Teenagers and rules??

[gjensen]

I have WHAT in my yard? :

OK the cast is like this Teen 1 and teens 3 through 4 her friends. (All are 15 and 16)
Dad and Grandma and grandpa.

So teen1 lives with her mother but asked Dad if she could come over - he has a pool. Soon she requests that 3 friends come over too. Their parents drop them off without speaking to dad.

They all spend the night, and the next day teen1 and teen 2 arrange to go to the beach. Teens 3 and 4 are "supposed" to be waiting for a pick up. No one shows.

So teens 3 and 4 spend the entire day in the home of teen 1's dad with grandpa and grandma. The kids never speak to the adults. The adults never question the kids about what they are doing or what their plans are. The kids go into the kitchen and make themselves food, go back to teen 1's room and eat and watch TV. Teen 1 comes home after 10 PM! The group spends the night again.

Now, forgive me if there is something seriously wrong on all counts here. Who drops their kid at some one's house for 3 days without speaking to the parents?!?!
What parents let two kids they barely know simply hang around for an undetermined amount of time with no questions whatsoever?? WTH?

I raised major questions about this and was told that I don't understand today's teens.

?!?!?! Sorry, this is simply not happening in my house or with my kids. I don't care .

But does this sound normal to any of you??

No this is not proper procedure. I have raised two teenagers, and am on round two. I have run into similar circumstances and preffered their friends with reasonable influences here, but would NEVER allow mine out without knowing EVERYTHING is ok. It is a lack of concern, convenience, and irresponsibility to allow this to take place with your own.​

 

[BrattishTaz]

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i had to put it on the calender with the house number so my mum could call and "say goodnight" at all sleepovers. (before cell numbers)

Mine have to call home one time a day and before they go anywhere other than pre-approved outings.

 

[I have WHAT in my yard?]

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i had to put it on the calender with the house number so my mum could call and "say goodnight" at all sleepovers. (before cell numbers)

Mine have to call home one time a day and before they go anywhere other than pre-approved outings.

Yes, I am sure they must, but i am also pretty sure you talk to parents before the stay over, right??

 

[BrattishTaz]

I have WHAT in my yard? :

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Mine have to call home one time a day and before they go anywhere other than pre-approved outings.

Yes, I am sure they must, but i am also pretty sure you talk to parents before the stay over, right??​

Absolutely. See post #23....I do more than just talk to the parents.

 

[DuckyGurl]

OMGOSH. My parents would ground me for a year if I pulled a stunt like that!! They ALWAYS know where I am going. And they are friends with most of my friends' Moms. So that scenario is-WOW. For teen GIRLS too?! Shocking.

 

[HatchingFever]

My parents are pretty relaxed they call and talk to the friends mom or dad before I go over I have to write down the kids cell parents cell and parents home phone numbers And if everything works out im allowed to and whenI go with a group of kids to the movies they just have my number and I have to call when we get out of the movie and tell them if i wanna get picked up or if im going to one of their houses.

 

[QH Girl]

Definitely not normal. I've already raised 4 teens that all knew I expected a conversation with the other parent(s) before any plans were finalized.

Any teen left at my house for an extended period of time would probably be put to work around the property. I just hate to see a perfectly healthy teen laying around doing nothing

 

[CrazyChickensEverwhere]

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Do YOUR parents talk directly to THEIR parents?? I have to assume these girls talked to their parents, but there was no adult to adult.....

Seems to me that wouldn't matter too much, as long as the teens are trustworthy.

Girl 1: Can Girl 2 come over?

Parent 1: If her mom says it's okay.

Girl 1 to Girl 2: Ask your mom.

Girl 2: Can I go to Girl 1's house?

Parent 2: Sure.

Girl 2: Yeah, I can come.

exactly eernie. Whats the need I am not a rebel child. Now if I was a teen that sneaks out and partys I am sure they would

 

[eenie114]

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Seems to me that wouldn't matter too much, as long as the teens are trustworthy.

Girl 1: Can Girl 2 come over?

Parent 1: If her mom says it's okay.

Girl 1 to Girl 2: Ask your mom.

Girl 2: Can I go to Girl 1's house?

Parent 2: Sure.

Girl 2: Yeah, I can come.

exactly eernie. Whats the need I am not a rebel child. Now if I was a teen that sneaks out and partys I am sure they would

A problem would only arise if the teens did NOT relay the correct info to parents.

 

[CrazyChickensEverwhere]

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exactly eernie. Whats the need I am not a rebel child. Now if I was a teen that sneaks out and partys I am sure they would

A problem would only arise if the teens did NOT relay the correct info to parents.

Yeah I guess I could see that happening. But to tell the truth I don't go to friends houses much, barly ever. Plus I only go to my cousins once in a blue moon lol.