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[scottcaddy]

No reply from Scott, will have to go to the next name on the list

Scott has been a bit busy helping his Fav. #2 DD move her birds (at least 40+) and coops, and sheds, and 3 Grandkids worth of stuff to her forever house.
Sorry bout that My Dear DD, I am not ignoring you, just a lot busy.

loves-ya-much

The DW hasn't shot anybody/thing in many a year now, she is getting right peaceful.
Scott

 

[drumstick diva]

Well I hope your wife stays peaceful. I know this will cut you to the quick Scott but,we can only be friends. I hope you will come to know this is best for all of us.

 

[whoop whoop]

I need some serious advice - all the care homes I have gone to smell awful and cost huge money - got such a good system here I have put in place but it costs so much - and father' money is running out - actually there is no God when i becomes to being old - have too stay here - make a plan to raise money - chooks!!! planty of room - and wait fr a 'death' - so depresinng SORRY

 

[N F C]

@whoop whoop do what you have to do, I'll be thinking of you

 

[Mtn Margie]

Are your parents able to give you input? Realistic cognizant input I might add? Smell is one thing but how is the care? Staff ratios? Outside activities? A roomful of kids coming in off the playground on a hot day smell pretty rank so keep checking back at different times. If they are unable to keep up with people's needs on a regular basis, that is a no- no. Talk to some of the residents to get their input and keep notes on the different places. Show up unannounced. Is there music and other things going on. Outside patios? Keep looking and checking and it may take some time. Is there a Senior Services group? Get their help/ advice. How is the food? I would buy a meal or two if you are narrowing down the choices.
Wish I could help, we all do. Keep your chin up!

 

[whoop whoop]

@Mtn Margie both parents alzeheimers father totally bed bound, both totally incontinent - the care is not so great anywhere they leave them sitting in mess it is just awful and they charge so much. Thought last night I shall sell this house buy a smaller bungalow and then I can keep the set up going for as long as it takes - its the only way I think - the staff I have employed are amazing and so caring and I just couldn't put the parents in these ghastly homes after being looked after so well for so long.. I should have put them in a home years ago but couldn't then - ...

Thank so much, NorthFLChick has been so supportive as well - you have no idea how it helps thanks guys- won't bother you guys with this anymore very depressing...thank you

 

[scottcaddy]

So sorry to hear just how bad it is!
Good luck!!
Take care!

Scott

 

[Mtn Margie]

Oh my, that is another whole different situation for sure. Double

. It does sound like the smaller place and current care option is the best. It is hard to find a nice Memory Care facility that is not priced out of this world even here. My neighbor's mother and my friend's hubby, actually plus a few other people I know, are also diagnosed. There are concerns even with DH, but getting him to a Doc is like, building the Great Wall of China. It is going to take time and some drastic measures when it comes down to it all. There is no topic thread here on BYC, I've looked, but I would suggest that you do something to make sure you are caring for yourself and talking to someone. alz.org for example. Here, they have support groups for caregivers and such. Just keep talking to someone or it is going to get more overwhelming. I am just trying to be helpful, not bossy. Typing just has no nuance.
Coffee up kiddos! No bears- TGFT!

 

[N F C]

Hi @whoop whoop , that's a really tough spot for you to be in. Are your sibs (I think I remember you having some) able to help support you in all this?

Please take care of yourself, you're doing the best you can in a very difficult situation.

 

[N F C]

Margie, yay on no bears! They must have seen the sign and skedaddled.