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Whyre kids so NERVE WRACKING!?!?!?!?!
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Also kids don't all learn and understand at the same rate. Some 4 year olds will understand and listen and some aren't able to yet.
When my daughter was 4 she was so grown up and listened and wouldn't dare do anything I told her not to. My son who is almost 3 has always done the opposite of what I ask and if I tell him no you better just expect him to do it to try me. I do understand that they are learning but darn, it's frustrating.
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Never said I was perfect nor a great parent. But type what you did and not expect a response that you might not like is no realistic. By your response puts into question alot of things for me. Hopefully none of this was exhibited to the boy at the time of the incident. Things like this can scar for life.
Oh and I laugh that he is 4 and causing a rukus. Just like mine. They do get worse as they get older so boundaries are needed early. Like you mentioned in earlier you changed the area so he can not get in there. Maybe I was right. If so this is a rare event. Ask my wife of 15 years.
jeremy
Never said I was perfect nor a great parent. But type what you did and not expect a response that you might not like is no realistic. By your response puts into question alot of things for me. Hopefully none of this was exhibited to the boy at the time of the incident. Things like this can scar for life.
Oh and I laugh that he is 4 and causing a rukus. Just like mine. They do get worse as they get older so boundaries are needed early. Like you mentioned in earlier you changed the area so he can not get in there. Maybe I was right. If so this is a rare event. Ask my wife of 15 years.
jeremy
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To me, this is exactly one of the problems we have with our children today. The fact is , they do bad things, face it. we do bad things.....If you sugar coat it , what will happen when they are teens and end up in Juvenile Court, because they were never told they did anything bad! Face facts......lets all get together and raise responsible youth! You are not always there to protect them and bale them out by saying " you made a bad decision" over and over. Teach them there are consequences to your actions when you are four years old or 19, 24 or whatever and they are not always pleasant! Enjoy your children but make them a joy not a child that others hate to see coming! Its not fair to the children. And yes, I have two children.......
To me, this is exactly one of the problems we have with our children today. The fact is , they do bad things, face it. we do bad things.....If you sugar coat it , what will happen when they are teens and end up in Juvenile Court, because they were never told they did anything bad! Face facts......lets all get together and raise responsible youth! You are not always there to protect them and bale them out by saying " you made a bad decision" over and over. Teach them there are consequences to your actions when you are four years old or 19, 24 or whatever and they are not always pleasant! Enjoy your children but make them a joy not a child that others hate to see coming! Its not fair to the children. And yes, I have two children.......
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To me, this is exactly one of the problems we have with our children today. The fact is , they do bad things, face it. we do bad things.....If you sugar coat it , what will happen when they are teens and end up in Juvenile Court, because they were never told they did anything bad! Face facts......lets all get together and raise responsible youth! You are not always there to protect them and bale them out by saying " you made a bad decision" over and over. Teach them there are consequences to your actions when you are four years old or 19, 24 or whatever and they are not always pleasant! Enjoy your children but make them a joy not a child that others hate to see coming! Its not fair to the children. And yes, I have two children.......
I sugar coat nothing.... if you knew my 18 y/o daughter, you would understand when I say nothing. I stand behind telling a child you dont say they are "bad" or they did "a bad thing" -
I did not say a teenager.... entirely different ball game there. Age appropriate conversation applies to the situations that arise. Do we tell our 18 y/o she's making a "bad" decision? You bet your bippy we do. Do I tell my 10 y/o that? Nope - we tell him he's making a "poor choice". Words mean everything at a young age.
Want my 18 y/o? I guarentee you would hand her back with a day or 2... no child is perfect - and neither are their parents.
To me, this is exactly one of the problems we have with our children today. The fact is , they do bad things, face it. we do bad things.....If you sugar coat it , what will happen when they are teens and end up in Juvenile Court, because they were never told they did anything bad! Face facts......lets all get together and raise responsible youth! You are not always there to protect them and bale them out by saying " you made a bad decision" over and over. Teach them there are consequences to your actions when you are four years old or 19, 24 or whatever and they are not always pleasant! Enjoy your children but make them a joy not a child that others hate to see coming! Its not fair to the children. And yes, I have two children.......
I sugar coat nothing.... if you knew my 18 y/o daughter, you would understand when I say nothing. I stand behind telling a child you dont say they are "bad" or they did "a bad thing" -
I did not say a teenager.... entirely different ball game there. Age appropriate conversation applies to the situations that arise. Do we tell our 18 y/o she's making a "bad" decision? You bet your bippy we do. Do I tell my 10 y/o that? Nope - we tell him he's making a "poor choice". Words mean everything at a young age.
Want my 18 y/o? I guarentee you would hand her back with a day or 2... no child is perfect - and neither are their parents.
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I don't want your kids.....
No thank you, I have two on my own. I must admit they made wrong decisions, they made bad decisions. They need to know the difference. When they get a job and the boss comes down on them are they going to stand there and cry because they have been told, Oh, you just made a wrong decision. NO, they will be fired!
Get ready...............I guess you can always tell them, they made a poor choice of taking that job! All I am saying is raise responsible children , teens and adults...this starts at a very young age! Perhaps with chickens or some other pet. If they accidently kill it, when they know they were no supposed to have it to begin with....open your eyes.....they did wrong unless they have a learning disability and if they do that is another issue!
No thank you, I have two on my own. I must admit they made wrong decisions, they made bad decisions. They need to know the difference. When they get a job and the boss comes down on them are they going to stand there and cry because they have been told, Oh, you just made a wrong decision. NO, they will be fired!
Get ready...............I guess you can always tell them, they made a poor choice of taking that job! All I am saying is raise responsible children , teens and adults...this starts at a very young age! Perhaps with chickens or some other pet. If they accidently kill it, when they know they were no supposed to have it to begin with....open your eyes.....they did wrong unless they have a learning disability and if they do that is another issue!
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dont agree with that statement at all...But... thats what makes each person an individual. Your parenting skills are yours...and ours are ours - and my kids are my kids and your kids are your kids.
Enough said
dont agree with that statement at all...But... thats what makes each person an individual. Your parenting skills are yours...and ours are ours - and my kids are my kids and your kids are your kids.
Enough said
There is one sure thing... Time will tell the Story Well on how we raised them! The only problem is, then its too late......and that is SAD.
I do believe, There is no BAD child! But a child and adult can display bad behavior!
I do believe, There is no BAD child! But a child and adult can display bad behavior!
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