Barn Trouble (Horse People Please Post) -Update on Page 6-

[br64]

I have to agree with everyone... get out fast. I managed a boarding stable for five years and I would have never,ever treated any of my boarders the way this man has you. He sounds like a person who had no respect for anyone who has a different way of doing things than he does. If I read your first post right, you said that you've had 10 years of professional riding lessons, It could be that you ride better that he does, he knows that and dosn't like it one bit!. I personally don't think you should give him any notice at all, just show up on the day you're leaving, load your horse up and go.

 

[Rusty Hills Farm]

A younger rider that I knew developed an actual fear of the guy she was boarding with, so we told him she was off to a show and...she just sorta kinda "forgot" to go back there. She was very happy at her new barn. BUT she was so fearful of the guy that when she discovered she'd left behind a lunge line, she decided she didn't want it badly enough to go back for it.

If this guy gives you ANY of these kinds of vibes, do not even tell him you are leaving. Just go showing and forget to come back. Always remember that when dealing with horses, Rule #1 is "Don't Get Hurt". Sadly that rule doesn't always apply just to the horses.

JMO


Rusty

 

[rodriguezpoultry]

I'd be nervous to give any type of notice, but then again...I've turned into a HUGE pessimist when dealing with people in the horse business.

I LOVE my barn! It's even better than boarding with my own aunt! They give helpful criticism when I need it, help me correct something that I might do wrong and allow me to sit in on other people's lessons.

True...my horse is considered a lesson horse for the kids, but whatever...I have to put up with children in the lessons (10 years old?) who don't know how to control their horse so the horse and kid come barreling into mine...but whatever. It sacks out my horse as well as teaches the kiddo what not to do.

I don't know how "high class" you're looking for, but craigslist often has boarding options open.

Good luck!!!

 

[chickenzoo]

I would find another barn, but I'd first turn around the next time he said anything and let him know how you feel and you are tired of his disrespect and will move your horse if he continues. Nip it in the bud, some people don't realize what they are saying until someone tells them. As odd as it may seem he may not really know he is upsetting you........ some people like to run their mouth but not actually listen to the words that come out.

 

[EweSheep]

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I like this idea! No contract, then you are not obligated to inform him what will happen. Just go and be on your merry way! If you forgot something, buy a replacement. Be done with him. I nver had a boarding stable like that man treating you and it is uncalled for!

 

[Bunnylady]

I work part-time at a boarding stable, I've been there through a change of ownership and a passel of other employees. I haven't ever seen anyone who would do deliberate harm to a horse that was leaving, but neglect it a bit? Unfortunately, yeah, that I have seen. As soon as you have settled on another place, I'm for just loading up and leaving. If he asks you why you are going, I wouldn't create a scene. Just tell him that the other place suits you better (same style of riding, or something). At his age, his character and opinions are not going to change, let him dump on somebody else (which he will; for a while it may be about you!!)

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You need a third horse to keep the one alone company.

I tried this. Now I have two horses that flip their lids when one is out, instead of just one. It doesn't matter which one I have out, the other two are sure she's having more fun than they are!

 

[Redyre Rotties]

Find new boarding for your horse. When you are there to load your horse and move it, with other (preferably male and in fit condition) people to help you, I would tell this old bugger in no uncertain terms why I am moving my horse, probably with my finger stuck in his chest.

Ridiculous. Get out!

 

[cafarmgirl]

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He is perfectly healthy mentally and would not retaliate. I will think on giving him notice today or tomorrow.

Um, he doesn't sound mentally healthy to me! I would simply show up with my trailer and let him know at that time that this is the end of it. When he wants to know why tell him he seems very incompatible with they way you choose to do things and it'll be a lot less stress for both of you if you move someplace else. I don't know how you made it 4 years with this person! I have a preferred riding style too but I would never in a million years dream of putting down another rider for how they choose to ride their horse!

 

[sourland]

I am a grouchy 69 year old guy, and I would never treat anyone like that-especially if they were paying me money. Strange things can start to happen to the brain at this age. Get out, and when you do so show up with a couple of fit male friends or relatives. His behavior is definately questionable.

 

[hchorselover]

You should find a new barn! there's no reason for him to treat you like that and I'm sure there are plenty of better barns to board you horse at

And you shouldn't have to pay him to yell at you.