BF4- Regarding the behavior of someone in the autism spectrum...I have one niece and one nephew (both from the same family) in this spectrum. My niece was diagnosed about 13 years ago, had assistants and one-on-one "therapy" during school. She has led a "normal" life to date. She is 20 years old, has taken driver's ed, participated in gymnastics and track, is currently in college with plans to be a vet tech and works in a vet clinic. My nephew, on the other hand, was not diagnosed until he was about 17 years old. He is more in what used to be called the Ausbergers' category. My brother and Sister-in-law, had multiple complications with him. He was constantly getting in trouble, not applying himself, doing destructive things, and finally they had to admit him into a home for underage rehabilitation because he started a fire on a neighbors porch. Through all of this, they thought that he was just troubled! It wasn't until he went to the therapy home that he was diagnosed with Ausbergers!!!!! Today, he lives on his own close to his parents house. SO from my experience ONLY, there is a wide range of the spectrum and early intervention seems to have a positive outcome toward helping each child adapt and understand themselves and the world around them.
My statements for you, every child we bring into this world has challenges and strengths. Whatever we, or a doctor, label the strengths or challenges does not limit that child or their abilities. We should advocate for the best we can get for all of our children regardless of their "labels". There are documented individuals that have accomplished great things and I suspect that they (and their parents) believed that they could accomplish the world. But the fact behind all of this, that I believe, is that NO CHILD can overcome ANY challenge without the love of their parents and the belief backing them up that the child can become anything in the world!
You have discovered a challenge in your child path to greatness. I am sure that this has hit you and your family hard, but pick yourself up! Realize that this is not a limitation, its not an obstacle, its not the end! Your child will live a normal life, will accomplish great things, will be the same joy in your life that they have always been. Do press onward getting the tools needed for your child to adapt to the world around them, but do not listen to anyone that says "your child will not have a normal life". These people have already limited your child without even knowing the child's capabilities and strengths!!!!!