Why do they cheat?

[DTchickens]

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Then you must not know many good men, I have honestly found the person I want to be with. Everyone knows we're engaged, and I work my hardest for her. Not looking for or at others either actually, think it's ridiculous for either women or men to do that. "I can look but I can't touch." To me that is still disrespectful, if you're completely happy with that person you shouldn't really have a reason to even WANT to look.

My father worked his hardest for our family, he gave up stuff he could of had/wanted for us always. He always treated women kindly, even if they walked over him. In the end it was his wives who left him, he didn't do anything wrong. I believe he would have stayed with his first wife (which if so, I wouldn't even be here) had she been willing to. But I wouldn't say all women are like that, not only would it be disgraceful to my fiancee but I know differently.

-Daniel

 

[deerman]

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Then you must not know many good men, I have honestly found the person I want to be with. Everyone knows we're engaged, and I work my hardest for her. Not looking for or at others either actually, think it's ridiculous for either women or men to do that. "I can look but I can't touch." To me that is still disrespectful, if you're completely happy with that person you shouldn't really have a reason to even WANT to look.

My father worked his hardest for our family, he gave up stuff he could of had/wanted for us always. He always treated women kindly, even if they walked over him. In the end it was his wives who left him, he didn't do anything wrong. I believe he would have stayed with his first wife (which if so, I wouldn't even be here) had she been willing to. But I wouldn't say all women are like that, not only would it be disgraceful to my fiancee but I know differently.

-Daniel

You are a very wise young man....that thinking and like your father....is what we need...I thought the same and so do my Son....you rule MAN

 

[KooKoe]

personally, I don't think it has anything to do with men or woman. Human beings in general love the thrill. The thrill of having a secret. the excitement of getting to know someone new. we are made that way.

The difference comes in here...some of us are mature enough to resist our urges. some of us use our heads rather than our impulses. regardless of age or gender, we all are made differently. the lucky ones (like myself) who are happily married and monogomous are just better at controlling whimsicle urges and know when to say no, no matter how tempting.

I kisses many a frogs to find my prince. and when I did find my prince, it was easy to pass off any thrill.

Your ex is obviously still sucked in by the thrill and the excitement. very soon, his new girl will be conquered and he'll find her borring and look for another thrill. Heck, he might even come crawling back to you because he wants the thrill of winning you back.

As long as you keep your head strait and dismiss him like a lady...

 

[halo]

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Oh this is sooooooo good!!!!

 

[silkieluver_07]

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Oh this is sooooooo good!!!!

Agreed!

 

[Katy]

Moochie....I know you're very young.....still a teen I'm thinking from some of your other posts. I know a broken heart hurts whether you're 14 or 40. There are many good men out there....you'll find one when you're both grown up. I found mine 38 years ago and our 37th wedding anniversary is coming up in a couple of weeks. I dated some real stinkers before I met him!

 

[Moochie]

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I understand whatcha mean but I don't get too serious in my relationships. I'm not like every other girl who gets really depressed or has suicidal thoughts and what not. My friend had a bf who cheated on her and she still says she won't find another guy like him. She also tries to get back with him and he ignores her. She says she cries nearly every night. I think he's a bit rude though, he tells her he will "think about it" and never talks to her again. I know I'll find my guy somewhere else, I plan to move to Nevada when I'm older for more space for my animals. Plus Tonopah sounds like my kinda place, except for the all the.... Nevermind I don't want to say. I think I would offend some people.
I'm just wondering why do people gotta cheat? To me it's a lack of respect towards the person they're cheating on. In my opinion it's just so, yucky. A really yucky person could only cheat. My mom says that they're "sick in the head" and I have to agree.

 

[redhen]

You are very right.. they ARE sick in the head.
So i'd be thankful that your rid of the sicko.

 

[cassie]

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I understand whatcha mean but I don't get too serious in my relationships. I'm not like every other girl who gets really depressed or has suicidal thoughts and what not. My friend had a bf who cheated on her and she still says she won't find another guy like him. She also tries to get back with him and he ignores her. She says she cries nearly every night. I think he's a bit rude though, he tells her he will "think about it" and never talks to her again. I know I'll find my guy somewhere else, I plan to move to Nevada when I'm older for more space for my animals. Plus Tonopah sounds like my kinda place, except for the all the.... Nevermind I don't want to say. I think I would offend some people.
I'm just wondering why do people gotta cheat? To me it's a lack of respect towards the person they're cheating on. In my opinion it's just so, yucky. A really yucky person could only cheat. My mom says that they're "sick in the head" and I have to agree.

You might ask your friend to spend some time thinking about why she thinks so little of herself that she would even consider having a relationship with that boyfriend. When she says she will never find another like him point out that she should be thankful if she doesn't. I think she is in love with the guy she would like him to be not he guy he is. The guy he really is and the guy she imagines he is is not the same guy. You might point that out to her.

 

[Moochie]

Mkay, I talked to her about it before. She denied most of it so I don't bring it up.