What do you do with a bratty kid...

[sgtmom52]

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I am sure this was meant as a joke and I would hope that no one would intentionally give a child unnecessary medications. But you should also be aware that in addition to causing drowsiness that Benadryl can also cause "excitability" especially in children ~ so that using it could backfire.

The child needs to be turned over to her father and your household rules needed to be explained to both of them. Based on her actions I expect that she is a spoiled, undisciplined child all of the time and will not change without both her parents setting down new rules for her behavior. Her parents are in for some very rocky teenage years with that youngster.

 

[Sunny Side Up]

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And that's all they were doing. Not an arterial transplant, not defusing a bomb, or anything else that required their uninterrupted concentration. If the situation was reversed & all the women were playing a game while the men minded the children, don't you think they'd march right in with any problem child (or dirty diaper)?

I think folks should take the responsibility for their own children whenever possible. If I were visiting friends along with my children and there was a disciplinary problem I would rather attend to the consequences myself than have my host try to handle it themself. Especially if they were planning to administer a punishment like "go to bed" (why would you want a child with muddy feet in your bed??) or hinting at beating.

Play it safe, and save yourself more headache. This girl's behavior goes far beyond acceptable. Let her dad know what happened, and what you plan to do if it ever happens again. Tell the men to have a chair ready for her at the poker table if she misbehaves again, maybe prepare a stack of chips and plan to deal her in.

 

[skeeter03]

Ha I have a nephew and neices that are like this. before they are even to get into anything in my house I lay down the law right in front of their parents. usually I get a nasty look from mom but my house my rules lmao.
I usually dont even let them in the house for anything cause they cause a path of destruction everywhere they go.
I dont hesitate to holler at them when they think running up to the chicken fence and mashing on it to scare the chickens and get the roosters going. if that dont work then i go haul them over and make them sit by their parents.
I will also make them clean up any mess they make or anything they feel the need to destroy.
DONT MESS WITH AUNTIE!!!
I would make her sit with her dad when she comes out

 

[Sonoran Silkies]

Lot's of good suggestions here. I do believe that marching her over to Dad and saying "We have a problem; [insert girl's name], why don't you tell your father what you said to me." Chances are she won't, and you will have to tell him; if she does talk, make sure you add any information she "accidentally" leaves out. Don't make anything about their parenting; make it about your house rules: "first of all, we always speak respectfully to other people; second, kids obey the adult in charge; third, we don't come into the house covered in mud." Throw in any extras that you feel necessary.

I'm sure it will be embarrassing to the dad as the whole conversation will be right in front of a number of his friends. People want their kids to reflect well on them, so chances are he will either be overly apologetic, defensive or maybe even both. If there is a discipline problem at home, he may well explode on her. If he is completely nonchalent about it, that should be your cue to suggest that he take her home as you do not feel comfortable being responsible for her. Hopefully your DH will jump in along the way here and support you, but it is really difficult to cue him in htat you need his backup when you haven't had the opportunity to discuss it ahead of time.

 

[chickeypoo]

If it were my house, id take her by the arm(not the hand) and march her either outside or to her father. and have her say what she said to you.. and if not, tell her father exactly what happened and say that is not allowed in my house. Everyone follows what i say when i say it. If he doesn't deal with it i think id tell him that he can leave and take the child home cuz that doesn't need to be something that other children need to veiw as being OK. i have gotten right down to my neices eye level and told her if she ever talked to me snotty again i wouldn't let her come back to play with my children. You better believe she straightened right out. what i say goes. it's my house and if you don't like it "there's the door, dont' let it hit you on the ... on the way out!"

 

[WingingIt]

Here's how I run the Scout meetings:

First time you back talk me and/or refuse to cooperate I explain the rules to you and inform you and your parents that you have one more chance.
Second time in a meeting your parents take you home and you miss all of the fun.
If you repeat it at another meeting your parent is required to sit RIGHT NEXT to you the entire time.
If that doesn't work, you're out and no longer welcome. I will not have Scouts there ruining it for the rest.


I've had to send two different Scouts home. One time each. They got the idea. Have never gotten to step 3.



It's a priveledge to be at your home, not a right. If Dad won't handle her, then Dad needs to take her home because she will NOT be talking to me and acting that way in my home. Catch them both as soon as they arrive this next time and tell him in front of her how she behaved and that if it's repeated, he'll need to get a handle on her quickly or take her home. And stand by that.

 

[chickeypoo]

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totally agree!

 

[Cindiloohoo]

One of my nieces is like that. I call mom and she goes home when she is being snotty. She now knows that I won't put up with it and behaves herself while she is at my home, and we have fun

You just have to make sure she knows what will not be tolerated. She has to know what behaviors get her a one way ticket back home. Kids push to see how far they can get away with pushing you. So far...she's winning at the shoving contest. She would maybe be there 20 minutes tonight if she were lucky if it was my house. I can't stand a smart mouth disrespectful little demanding brat. Mine always got dragged home and put to bed AFTER APOLOGIZING when they acted like that.

 

[azmotogirl]

I think I would have locked her in her crate..... oh, wait a minute..... It's the dogs and other pets you can lock in a cage and not get arrested. (We always say our dogs are just like kids but we can lock them in a cage and not get arrested!!)

 

[suzyq53511]

I have locked myself in the bathroom away from my 2 year old.....he was born really premature (3 months) that he really isnt a regular toddler. sorta really spoiled by everyone...we were told he wouldnt live. He doesnt go anywhere if he is being a brat that day. every time he screams he gets put in a pac n play. my oldest is well behaved. so this is new to me! i am really working on his behavior. i think head start will help! seeing other kids being good. but he is only 2 not 6.