Why did she have to say that...

[chickenwhisperer123]

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seriously? I thought your pic look quite hot!

Agreed, you are about the opposite of ugly!

(whistle)

 

[CoopCrazy]

Ok after reading all 9 pages and many a

... I think oyu have a very good foundation started from the advice of our fellow BYC'ers... That said I was the ugly duckling, fat kid, four eyes, weirdo at my school.. Now ten years later I constantly run in to the Popular crowd and let me tell you they went from the prettiest kids in school, to ugly, balding, got 4 kids fromm 4 daddy's, can I take your order please, LOsers... None of them appear happy, none went to college, and they are all working fast food to support there BF's drug habits, or alcchol addiction...

When folks are mean to youkeep your chin up , your toungue

out, smile and walk away....

 

[Picky Chicky]

You guys are so bad.

(Referring to the well meant whistles)

 

[hollymh]

Oh sweetie as hard as it may seem now, you will look back and wonder why you let it get to you

I was always in the same shoes as you and I really feel your pain. BUT, you are faarrr from unattractive, YOU ARE GORGEOUS! I feel old now, but I'm going to repeat what my mom always told me “They are jealous, you have brains and beauty and they simply are jealous" and I guarantee you they are!!! I just can't believe they would say you are ugly, because you are so far from it! Back to the point, do your best to ignore them, they are going to be the ones sorry in the end and judging from your post I would have loved to been your friend because you are smart and beautiful... Hold your head up and stay strong, it's pretty obvious there are a lot of people here who care for you! You're strong, and you will get through it!!!

 

[The Poultry Peanut]

Like I said earlyer we are here for you feel free to pm any one of us we will listen.

 

[texasgal]

Another post from another "ugly duckling". My sister was always prettier, and more popular. I watched (and was the subject of) many kids ridiculing other kids.

Take the lessons that you can learn from them (mainly how NOT to be) and know that YOU will be the better person in the end. Shallow people are easily place on a pedestal and easily knocked to the ground. It will be harder for them in the long run when they learn that their looks and shallow personalities won't get them very far in the real world.

I know you don't see it now, but you ARE beautiful, in body and spirit .. nobody can take that from you. I believe I'm a better person.. and treat people better, because of what I have experienced. You will be (and are) too!

BTW .. what you are feeling is ABSOLUTELY normal. Emotion and crying are NORMAL at your age. Do NOT feel like there is something wrong for you.

Some day you will finish the hard work of "hatching", and going through that funny "pullet" stage and you will look at yourself and realize you are the beautiful young prize "hen" you were created to be!

{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}

It's cliche, but this too will pass .. hang in there!

deb

 

[Mandalina]

Aw hun,you are so far from ugly! You are a beautiful fun girl and have such a rockin personality that shines thru even here on a message board. I would bet in RL you are a ton of fun to hang out with. You are smart and funny and very caring! Dont for one second give those witches your tears, bc they dont deserve even 1 iota of your thoughts. They dont, they are just spoiled little chicks obviously suffering from senior-itis (you know,they think they are all that and a bag of chips bc they "rule the school" and all that poo...).
Well you know what? Next year those girls are going to go off to college and be the lowest on the totem pole, and there will be hundreds of girls prettier then them and maybe ,just maybe, then they will stop and think about all the horrible things they have said and done to you. It takes being knocked down a few notches for girls like that to see what they really have been like.
Keep your head high and things will be ok! Just remember you have a few hundred people on here who think you are the bee's knees!

 

[HennysMom]

Oh gosh... high school

Been there done that couldnt pay me to do that again.

Sweetheart, I'm so sorry you feel like you do and that your sister, family and so-called friends are treating you this way and making you feel awful. I think alot of us were the "ugly ducklings" in one way or another growing up (both guys and girls) - I was skinny as a bean, big eyes, nose that didnt fit my face *still doesnt* and was made fun of. Grew up wearing used clothing, shopping at Kmart and Woolworth while all the "cool kids" got to shop at the mall. Never owned one piece of designer clothing and was made fun of continually. Kids are mean and well meaning family can be even worse, sometimes without even realizing it.

Little story for ya: at 15 my parents decided to boost my self esteem in what I thought was the WORST way possible - a modeling competition.

Here I am..looking like freaking Olive Oyl from Popeye and dressed in white shorts and a tshirt surrounded by girls that had been doing pagents and whatnot for years and years, since babies. Yeah..thanks mom and dad - I feel GREAT

. Well... must've been 400 girls.... every one more beautiful than the next and then there's me. Plain old me - no makeup, nothing special - big eyes, big nose - great. In the 2 days, all these knock out girls complaining about how this isnt right, how fat they are, throwing up, doing things they should be doing....and I'm amazed watching it all. Mom and Dad see much of the ongoings too and say nothing to me directly, but I watch their expressions, I ask them why am I here again? They just smile at me and tell me to press forward. The judges call names...only calling 8 names out of all these girls mind you. They get to name 6 - and I'm walking out the door and my mom and dad are standing there... I keep walking....dad grabbed me and says "Kiddo...your name..." I about fell out, surely a mistake. I was picked?? When asked judges why I was picked - they said because of my naturalness, my big eyes, my nose (the thing I still dont like to this day mind you) my skinniness, all the things I hated Was I thrilled? ABSOLUTELY- and then..it began... I had to stay that skinny, I couldnt gain any more weight, must sign a contract, etc. Right there... it changed everything at that moment. I saw things differently in that instant. .... I had a chance to go to Paris and do runway... and .......I turned it all down. Why? Because I didnt WANT to be one of "those girls" I didnt want someone to judge me on what THEY thought beauty should be. I asked my mom and dad why did they bring me there, did they think I was ugly - how in the hell did THIS boost my self esteem? No... they wanted me to see things in a different light - that win, lose or draw... they loved me for me. That all girls had issues with thier bodies and no one should judge another. They were glad I turned it down....and so was I.

All through HS I was still skinny...but I saw myself differently and adopted the attitude "if you dont like me... tough, I am who I am." It worked and it still works to this day. I used to try to please people - then I got smart

I'm not in this world to please others - I only have to be happy with myself.

So, hang in there my sweet girl - you are beautiful just the way you are, inside and out, and dont let anyone tell you differently.

 

[TheDuckCrew]

thank you everyone! so much! they BYC community just amazes me. everyone is so helpful and i will definately take this advice to heart. reading everyone's responses just made me smile, knowing all these people that have never met me before care so much. thank you all. you are all amazing.

 

[sparkles2307]

Yeah, dont worry about them. They are ugly on the inside where it really counts. I was an ugly duckling, fat (i was a size 15 at 13 years old) pimply, bad haircut... and then we all grew up and the girls who snubbed me are all crackheads or fat and I am a mother of 2 who is trim and (i feel) not so bad looking. Just ignore them, obviously they have security issues if they have to resort to treating you that way!