For me the side effects came and went...and as a young woman that libido thing was sort of a deal breaker....it was the one that didn't work for me...
I've had friends who used the Pill for years, with no other contraceptives, and no problems. It really depends on how your body works, how sensitive you are to hormones, and what you can deal with, and if the payoff is large enough.
I would ask to have an appointment with your doctor or your mom's gyno. Don't let your mom's opinion or experience make YOUR health decisions for you. You are not identical people and will not have identical reactions. There are hormone patches, implants, pills etc....
Also, if you want to talk to the doctor without your mother, you are legally allowed to. If you want to discuss the issue with your doctor without your mother present you only have to ask the doctor. Legally, they have to comply, and they cannot disclose what they talked about unless you say so. Doing otherwise can get their license revoked.
I don't have daughters, so I don't have to deal with this issue. I know that when I was young, my mother never considered taking me to the doctor, because they couldn't do anything for her when she was young. Sometimes parents own issue blind them to their children's issues, and sometimes parents forget that their children aren't the same as them.