Coronavirus, Covid 19 Discussion and How It Has Affected Your Daily Life Chat Thread

[seminolewind]

You're welcome Mary, and thank you. Lorie
(Dirk is my husband. We're old fashioned, I guess. We have one house, one tv, one phone(landline only), one email, and one Facebook account. Even my kids tell me they aren't sure which one of us is contacting them since we share all accounts. Lol)

That sounds good that you got a partner like that. What I beg you to do is learn something. Whether nurse asst. or vet asst. or whatever. This you call an investment in yourself and you will never have to worry about the future. The nest egg thing doesn't always work out long term. But if something happened to your partner, you can use that trade or degree to save your family. Believe me, strange things happen in life and if you can invest in yourself so that you will always be valuable to someone to do something that is needed. Even if it's just one Night class a week (that was me) at least you are getting somewhere. Women are horribly notorious when it comes to being someone that can hold things together in a crisis or change in family. You can't support your family on working for McDonald's or a Walmart cashier.

I think one of your kids is capable of having a heart to heart with you and put you on a path to self-worth. I know old fashioned is a good thing that most people don't have. I wish I would have had it. But sometimes a woman needs a little bit of something that can help keep things together. Old fashioned is really nice but does have a few quirks like sharing everything. But I'm sure your husband could see schooling and a certificate as a way to keep everything the way it is-if God forbid some dynamics should change.

Old ways (old fashioned) are what some of us strive for. It's good to have some kind of education that can be used to keep things they way you like.

 

[seminolewind]

I am a new chicken mom trying to fill my days with chicken coop/run fantasies but my husband is not sharing my enthusiasm or his power tools. Then today my best friend told me I was "one of those people who believes everything they hear" because I said I believed the CDC and was trying to follow their recommendations So right now I'm about to tell most of the humans I know to kiss off and just go hang out with my dog and chickens.

And I get the depression thing...sometimes it seems like people just are trying hard NOT to understand. I finally stopped trying to hide my panic attacks from my loved ones because it's the only way I could get anyone to understand that I wasn't just overreacting.

OMG! You poor thing-going so long without any friendly guidance at all. People can never understand true depression unless they've been there. One of my BFF's at the time just said to me "you'll snap out of it" . Like a switch was going to appear and "poof" make everything better. My other BFF just accepted me no matter what. People do not understand somethings that they cannot see. Namely depression and anxiety. I think my mother and sister and hubs are the only ones that understand because they have it or they live with someone that has it. Yes people do not want to understand. They just go with the "herd mentality " that you are wrong and they are right.

I know what it's like to be sitting in a movie theater and just suddenly can't breath. I run out to the car and try to breathe normal and stop thinking I will die. And 30 minutes later feel fine . You have to be honest with yourself and whoever else is willing to understand you. When it's really hard to understand. Hiding panic attacks only make it worse. SO BE IT!. Who is most important? You are. And it only matters how you see yourself and accept it. OMG I have been on 3-4 depression/bipolar/anxiety meds for about 18 years. It runs in my family. Chronic depression that will never go away , and without any reason, and all these pills help me live a normal life and feel normal things. Oh God there is nothing worse than being numb, overwhelmed, upset, wanting to just hide. People don't want to see it because it is not something they really know about.

You are among friends here , and some of them can understand how awful it is to have something that can't be seen only felt . And I'm sure you pretend to be normal with a happy smile in front of the public so no one can see the pain of what you have. I know.

Chickens will save you. They live very simple lives. They show you that maybe it's better to simplify your life and make things more tolerable.

Sorry for the long post but if I feel I can help someone I tend to go all out. That's the way I am.

 

[seminolewind]

Husbands or wives that don't share your love of your "extended" family. I find that most stuff is "honey can you do this" or "honey I can't ………. Men or SO's tend to be drawn to some poor spouse or SO needing help. You need to use your "womanly"or SO "whiles" to get something. You need to show them you need their help to get because you can't do it..

I went into this relationship with the thought of "I am super woman" I can do everything just fine-to- I can't do this please help me ! This is how you get spousal help and you just sit back and do your nails while spouse is working hard to improve coop without even liking chickens.
And the reward is a good meal or .........

 

[dirkandlorie]

That sounds good that you got a partner like that. What I beg you to do is learn something. Whether nurse asst. or vet asst. or whatever. This you call an investment in yourself and you will never have to worry about the future. The nest egg thing doesn't always work out long term. But if something happened to your partner, you can use that trade or degree to save your family. Believe me, strange things happen in life and if you can invest in yourself so that you will always be valuable to someone to do something that is needed. Even if it's just one Night class a week (that was me) at least you are getting somewhere. Women are horribly notorious when it comes to being someone that can hold things together in a crisis or change in family. You can't support your family on working for McDonald's or a Walmart cashier.

I think one of your kids is capable of having a heart to heart with you and put you on a path to self-worth. I know old fashioned is a good thing that most people don't have. I wish I would have had it. But sometimes a woman needs a little bit of something that can help keep things together. Old fashioned is really nice but does have a few quirks like sharing everything. But I'm sure your husband could see schooling and a certificate as a way to keep everything the way it is-if God forbid some dynamics should change.

