You know I was really drawn to this discussion. How often my plans have been changed and I always thought it was for "the worst". Several times in recent years, my health took some crazy turns and I felt that I just could not accomplish any goals and felt so sad that I was not as helpful as I should be to my husband and others. Then I remembered something very important I learned long ago from my grandmother when I was cuddled on her lap in her old creaking rocking chair when she said, I cannot give you much but my faith, my love, my prayers and my ways (country for example in N. Alabama).......And I still tear up when I remember saying as a child "I don't want anything else Granny". I wish always that I could always give those same gifts to the world...."my faith, my love, my prayers and my ways"......I am certainly sending my prayers on to you and you may have my sisterly love in Christ, my faith and ways as you see them on BYC. When I set up on a path, it may not always be God's path and sometimes He gently or not so gently redirects my ways. What I perceive as a downfall is actually an "uplifting" a pruning of the vine as it were... Or that "my tragedy" is actually an example for me to show my faith in Him. Somethings that happen - well I really don't know why but the old song "trust and obey" just wells up for me full of meaning that that is the best I can do. Well, my prayers and blessings are with you.