The Evolution of Atlas: A Breeding (and Chat) Thread

[h2oratt]

Wow, she is 52? Your son was 30 and now her new guy is 20. She is very strange. I bet the new mother in law can’t stand the fact that her son is with someone so old. It sounds like she does act like a child.

It’s great your son is missing you guys now. Life sure has funny twists and turns.

I bet they didn’t want the dog over there. It would really put a damper on life for them.

Sorry to hear about atlas. Can you get him a lamp also. ?

 

[speckledhen]

Wow, she is 52? Your son was 30 and now her new guy is 20. She is very strange. I bet the new mother in law can’t stand the fact that her son is with someone so old. It sounds like she does act like a child.

It’s great your son is missing you guys now. Life sure has funny twists and turns.

I bet they didn’t want the dog over there. It would really put a damper on life for them.

Sorry to hear about atlas. Can you get him a lamp also. ?

No, my son is going on 42, she will be 52 in January, I think. There's about 9 years between her and my son, but over 30 years between her and this boy-toy. Disgusting.


This is one thing that a very sweet friend of my son's sent him and though we've said the same things, I think this really hit home to him. She calls him dad and has cut off all contact with her. She said no matter what the woman may be telling people about my son, the people who know him know there is no better man. I'm glad he has loyal friends who would never believe whatever the heck she's saying to justify herself.

I do have one ceramic heat bulb over Atlas's spot on the roost and trust me, he shoves those hens out of the way to get there, LOL. He has as bad of a problem with his joints as his grandfather did at two years older than Atlas. Poor thing.

 

[getaclue]

My husband is 5 years younger than I am, but at our ages it doesn't matter so much. My dad was 5 years younger than my mother. I can't imagine a mature woman wanting a partner that young. I just hope they're blissful together, long enough that your son can heal, so he doesn't take her back later on.

 

[speckledhen]

My husband is 5 years younger than I am, but at our ages it doesn't matter so much. My dad was 5 years younger than my mother. I can't imagine a mature woman wanting a partner that young. I just hope they're blissful together, long enough that your son can heal, so he doesn't take her back later on.

My adoptive father was 3 years younger than my mother, but it's not so much that the woman is older, but how much older, as in a completely different generation. I think 30+ years is just insane and the fact that she has a 34 yr old son who doesn't even know this is his mother, oh boy. The age difference is only the tip of the iceberg in what is wrong with this whole situation, ack! Whatever, let her ride off into the sunset with her boy-toy (who is just gross when you see him, sorry, I can't help wonder what the heck is wrong with her!) for long enough to seal the divorce papers up in a tidy package.
His locks are changed now so she can't get into the house. He said his garage door doesn't work with an opener and hasn't in years so that's not an issue. They never parked cars in there. It's basically a dog house, was the entire life of his first Husky.

 

[speckledhen]

New video, first in awhile, really.

 

[1muttsfan]

Oh that lovely accent! . You sound a little frazzled though, darlin'. Hope things settle down for you soon.

 

[speckledhen]

Oh that lovely accent! . You sound a little frazzled though, darlin'. Hope things settle down for you soon.

Frazzled is the word, Mary. Trying to find a place where the sun wasn't glaring was the issue. I was hiding behind the big compost pile to tape, LOL. Guess the sun ought to be everyone's problem! It's nice to see it, actually. I felt I owed folks a video after I passed 1000 subscribers. Still can't believe that many people care what I have to say about anything. I realize in the time I've had my channel, there are people with same-age channels with nicer productions who have 10x my subs, but then, my channel is just a little podunk operation. Can't even find a good place to sit. I would have done it on the deck, but invariably, every time I try, DH comes looking for me and interrupts, LOL.

 

[speckledhen]

The new court date for the divorce is Nov 30. Seems she is running out of money already, too. Good thing he changed the locksets on all the doors, too, because he just found out that the key to the back door was missing from his key ring. Well, it won't work now. She's also making claims to people that Ghost is with her "siblings" meaning her sister and her son/pretend brother, but we all know that isn't true; and she also says she's coming back in about 6 months to get him. Amazing how that will happen with no money, right? Her 20 year old boy-toy with his first job surely can't afford to send her to the States. But, even if she somehow managed to get back here, my son says Ghost is going nowhere, that she abandoned him and now, she is not ever getting him. She could have made arrangements to take the dog on the proper airline if she'd wanted to wait and do it all the right way, but hey, whatever works against her is fine with me. Now, she's spreading lies about me and Tom, but that's par for the course because in every sentence she utters, there's usually at least one lie.

