There is a great difference between taking care of your parents and being taken advantage of by someone who happens to be a parent. Any loving child willingly takes care of a parent in need. No one needs to allow themselves to be taken advantage of by a person who also happens to be a parent. Significant difference. I know that my children would willingly take care of my wife and I if necessaary. Hopefully that need will never arise. Mom was basically self sufficient until she died at 97 and still mentally sharp.