Tattoo Wanted - Wife Objects.... What Do Ya Think?

[Iowa Roo Mom]

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Agreed 100%

 

[Eggs4Sale]

I've always, always, forever wanted a red toilet seat permanently mounted across my backside. But my DH says he thinks that is nasty. I think I'll negotiate more.

 

[Rillion]

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Well, good luck with that!

 

[Wildsky]

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He can get a toilet seat hat - you guys will look like a cute pair.

 

[deb1]

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Well, good luck with that!

I am trying to imagine how she would buy pants to fit over that toilet accesory.

 

[PlymouthRocker]

I came to this party late, but I think you need to talk more before making a final decision. Someone mentioned that it's not about the tattoos, it's about respect, and it's true. So I won't weigh in with my opinions on tattoos or tell you what to do in this situation about getting one or not. I won't say, "Go for it dude! You only live once" or, "Hey, she doesn't want it, don't do it." The best answer is going to come from you telling her what's on your mind and heart, and from her responding with the same - until you both finally say the same answer. Imagine if you tell her, "Honey, I'm glad we talked about this so much and your feelings in this matter are so important to me now that you've communicated them to me that I don't want this tat anymore." Or if she tells you, "Babe, now that I know how deeply you feel about this, I want to go with you to pick out the style of the tat you want."

This is the pattern of negotiation and communication that is respectful and most effective in any long-term relationship, not just marriage.

 

[Bantimna]

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I agree.

I think you should listen to your wife!

 

[fordmommy]

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First of all, people don't necessarily tattoo a part of their body that they don't want to be seen because they feel uncomfortable about that part. It may be that they just want to show off their tattoos sometimes but not others, or having visible tattoos is not allowed at their work. This has been the case for me. I like being able to switch back and forth between "tattooed chick" and "chick who looks like everybody else."

Second of all, if you tattoo a part that you don't want to be seen, it's trivially easy to make sure it's not seen, unless of course you choose to put it on your forehead or neck or hands, etc., which would be silly if you don't want people to see it. Don't want people to see your belly? Wear a shirt that covers it properly. Problem solved.

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Its one of the places on my body that isn't inked or scarred too badly. Big scars don't tat up well.

This was the case with Boyd. Not you.

 

[Rillion]

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The first point might not be the case, although Boyd never said he feels uncomfortable about his stomach, from what I've seen. The second point holds-- there's no reason Boyd would be unable to keep the tattoo covered if he wants to.

 

[Namble]

Whats the point of a tat? Like what benefits are there?