Unacceptable Guest Dog

[MarkJr]

Most people here don’t seem to be married. Don’t care about their spouses relationship with that person. Or possibly are just miserable people in general.

Some people take one on the chin so their other half can have a little peace. When the other half recognizes enough is enough then both move forward.

But what do I know. I’m fairly new to this marriage thing.

 

[Ninjasquirrel]

Take the key back. It isn't your job to teach an older woman anything ( if we can be even taught haha.. )

Tell her it is rude, it isn't her house, it's YOURS and your rules apply. If she can't be respectful she cannot have the key. Use your sister as an example.

I am sorry you have to deal with this. I would never., but I am also happy in my solitude and have little tolerance.

If you both stop letting her in, maybe she will finally quit her nonsense. She ought to know better.

Well...technically it is her house. We bought it with a personal loan from his parents. It's almost paid off though. But then again the bank has no right to just barge into your house uninvited unless it is repossessed

 

[Ninjasquirrel]

Most people here don’t seem to be married. Don’t care about their spouses relationship with that person. Or possibly are just miserable people in general.

Some people take one on the chin so their other half can have a little peace. When the other half recognizes enough is enough then both move forward.

But what do I know. I’m fairly new to this marriage thing.

I agree with you. Sometimes you just have to bite your tongue for your spouse. It comes with the territory. Wouldnt it be nice though if marry someone meant you just marry them and not all of their relatives? One can dream...

 

[Lori J]

*** has lots of chickens. Swore up and down her dog was OK with chickens.
After an hour of telling her he wasn’t ok, and her saying she’s keeping extra special eye on him, I went to empty my bladder......

I’m down one bar rock chick. Broody has a bald patch from protecting chick. Dog went forcefully into her suv with explicit warning that if a paw hits my dirt it will be shot.

Why can people not have control over their dogs?

This insistence by people that their dogs are perfect angels pisses me off. It’s kind of like the people who try to defend pitbull’s... instead of taking a moderate position they take an extreme position that pitbull’s are the most gentle breed and only bite if their owners are bad. All dogs bite whether they have a good owners or not just like all people occasionally lose their tempers as well. We can’t expect dogs to be perfect angels, people certainly are not.

 

[ChemicalchiCkns]

With respect to the fire arms post I made, I dislike the idea of bringing up using a weapon in a conflict to bring a solution. Posts (in many threads) about making someone's irresponsibility plain (plainer) to them, or to keep them at a distance so it is less effective, I endorse. If it has gotten so bad that a vicious / uncontrollable animal is attacking you, some other person, or a domestic animal, and a deadly weapon can be safely used, it is responsible to do that.

 

[Ninjasquirrel]

With respect to the fire arms post I made, I dislike the idea of bringing up using a weapon in a conflict to bring a solution. Posts (in many threads) about making someone's irresponsibility plain (plainer) to them, or to keep them at a distance so it is less effective, I endorse. If it has gotten so bad that a vicious / uncontrollable animal is attacking you, some other person, or a domestic animal, and a deadly weapon can be safely used, it is responsible to do that.

Your argument is confusing. You might want to consider an edit. It is always important to access a situation calmly before acting whether you are simply providing aid or removing an aggressor. You may have minutes or you may have seconds to do so. I do not wish people to misunderstand because simply owning a firearm is a responsibility because it gives you the option of lethal force whether you choose in those moments to use it or not. Based on your choices you may be subsequent to legal action resulting in prison or fines. It is up to the owner to understand that responsibility and to make decisions by it.

 

[Lil Chicken mama]

I am currently building a VERY EXPENSIVE solid wood fence bc my neighbor refuses to keep her pack of dogs in her yard, even after we built her a fence and gave her a new gate!! I've already been attacked TWICE, and I've found another neighbor's injured and dead chickens all over my yard. This will be the THIRD fence that my chickens/ducks/quail sit behind, not counting the coop.

 

[MandaRae]

Most people here don’t seem to be married. Don’t care about their spouses relationship with that person. Or possibly are just miserable people in general.

Some people take one on the chin so their other half can have a little peace. When the other half recognizes enough is enough then both move forward.

But what do I know. I’m fairly new to this marriage thing.

WELL as a married couple for 16years neither of us would allow our family members to behave this way towards the other. We have enough love & respect in our marriage that we don't let people barge into our homes or their animals to kill or terrorize our pets/livestock.

Marriage is not always about biting your tongue just because it has something to do with conflict with the in-laws. When you marry someone you leave that family and cleave unto your spouse to become one you don't allow the in-laws to dictate your stress level or your own home.

The question was asking what you could do to change the mother but when we give advice you don't like it. I don't mean that to sound rude but seriously the only way you're going to stop her from doing these things is to speak up and explain to her what's going on and take the key back that's all you can do at this point, because it sounds like she's been catered to & allowed to act whatever way she wants towards you.
There doesn't seem to be any sort of boundaries whatsoever.
There can still be love with extended family and still have boundaries in your own home.

 

[NatJ]

seriously the only way you're going to stop her from doing these things is to speak up and explain to her what's going on and take the key back

Or change the locks, and don't give her the new key.
Wouldn't matter whether she refused to hand over the key, or whether she copied it before giving it back, if it no longer works.

 

[592784]

*** has lots of chickens. Swore up and down her dog was OK with chickens.
After an hour of telling her he wasn’t ok, and her saying she’s keeping extra special eye on him, I went to empty my bladder......

I’m down one bar rock chick. Broody has a bald patch from protecting chick. Dog went forcefully into her suv with explicit warning that if a paw hits my dirt it will be shot.

Why can people not have control over their dogs?

I feel your pain, I have the same issues with neighbors on both sides. I have one that says his dog will kill chickens if she gets a hold of them, but yet he allows her outside , unattended and unsecured in his yard. Which she seizes the opportunity to come to my house. Even though he says she doesn’t leave his property without him knowing about it . My other neighbor says she’s not responsible for her dog. He only comes
over when she’s out walking and the dog walks with her without a leash. The other day he wondered over into the yard when she was walking. She never came after him, just stood at the road and called the dog’s name. So I blasted it with a garden house jet stream in the face.
I understand animals will do what they do, but I get aggravated with the irresponsible owners. These are older people to who should know responsibilities and be courteous. I have a dog who stays in the backyard and never leaves it unless he’s on a leash. My husband thinks I’m overreacting and I’m being rude about this incident. I’m like “What?????”