Old ways (old fashioned) are what some of us strive for. It's good to have some kind of education that can be used to keep things they way you like.

I really love your advice. It should be given to all women! As for me, I've been the main bread winner all my life, working 70 to 80 hours a week in management so I could retire early. I'm living my lifelong dream now, which I call luxury homesteading. Raising almost all our own food and of course chickens. House I paid off years ago, solar on the roof, no debt, and sunny days on the deck. I'm in heaven, and God forbid if I should lose my husband, I will still be able to maintain this lifestyle. Might have to hire someone to mow the lawn though, can't tell you how much I hate that job! Lol

 

[seminolewind]

Sorry they never got you one!!

And that’s so sad.

My mom actually doesn’t really like black dogs either I don’t think. Says the hair shows up everywhere hah it’s ridiculous!!

And yeah, I love any and all dogs!!!

So sorry you lost your dog!!! I love border collies!!

But it sounds like you have some really amazing kitties and other dogs!!!

That’s brave of you to want to try that!!! I’m not sure if I would be brave enough to do it haha but I love all dogs and love training so I probably could or maybe a dog that needs work.

But yesssss I love rescues!!! my brother has three and I know a few others and they’re all amazing!!!

You're an exceptional person! God love ya!

 

[seminolewind]

I really love your advice. It should be given to all women! As for me, I've been the main bread winner all my life, working 70 to 80 hours a week in management so I could retire early. I'm living my lifelong dream now, which I call luxury homesteading. Raising almost all our own food and of course chickens. House I paid off years ago, solar on the roof, no debt, and sunny days on the deck. I'm in heaven, and God forbid if I should lose my husband, I will still be able to maintain this lifestyle. Might have to hire someone to mow the lawn though, can't tell you how much I hate that job! Lol

Oh Man so good for you! Amazing what you've accomplished ! I really applaud all you've done. I am so happy to see a women no less actually invest in herself. So important. Luxury homesteading sounds just wonderful to me!

 

[seminolewind]

They never got me a pony either lol. I'm sure everyone has a "but you promised me a pony!" story but my mom actually dangled it over me for 5th grade, then after I delivered straight As for the entire year as well as student of the quarter as per the deal, said that I was being ridiculous and didn't I know how much a horse cost? I never believed any of her "promises" after that.

I agree, me too. My parents actually looked but the house on an acre was missing some big upgrades-necessary ones. They were right.

 

[ShrekDawg]

You're an exceptional person! God love ya!

Aw this is so sweet!!! Thank you!!! You are too!!

OMG! You poor thing-going so long without any friendly guidance at all. People can never understand true depression unless they've been there. One of my BFF's at the time just said to me "you'll snap out of it" . Like a switch was going to appear and "poof" make everything better. My other BFF just accepted me no matter what. People do not understand somethings that they cannot see. Namely depression and anxiety. I think my mother and sister and hubs are the only ones that understand because they have it or they live with someone that has it. Yes people do not want to understand. They just go with the "herd mentality " that you are wrong and they are right.

I know what it's like to be sitting in a movie theater and just suddenly can't breath. I run out to the car and try to breathe normal and stop thinking I will die. And 30 minutes later feel fine . You have to be honest with yourself and whoever else is willing to understand you. When it's really hard to understand. Hiding panic attacks only make it worse. SO BE IT!. Who is most important? You are. And it only matters how you see yourself and accept it. OMG I have been on 3-4 depression/bipolar/anxiety meds for about 18 years. It runs in my family. Chronic depression that will never go away , and without any reason, and all these pills help me live a normal life and feel normal things. Oh God there is nothing worse than being numb, overwhelmed, upset, wanting to just hide. People don't want to see it because it is not something they really know about.

You are among friends here , and some of them can understand how awful it is to have something that can't be seen only felt . And I'm sure you pretend to be normal with a happy smile in front of the public so no one can see the pain of what you have. I know.

Chickens will save you. They live very simple lives. They show you that maybe it's better to simplify your life and make things more tolerable.

Sorry for the long post but if I feel I can help someone I tend to go all out. That's the way I am.

This seriously almost made me cry

The bold parts especially are me sometimes. Been better lately but still. I don’t think I even really felt anything when Red died.

 

[rosemarythyme]

I agree, me too. My parents actually looked but the house on an acre was missing some big upgrades-necessary ones. They were right.

Oh I definitely understand the reality, but it's still disappointing. I even lobbied for riding lessons (with the obvious hope that I could eventually work my way up to a horse) and was told that it was dirty and not appropriate for a girl and why don't I try tennis or basketball (?!? my parents were huge Lakers fans) instead?

 

[ShrekDawg]

Oh I definitely understand the reality, but it's still disappointing. I even lobbied for riding lessons (with the obvious hope that I could eventually work my way up to a horse) and was told that it was dirty and not appropriate for a girl and why don't I try tennis or basketball (?!? my parents were huge Lakers fans) instead?

That’s so ridiculous!! And also makes zero sense because I feel like it’s mostly woman now? Or at least a lot haha especially in some genres.