Why did she have to say that...

[chickenwhisperer123]

From the eyes of a freshman (a guy)... (me)

Well I want to say that you are far from ugly. You would probably be the most popular girl (and prettiest) in my school, (of course I do live in Nebraska!!

.) I used to like the most popular girl in the class, (ALOT) but it seemed like one day she would flirt and flirt, and the next day she would be a !@$%! I moved on to the best, kindest, biggest hearted girl ever, and love it.
Give it time and someone will come along and change your life.

I kinda know how you feel...
My girlfriend says constantly how much she hates this guy in our class... I just dont know if I believe her. I constantly compare myself to him, and I always feel like crap when I am around him...

I know exactly how you feel about how animals get you through everything. After a long day sometimes I just sit with the horses.
They dont judge and seem to care alot more then people do anyway. Here is me and my counselor.

I want to be a vet too.

Freshman year has sucked for me too, but its almost over...
You arent alone! Happy Summer! (almost)

 

[babymakes6]

Did you see Susan Boyle? It always brings tears to my eyes when I see her on Youtube. Everyone was judging her and laughing at her because of her looks, but once she started singing, nobody laughed anymore. I know it;s hard when we are laughed at and made fun of, but remember this-there is something in you that YOU can do better than anyone else. You need to go out and find what it is. It may be becoming a vet-if so, go for it!
Just don't become as self-serving as those girls. You can PM me if you want to talk-anytime! And this is a great place to find friends!

 

[Yoshii]

*hug*

I'm an 18 year old girl. I know EXACTLY where you are coming from, I was just there, I promise. I don't wanna turn this about me, but I figure hearing from someone that's in your position might help.

I was not an attractive girl (you, uh... are. Seriously, I know their words sting, but, like, objectively. You're ATTRACTIVE, don't doubt it for a second, teenage girls are positively vicious, there's nothing else to it, they like to be cruel). To be frank, I wore unflattering clothes to hide my plain body, and frankly, I was kind of androgynous looking! I have a square jawline naturally, and I was always lacking in feminine assets -- if you follow my drift -- and me getting mistaken for a male wasn't uncommon! Imagine how much it hurts a 14 year old girl's psyche to be mistaken for a boy!

I know what it's like to be considered unattractive. I promise, hon, really.

But the thing is? It's not true.

You know what changed it for me? I grew up a couple of years, my cheekbones got higher, I filled out, and I'm finally feminine. And they can eat their own words :3! But, for you? It's just not true. You're ALREADY stunning, hon, and it's just a thrill to them to tear you apart, and I know it doesn't help now, I know, but it's really true: the best revenge is proving them wrong. I'll tell you right now, they're hollow, really. They're not going to have fulfilling relationships. They're going to be fixated on their looks to try and fill that nagging hollowness in them. And they're going to have nothing but superficial looks and people that don't care about them.

Also, regarding any "friends", it might be hard to cut ties with someone you've been friends with for a while, but cutting off baggage can be awfully liberating. Another story!

My closest friend on earth is named Tess. We had a mutual friend. Now, this "friend" of many years one day, up and decides to go off on Tess and tell her that she thought Tess was a host of unpleasant words I can't repeat on this site, and I think you can assume what they are. Mostly completely untrue things about Tess' promiscuity (once again, completely not true). She had been a friend for SIX YEARS, and she HAD been a good friend! She had! But, when something like that happens, you NEED to cut ties, and move on. It hurts, you'll convince yourself that they'll change and things will go back to how they were, but don't. Don't be afraid of the unknown. Cut ties, you don't need them.

That was longer than I meant it to be. I guess the short version? I'm eighteen and a lady who, until recently, looked like a dude. I know what it's like for people to be cruel. If you need to talk, just PM me, I'm more than willing to listen and help. And don't forget that we care, and you really are beautiful, inside and out.

 

[me&thegals]

These can be tough years. Some high school girls can be vicious. People who are mean don't really have much good going on inside them and need to attack other people to feel better about themselves.

I know our society, especially at your age, is pretty focused on looks. You are probably so much more beautiful than you think you are. I used to feel so ugly, but now when I look back at my high school pix I wish I could have enjoyed how beautiful I actually was!

Now that I'm in my 30s, I really understand that what's inside you seriously matters the most. It's such a cliche, but it's true. I have pride in all the things I can DO and what a good friend, mom and wife I can be. Who cares what other people think about looks? They will fade anyway.

Think carefully about the people you most love and respect. Is it their looks that does it for you? Or is it the beauty inside them? It sounds like maybe your family is not as beautiful inside as they could be. There ARE lots of beautiful (inside) people in this world. Please find them and make them your friends!

Take care, sweetie!

 

[monarc23]

all I can give you is a big hug and tell you that I've been in a similar situation and I am so sorry for the pain you are suffering through... life does get better and please ignore anyone who tries to compair you neg. to your sister including yourself... you are not your sister you are YOU and you are wonderful inside and out I can just sense that you are, plus anyone who loves animals IS wonderful in my oppinon. Be happy for you sweetie!!

 

[Judy]

You are a beautiful young woman, intelligent, sensitive, and with a big heart. You know this is the truth; I am only reminding you.

Turns out most people are caring and concerned, and not so emotionally crippled that they cannot express this. Think of the outpouring of old-fashioned brotherly love that you have seen on this thread.

Seems to me that people in their teens find it almost impossible to base their sense of self worth on their own internal evaluation of themselves, so they are very prone to falling victim to internalizing the hateful garbage spewed out by people with their own emotional problems who try to address them by victimizing others. I actually believe it is a maturation thing, meaning, the body chemistry creates the difficulty in staying focused on internal evaluation. Makes for a huge amount of grief. And on top of that, you do not have the family support you should have. But you do have a few close friends, thank goodness, and you have good sense.

Please continue to find support where you can, and please try not to buy into the nonsense you are hearing! You will not have it easy for the next few years. But you have what it takes to come out very much on top of all this, if you are determined.

If it is any comfort, even people who appeared to have "good" high school years will usually say what at least one poster here already said, that there is no way they would go through that again, not for a million bucks. High school has its moments but is basically a nightmare for many, even (or especially) for those giving you grief.

Keep your eye on the prize of your choice. It will all change drastically in just a few years, really.

And read what Opa said again.

Good luck.

You can certainly PM me anytime. I imagine you could PM most people who have responded here, and they would be supportive.

 

[greenthumb89]

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i was thinking the same thing...im just out of high school and think that your def. one of the most beautiful girls that i ahve ever seen, and the fact that you dont mind getting your hands dirty ie you take care of animals makes it even better. even if they think you are ugly now give it a few years and your looks will mature making you the most beautiful girls in school. wow i sound like im hitting on you...not meaning to but just reading this and seeing your picture makes me scratch my head thinking of all the stupid things girls will do to each other...

 

[The Poultry Peanut]

just rembeber...we are always here for ya to unload.

 

[MagsC]

Tearing up.

You are unique and beautiful, NEVER let anyone tell you different.

 

[The Poultry Peanut]

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