Why did she have to say that...

[Im4Eggcellence]

Well first off, you're being WAY too hard on yourself - you are a very pretty young lady. BUT SECONDLY AND MORE IMPORTANTLY... please don't make the mistake of thinking exterior perfection is the most important thing for self worth - it's not by a long shot... in fact it's WAY down the list for everyone but the most shallow people... despite what the media, and makup people, etc. want you to believe. As you grow older you will see that this is true.

Also, I personally don't think being super-pretty at a young age is even a good thing. Often girls like that NEVER develop much of a personality or worth ethic. They are one-dimensional and rely on their looks for everything... which makes them DULL to everyone but the most shallow guys. And when their looks start to fade, it's not a pretty sight.

So don't worry about it so much - work on being a kind, intelligent person with lots of interests and you will grow up into a very attractive women all around. Trust me.

 

[dizzychicken]

Being a mom of 3 teens, my heart just goes out to you. It is so hard being a teen with all the pressures of life. To be perfect, to act perfect and to look perfect, it is a fairy tale. No one but, Jesus Christ, is perfect. That means that we are all flawed, even the girls that think they have it all...they don't.

My 15 yr old daughter was so abused by the other kids at school, calling her ugly and just being generally mean. That is how teens are. But one day my daughter was killed in an auto accident (her freshman year, at 15), then it was like all those who were mean suddenly just loved her and forgot how mean they truly were. That's okay because I know she forgives them. I think people, especially teens, just don't stop to think about their actions toward another human being. Courtney, was compassionate though. Even though it hurt her, she still showed compassion to her mockers and forgave, never returning the put downs.

My advice is to start going to your local church youth group. There you will find love, compassion and encouragement. Best of all, if you don't already know Him, you can have a personal relationship with Jesus Christ, and believe me, once you taste His love, forgiveness and acceptance, no one else really matters. He is all you really need. Knowing Christ and attending a great youth group with like believers has helped my other children blossom in the face of the tragedy of losing their big sister. Nothing like having friends pray for you through the storms of life!

I have a 15 yr old daughter and a 17 yr old son, that said they already love you and would love to chat and be friends. They are your age so they can better encourage you than I could, but if you are interested in talking with them, just let me know.

Be encouraged, many here love you and not for your looks but for your gentle, sweet spirit.

Cheryl

 

[English Chick]

Stand straight, shoulders back, head high and walk with the confidence in knowing that you are a beautiful person, whether you believe it or not, WE can see the lovely girl that hides from the world because her of low self esteem.....do not ever let anyone make you believe that you are lesser than they....................

Beauty of the face only lasts a short time... beauty from within lasts a lifetime, be good to yourself and be good to others and you will be beautiful always...............

Some of the most beautiful people in the world are ugly within..... keep your head high, smile and be mysterious......it's not all about how perfect the body is, but how witty the mind and the conversation and good manners that you can portray to the world..... personality counts... and you have heaps of it.....

Now dry your tears, believe that you can walk into any room and command it's attention (no matter how scared you feel!) and you can do it.... build upon your inner self esteem and the rest will follow....

We are all here to help you.......

to you child.

Now go get that box of tissues and stop making your beautiful eyes red.... go on.....

 

[#1California Chick]

I have been reading many of your posts for the last two months. I was always taken by your beautiful avatar (I was not sure if it was you or some "star" that I didn't know!!!) I have also noticed your thoughful, helpful posts. By your comments, I would have guessed that you were 18 or older.

Once again, BYC has showed what a GREAT community it is. BYC folks (young and old) have given you many good recommendations and encouragements.

Since I am MORE than 3 times your age, I have to echo what many people have told you about high school: It SUCKS!! However, if you keep your head and focus on YOUR future (beyond high school), you too will be able to go to your 10 year high school reunion and see that you have moved FAR beyond them. I put myself through college (not easy!!), worked hard at my chosen career and I am pretty sure that I have been more successful and made MORE money than anyone else in my high school class (of about 400 people!!!!) including the Valedictorians, graduation speakers, Homecoming Queens, Sports Jocks, etc. I have a great family (DH and 3 DDs), a beautiful home, been retired (early!!!) for 9 years (with enough money to last until I am at least 100 --my goal!!) and have my first chicks coming on May 15th!!!! Talk about the good life!!!

A favorite saying of mine (used when I was dead tired of working and going to college, or when "things" in life did not go my way) was: This too shall pass!!!! (And it always did!!!)

Feel free to PM me. I KNOW that you have great potential. Keep talking to your 7th grade teacher (or me or your BYC friends)!!!

Trust me ---- the four years of high school are NOT your life -- no matter what some people will tell you!!!

Good Luck!!!

Cindy

 

[Mahonri]

Hang in there.

Prayers have been offered up in your behalf that you might find peace.

Remember, "What goes around, comes around"... and what Miss Prissy said... it's the truth.

Make some goals and then just do it!

 

[Picky Chicky]

The BYC community never ceases to amaze me - the enormous outpouring of support it gives it's fellow member when down.

It sounds like she is going in the right direction seeking out help from a previous teacher and also talking to her Mum about becoming a vet - what a selfless and wonderful idea! And absolutely animals can be extremely therapeutic! Good job and hold that head up high!

Hugs all around!

 

[gypsy2621]

Can you talk with your school counselor?
sometimes just talking with someone out of your circle will help a huge amount.
Never mind what others think of you , BE YOURSELF, Like yourself first and formost.
situations like this always remind me of the song:
HOW DO YOU LIKE ME NOW?
strive for that goal.

 

[Whispering Winds]

I have been reading everyone posts about this sad situation, which is rampant all over the country. . .and your advice is wonderful, and true. There is nothing I can add, except walk tall, ignore the cracks, see if there is another girl who is lonely and neglected and be nice to her . . .don't let another person go through what you are going through. You will be better for it, and it will help take your mind off those other jerks and help you realize what IT'S really all about. These are the hardest years of your life, and it takes a really strong person to ignore and blow off what others think. You are a beautiful person inside and out; but looks eventually fade but the beauty within never ever does . . .so focus on that and let the pieces fall into place. Those girls have problems, and being mean if just the tip of the iceburg. Good luck, and keep us posted. Soon, school will be out and you can just relax and focus on summer fun and sun.

 

[HorseFeathers]

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If I am looking at you in that avatar of yours, you are FAR from ugly. The first time I saw you, I thought "that girl is gorgeous" and I am not just saying that either. You are far pretty than I ever was and I think I am pretty good looking!!!!!

Me too actually. That's exactly what I thought.

 

[nzpouter]

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seriously? I thought your pic look quite hot!