I think it's almost sad that someone is such a narcissist and a sociopath, that they can't stop lying and maybe they even begin to believe their own lies. And the lies are just balls you have to keep in the air so the group who you're fooling doesn't get in contact with the group who knows the truth so you have to make up stuff to keep them apart. But, everything is on the web somewhere and with enough digging, you can find it, like the pictures my son found on the guy's mother's Facebook page talking about her son's 20th birthday this past summer and his first job starting this month, plus photos showing he's a very, very hefty young guy with straggly hair, not the 30 yr old engineer she's told everyone about. She was in contact just last month, my son said, with the last guy she cyber-cheated with to say she missed him. Guess she's making contingency plans, leaving herself an out if this falls apart (and it will). This is the nuttiest situation, ever. Today, I told my son that I understand emotions are complicated, but I never want that woman back in our family or our lives. He says it will never happen, not after all this. I hope not.


Definition of a Narcissist, from this article:
https://www.psychologytoday.com/…/narcissistic-personality-…

The hallmarks of Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) are grandiosity, a lack of empathy for other people, and a need for admiration. People with this condition are frequently described as arrogant, self-centered, manipulative, and demanding. They may also concentrate on grandiose fantasies (e.g. their own success, beauty, brilliance) and may be convinced that they deserve special treatment. These characteristics typically begin in early adulthood and must be consistently evident in multiple contexts, such as at work and in relationships.

Yup, shoe fits beautifully.

And then, there are the sociopathic tendencies:

Lack of Empathy
Difficult Relationships
Manipulativeness
Deceitfulness
Callousness
Hostility
Irresponsibility
Impulsivity
Risky Behavior

From this article: https://www.health.com/mind-body/sociopath-traits

 

[getaclue]

Cynthia, my ex sister-in-law had both of those, in addition to being bipolar, schizophrenic, and a very rare, hard to diagnose, chameleon personality disorder. When she was stable on her medications, she was a wonderful person. When she was off her meds, she was a mess. She had a 2 year old daughter when my brother married her. Eventually I ended up adopting her daughter. I was going through a rough divorce about the time my adopted daughter began showing serious signs of having mental issues. I made arrangements to get her some help through her pediatrician, with a good child psychiatrist, and a top notch child psychologist. That's when she left home, demanding to live with my ex. She's never gotten help, and her life is a mess.

To add insult to injury, for years now she's been telling everyone how I abused her, what a horrible person I am. Oh, she's very convincing, so she fooled a lot of people, but not everyone. When she originally left to live with my ex, she had a boyfriend. She had been telling his parents how awful I was to her. She thought she had them fooled, and that they would take her in. They saw through a lot of it, and wouldn't let her move in, so that's how she ended up living with my ex. Of course, she told him I threw her out, because I was on drugs. She was so out of control he couldn't handle her either. She was 17, about to turn 18 at the time, so when she had her birthday, he moved her into the empty side of his mother's duplex.

For years, she maligned me, lied about me, and said horrible things about me to enlist peoples' sympathy. The first guy she married, he and his family believed her. I was not allowed to see my granddaughter for a couple years. Every so often, the other grandmother would call me, and ask about this or that. I tried to explain, but at the time she didn't believe me. One day, I got a call from the other grandmother. It seems my daughter, and her son were splitting up, but she could not believe the things my daughter was saying about all of them. Same old nonsense. They were all on drugs, abused her, were horrible people. She then asked how I got through it all. I explained that I had to learn, it's not what someone calls you, but what you answer to. I am who I am, and I know who she is too. She goes through a cycle, and in time the truth comes out. It did no good trying to defend myself, since people are going to believe what they want, but just continuing to be me, and waiting it out, always brought out the truth. Yes, it's aggravating, and it's not fair, but in time, they reveal themselves for who they really are.

 

[speckledhen]

Yes, it's aggravating, and it's not fair, but in time, they reveal themselves for who they really are.

Amen, the truth will out, eventually. A pathological liar cannot keep all those balls in the air forever. They start crashing into each other and then they all come down. I've never seen someone who lied as easily as this woman. But, obviously, you get it 100%. Her father used the words "bipolar sociopath" to describe her and said my son was better off without her, but they sure didn't warn him before he committed himself to her. I wish they had. We felt she was bad news, but knew Michael wouldn't have listened to us, however I didn't know the facts then, had only my gut feeling and limited experience with her lying ways. Her parents knew what she was.