Things you wish you could say

[MACCanadianCoop]

It's not. We're working on it and he is trying but he just doesn't see how things are offensive and thinks I'm just sensitive. Which fine, who cares if I am you can be thoughtful about how you say things you don't get to tell me how to feel.

I really hope you can work it out.
In my experience, it hasn't worked out. Because the gaslighter (aka narcissist) never grasps the idea that they are wrong.

 

[Isadora]

Because the gaslighter (aka narcissist) never grasps the idea that they are wrong.

Because in their mind they're never wrong.

 

[nuthatched]

Being in HR I regularly wish I could say "what the @#$% is wrong with you?!?"

"You'd have a better chance at getting hired you you 1. Bathed before interview 2. Wore proper adult clothes, not your pjs for your interview. And 3. showed up on time/ at all for your interview."

Thanks! In colonial america I would be considered close to death, lol.

Happy belated birthday! So like 80?

 

[MACCanadianCoop]

Because in their mind they're never wrong.

Exactly

 

[Bonkerelli]

Happy belated birthday! So like 80?

Minus about 50 years

 

[electrycmonk]

I must exude 'troll pheromones'.

You are thee “Broody Magician” after all…. There are so many variables to the definition and how it can be applied….

 

[electrycmonk]

I need some more sleep. I read this as "please stop messaging me your privates" and had to re-read it TWICE before my brain engaged.

Why don't you go lay down for a while, Azure.

Well? Did you offer them the “fainting couch” for that *nap*?

 

[sourland]

You are thee “Broody Magician” after all…. There are so many variables to the definition and how it can be applied….

and all of them quite likely.

 

[Stacaroni]

Yes, yes... We do, in fact, have our knives out for glaring

Eta - why did I think a chicken forum would be safe for my blood pressure?

 

[azurbanclucker]

"You must be new here".

Dude, you've been a manager for a week. You know from the 2 years you've worked here how things work. A title change does not change the fact that you were already told this was a non-starter as you presented it, and what you can do to have it reconsidered. You have zero leverage over any team but your own, and you need to stop thinking in absolutes and start thinking in weighted cost/effects like a manager.

"closed won't fix"

I forget sometimes how rare and sacred technical people who can actually also serve as great leaders of people can be. I'm super spoiled by my own managers, and today is a reminder that I'm a very lucky SOB.