x mas inlaws dont dig my gals!

[peeboo]

lol amen

 

[Wifezilla]

Do what makes you happy.

. Now if we could trade our sisters and brothers away!!!!

For Trade: One brother. (Keeping sister though)​

 

[FrChuckW]

When your MIL asked the question "Are you going to hit me?" I would have said, "No but I might just B**ch Slap you if you keep running your mouth and complaining." Obviously she needs a refresher course in manners and being a good House Guest! I would get a copy of a book by Miss Manners and leave it on the nightstand by the bed she is sleeping in with a big note that says "For your reading enjoyment"

In my years of counseling couples getting married, one of the things I always covered was dealing with in-laws with both the bride and groom. Mothers, as a rule are generally protective of their sons, especially if he is the only child or only boy in the family. Fathers are the same way with their daughters.

I would always inform the couple that while their parents may or may not approve of the marriage, it is their choice and that they needed to realize that there would come a time when they would have to back their spouse against their parents.

I loved the response about shoving your husband towards his mother and telling her "Here, this is your egg."

I have a very firm rule with my family when they come to visit me, they can sleep on the couch, bring air mattresses and sleep on the floor, bring a mobile home or go stay in a hotel. They are aware of the fact that I have animals, and that I have a 1 bedroom house as of now.

My mother believed in killing with kindness. If someone made a remark while visiting, my mother would embarass them by expounding on the subject with them asking them what would they suggest to handle the problem, until the person either realized they had been rude and apologzed to her or my father would show them the door. She always maintained that company, like fish, smelled after three days!

 

[JennsPeeps]

When your MIL can lay eggs and bring you joy, she can stay in your home.

Until then, ship her off to a motel.

 

[PortageGirl]

I have an aunt exactly like that! Luckily I don't have to deal with her very often anymore, but as a child I never left that house feeling good... and now that I'm grown I see just how miserable she is with herself. She has fewer and fewer friends, and less and less in her life that satisfies her. I just got off the phone to my cousin (her daughter who turned out fine BTW) and we traded thoughts about it. We both wish she were a happier person, both for our sakes and for her own, but she isn't and probably never will be, the point is, WE are happy people and cheereful overall, we have good lives overall, and this woman raised 2 great kids (adults now) for which I'm grateful to her for, I'm glad they're in my life.

She's miserable, you aren't! *smiles* Try to let your 'ears' glaze over when she gets going, and then when you realize she's paused for breath, say something like "Oh I'm sorry, I missed that last bit, I was thinking about a)a recipe, b) what time to set the table, c) where I put my X, Y, or Z." It will let her know whatever she was bi... er, complaining about went right past you.

I see lots of good ideas here, but liked the one about asking your husband to really "LISTEN" to what she says. I suspect he's just so used to her tone and attitude, he tunes it out completely. He may still not "Get it" though... some otherwise perfectly nice men never do when it comes to their mothers.

I hope she's not staying long... ((hugs))

 

[peeboo]

lol you guys are soooo funny. that's hilarious. i mean, she's just high maintenance and she means well but sometimes,.....RIGHT TO THE MOON! lol

 

[speckledhen]

FrChuckW said:

My mother believed in killing with kindness. If someone made a remark while visiting, my mother would embarass them by expounding on the subject with them asking them what would they suggest to handle the problem, until the person either realized they had been rude and apologzed to her or my father would show them the door. She always maintained that company, like fish, smelled after three days!

Oh, your mama was a smart woman! I think I may try that..that is if anyone ever lowers themselves to visit us up here at the Chicken Asylum.​

 

[Felicitas]

Quote:
I think there may be a lot to this idea, in many situations. Both my mother and DH's grew up in small rural towns in the 40's and 50's and they think the idea of keeping livestock of any sort is just stupid and silly. When DH and I first married, I mentioned to my new MIL that my ultimate dream is to own some acreage so I can have chickens, horses, goats and that sort of thing, and she actually burst out laughing at me, as if I had suggested something really weird or off-the-wall.

 

[djackjr]

I really need to get my coop finished and get me some chickens, It just might keep the riff raff away;

 

[peeboo]

lol it's all so true.