I'm sorry you were taken by an unethical seller. THe next time you buy off of Craigslist, you might want to take a picture of the birds, post them here and get opinions, then buy them. I've seen some people do that, and avoid some pretty bum deals that way.
BTW none of those birds are even slightly female.
Also, as a note on the processing, we take our turkeys and chickens to a local processing business. They just charge us like 3 dollars, we give them the bird, and get handed back this beautiful prepared product. It's a really good deal. Perhaps you could Google search for one in your area.