Why do people post things,

[HorseFeatherz NV]

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Yup, Seen it.

Imp

Seen it too

Yup


It's a sad thing.


It is great to edit a post to add more info, or to clear a point up - but to remove or change the context

 

[Beekissed]

I've often wondered why anyone would ask advice about personal family/life issues from 65,000 strangers on a chicken forum....and expect to get the emotional support they need from a computer screen.

Ditto for moral questions about killing animals. Rule of thumb, don't ask anything if you are not emotionally mature enough to process the answers without getting upset.

As much as one might think this forum is a community and here to cosset you and support you, the truth is that they don't really know you, your situation, your life experiences or emotional history enough to give you the level of support one might expect from a real, physical community. Best to keep emotional issues off the public sites and keep to information exchange, light debate about non-personal issues, and entertainment. If used in that way, tone and intent are only mildly relevant and shouldn't be an offense to anyone.

 

[chickened]

I would tend to agree here and would add that the world is full of potential offences and the secret lies with the individual about to be offended and not be not with the expectation from everyone else to tip toe around you.

Squishy you are right the tactic was more useful on female opponents as I remember, the male opponents were a bit more difficult to trip up. Properly reading your adversary was more helpful for their weaknesses. I am 47 and a bit rusty.

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[chickened]

I prefer the positive PMs' also but trust me when I say I get nasty ones and they are usually directed at my faith by the obvious ones which portray themselves as caring and understanding in the open forums. I am a big boy though and contrary to popular belief they really do not bother me as much as the sender would hope.When it hurts small children then watch out I will sacrifice my privileges here if I need to.

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[gritsar]

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Seen it too

Yup


It's a sad thing.


It is great to edit a post to add more info, or to clear a point up - but to remove or change the context

I've seen it too.

 

[ChicksterJo]

There are different ways of saying the same thing. If someone is asking for advice, then wouldn't it be best to try to craft one's advice to be as helpful and amiable as possible? People, for instance, will have their own assumptions when they are answering someone's question, and those assumptions could be hurtful. Saying that you have to search for the truth in some post, and ignore the..."other stuff," so to speak, means that other peoples' opinions are..."other stuff." Skip through the posts that you think are not useful to yourself. It's hard to communicate on here because we can't hear the intonations and see what the moods and facial expressions are of the other people, and those are essential parts of communication. Anyway, I always think, if I can't say anything nice, (even if I think it's "nice"), I won't say anything at all

 

[punk-a-doodle]

I've often wondered why anyone would ask advice about personal family/life issues from 65,000 strangers on a chicken forum....and expect to get the emotional support they need from a computer screen.

If a person is balanced enough to use good judgement on what advice to follow and how far, posting on any forum can be helpful. This is especially true of dealing with family issues when an anonymous source is needed to ensure drama will not be created with the family, and in eliminated fears that people you know will tell others what you have told them or have what you told them affect how they treat family. Sometimes, posting in a place that has so many people on it is also the only way you will find someone dealing with a similar issue that you have been going through that either people you know in real life will not discuss, or if it is a rarer issue that only one in 65,000 people go through. These are just a few of the more positive reasons people choose to do so. There are of course, many different reasons and some unhealthy reasons as well.

On PMs, I actually may be annoyed to get ones in support of whatever I happened to say, as much as snarky ones. Though I have not had either, and was surprised to hear that PMing such things seems somewhat active on this site. Especially on public forums, I don't want someone coming to me privately to buddy up on an issue they think we are similar on and want justification on without any possible dissent, or to use me as a way to justify their bias towards certain people and essentially gossip behind someone's back. That's just not something that flies with me. If they want to support or rant about something I said publicly, I hope they do so publicly in turn. PMs I reserve for private matters that deal specifically with the person I am PMing.​

 

[twentynine]

When I joined my first forum years ago, it took me quite a few years to understand that not all threads require a response from me.

In some cases the people who start threads pertaining to difficulties in family, health, sexual, and political relations really need to count to ten, before hitting the "submit".

Generally threads started dealing with such matters go bad very quickly.

Mean response? Well it might be. Just look through the Random and Family areas, right now this minute, you probably have a half dozen threads that would embarrass anyone if discussed face to face.

 

[redhen]

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Yup


It's a sad thing.


It is great to edit a post to add more info, or to clear a point up - but to remove or change the context

I've seen it too.

I've seen it too..

 

[redhen]

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Ranchhand i have really never found you to be rude(and i've known you for a looong time here..).... honest yes, but NOT rude.