THe i want to slap my stepdaughter upside her head rant by Conny

[jonesgirl]

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[SarahBeth9394]

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I don't disagree at all. But here is where the father needs to explain to the daughter what the "I love you more" game is when it comes to couples and tell her it's time to eat a piece of humble pie and accept that she was ignorant of what the comment meant, jumped to a conclusion, and completely disrespected him by disrespecting his wife.

 

[byrandom]

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I agree. Family dynamics are hard! It may benefit to get counseling -- even if it is just for you, perhaps you and your husband. It couldn't hurt.

 

[tdgill]

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good luck

 

[conny63malies]

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Nice of course he is american and has a big fat paycheck

 

[morelcabin]

Sounds to me like this is a problem between you and your husband first, and his children next.
My opinion, and I don't know the whole story, is that you are an insecure wife because your husband puts his children before you in many ways, and isn't taking a stand and telling his children that YOU and HE are ONE, and that when they disrespect you they are hurting HIM and thier relationship with HIM and YOU.
But if he doesn't see you and him as ONE, (united above all else) then you are in a marriage that is really going to be difficult to build on.
Are you legally married to this man? Or living together? Because if he isn't committed enough to be even legally married to you, then you don't have a leg to stand on, his kids will always come first

 

[ksacres]

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WHAT? The WIFE is an interloper?? I think not. Kids shouldn't get to call the shots. Ever. Saying that disrespect and racism is "just what kids do" is wrong. That kind of behaviour would never have been tolerated when I was growing up.

Coni can't help the fact that she's German (nor should she ever have to defend it). She's not a Nazi anymore than I'm part of the KKK. You can't be held responsible for things that happened beyond your control. Letting those kids say things like that putting down her race is a big-time no no. I can't believe any parent would let their kids say things like that to anyone, let alone their spouse.

 

[horsejody]

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She is not an interloper. She is his wife. She is a part of the family. Yes, she is an adult. The step daughter is also an adult. 18 years old is not a child. If she still acts like a child, then an attitude adjustment is in order.

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I think that sending a love note on myspace is sweet. What a nice surprise it would be to go online and find a nice surprise pick-me-up. Anytime and anywhere that you can communicate affection to a loved one is fine. Personally, if my DH allowed someone to call me a nasty name, he wouldn't be getting any affection of any kind for a while.

 

[Wifezilla]

First of all - I dont know ANY wife and husband that "Myspace" to each other

Hubby and I would NEVER Myspace to each other...





(we use facebook!

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[jonesgirl]

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Nice of course he is american and has a big fat paycheck

You don't make comments like that around the girls do you? Just remember they will think anything you say and hear a threat...

One day at a time! Good Luck Girl!