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[Alaskan]

Ah, for a nice simple American wedding where the bride wears white, and the invitation is clear, like " outdoor BBQ" or "white tie" or something in between!

I have been informed that food will not be served until midnight and the cake is not cut until dawn, and people are supposed to stay there all of that time dancing.

I wonder how much sis will cry if my family just skips the wedding... I dont think the bride will mind.... but no idea really.

She is my niece! I rarely see her!

Just wild, odd, outside of my comfort zone....

 

[mixedUPturk]

Baby sis and her eldest have lost their minds...

Sis asked me today what color my family would all look good in.... as in spouse, I and all 5 kids are supposed to have matching clothes all in the same color, and she wants to know the color now... since she wants her immediate family in a different but coordinating color... and oldest sis and her kid again in a different and coordinating color.



I said wow, are you kidding?

Then I said wowsers... no way can I wear what I wore to the last wedding I went to....

She asked why...

I answered that it was way too fancy, like 3 times fancier than what the bride was wearing, so I would have to look through my closet and see what i had in nice and casual vacation clothes.

She hung up on me.



Just so you know... last wedding was super fancy, tuxedoes and floor length sparkley dresses.

Niece has picked out a peasant dress in bright red on white.

I wasn't trying to be mean... really....

But wow!

I told spouse that we were supposed to be in matching clothes... it was brought to my attention that we have enough bright red hoodies that we could all wear those with jeans...

But are we supposed to wear red if the bride is wearing red? And I have a feeling that sis will cry if we show up in hoodies.

But if the bride is wearing a peasant dress... why cant we wear hoodies?

This is getting too complicated for me.

i am one of those brides i cant speak for her but i was fine with jeans

 

[Alaskan]

i am one of those brides i cant speak for her but i was fine with jeans

That would be fine, nothing wrong with casual... but why hang up on me when I say wearing white tie to a casual wedding is bad?

 

[mixedUPturk]

That would be fine, nothing wrong with casual... but why hang up on me when I say wearing white tie to a casual wedding is bad?

Maybe she hasnt come to terms with the dumbing down of her little girls wedding?

 

[Alaskan]

Maybe she hasnt come to terms with the dumbing down of her little girls wedding?

Maybe so...
Because that was the entire problem today
..

I tried to explain to her that the style of dress the bride to be is thinking about is casual, so the wedding is casual....

But she had been telling me that the wedding is formal, and the bride wants to wear this huge, trail on the ground spanish lace veil that my mom wore at her wedding... with a knee length peasant dress.

I was trying to gently explain that her thoughts on what the wedding was going to be were DIFFERENT from the type of dress the bride was thinking of, and I was worried that there would be sadness, unless one or the other changed.

Ya know, you want a casual wedding, you pick a casual dress, and dont wear it with floor length Spanish lace.

Ya want a formal wedding, you pick a formal dress, and it will match the floor length spanish lace.

But.... just think it through, and decide what way you want to go.

Clearly though, I failed at saying the above diplomatically.

 

[Alaskan]

And different family groups wearing the same colors???

Who does that????

 

[BYC910]

Wedding across the big pond? Nuf said . I could go

 

[sourland]

And different family groups wearing the same colors???

Who does that????

Twinsie lovers ? Family drama drives me bat stuff crazy.

 

[BYC910]

Think they would let me fly with my support possom?

And different family groups wearing the same colors???

Who does that????

Sounld like a red neck wedding to me

 

[Alaskan]

Sounds crazy to me... and to the rest of the family.

Kid 2 said we could all wear matching bone necklaces and handmade Bowie knives...

Then spouse suggested we all buy ghillie suits...

I thought the red hoodies was a better choice .... except for the potential sister and bride crying.... I dont do well with all of that drama.

But gillie suits!!! Can you imagine the outrage?

Wedding across the big pond? Nuf said . I could go

Nope... no pond hopping... down in Texas, but the wedding is Romanian style.