I thought I might update this for anyone who might have a similar problem. The amitryptilline has worked wonders for the cat, it has taken 17 days since we started the Meds for me to say that, this last week has been wonderful. Now I have to go sniff every corner of the house looking for places she hit, but I can do it.
Now, this cat has never liked people, she was really on our short list. But this is totally what we've done
1). We give her amitryptilline prescribed by our vet nightly
2). We changed litter to clumping litter.
3). We treated her for fleas
4). She now goes outside and strolls around the house for an hour or two each night and comes back in.
Also, the amitryptilline seems to have taken away the major anxiety she was experiencing and had experienced since we've had her. She now seeks any of us out to curl up on, play with, even talk to. She is sitting on my husbands lap now and purrs when petted. It is a different cat. I will admit I cannot believe this worked. So, I want to share what seems so far like a success. If we have to give her Meds for the rest of her life, I am ok with that, she actualy looks and acts happy for the first time since we've had her for 3 years.