them were lucky to get a high school diploma.

 

[Brahma Chicken5000]

Yep I have family members whom think they know more about all medical problems than any doctor, and most of them were lucky to get a high school diploma.

I’ve been seeing this psychiatrist for the past 6 years and I’m sure he knows what he’s doing. But even when I tell my teachers this, some of them are like “maybe you should ask him again”. I’m the one who is on the medication. I know when I’m distracted. I can appear distracted and still say over and understand the material that my teacher just taught. I also had a teacher tell me that having ADHD was an excuse for being lazy. I’m sorry but God made me this way and I wouldn’t trade my ADHD for anything. It’s helped me in sports and in school as I can grasp lessons faster than my peers.

 

[itsasmallfarm]

talking about hats, i wear a duke trap hat most of the time am out in public, am yet to get an anti-fur attack on it (was one of my fears of wearing it) but decided i much rather support my hobbies and interests then have others tell me no.

now i just have to convince my family that getting a flintlock rifle is a good investment (they want me to get a center fire 30-06 lol)

 

[IdyllwildAcres]

Our 17yr (daughter) was born a son also just came out to my hubby and I a couple months ago that she feels that she is a girl in a boy body. Sadly when my blood family was told this we got tons of THAT CAN'T BE right he Never played with dolls, wanted to rock a baby or dress up..ect and we told my family a simple statement that regardless of what you THINK or Feel about this ISN'T open for discussion you can either love her as much and in the same way you loved "him" and treat her as a granddaughter just as you treated him as a grandson or you can have no place in her life your choice.[/QUOTE]

This can be hard to handle for some, but I am so thankful for her that you are supporting her through this. Even as a gay man it took me more than half my lifetime to be more understanding of transgender people. As a younger man I just did not get it, now I realize that I do not need to understand it or approve or judge, it is not about me after all. This is real for your daughter. I would suggest not slamming doors on anyone in the family who needs more time, keep the door cracked open just a bit.

Gary

 

[perchie.girl]

Our 17yr (daughter) was born a son also just came out to my hubby and I a couple months ago that she feels that she is a girl in a boy body. Sadly when my blood family was told this we got tons of THAT CAN'T BE right he Never played with dolls, wanted to rock a baby or dress up..ect and we told my family a simple statement that regardless of what you THINK or Feel about this ISN'T open for discussion you can either love her as much and in the same way you loved "him" and treat her as a granddaughter just as you treated him as a grandson or you can have no place in her life your choice.

This can be hard to handle for some, but I am so thankful for her that you are supporting her through this. Even as a gay man it took me more than half my lifetime to be more understanding of transgender people. As a younger man I just did not get it, now I realize that I do not need to understand it or approve or judge, it is not about me after all. This is real for your daughter. I would suggest not slamming doors on anyone in the family who needs more time, keep the door cracked open just a bit.

Gary[/QUOTE]
EGGCELLENT post.....

 

[Dani4Hedgies]

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This can be hard to handle for some, but I am so thankful for her that you are supporting her through this. Even as a gay man it took me more than half my lifetime to be more understanding of transgender people. As a younger man I just did not get it, now I realize that I do not need to understand it or approve or judge, it is not about me after all. This is real for your daughter. I would suggest not slamming doors on anyone in the family who needs more time, keep the door cracked open just a bit.

Gary[/QUOTE]

Gary,
I wish I could however my blood family has proven that they are only white or black they either accept it or they never do, I have been a pagan living an open marriage poly life for over 20 years and every chance my blood family gets they still insult and hurt me over it. I only stayed in contact with them because they were blood family to our son and they treated him right and wanted to be involved in his life now that he is living as a she they are changing that and yep I'm a mama bear and I will protect my daughter from having to live with that.