Divorce Issues

[EweSheep]

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Something is NOT right about this arrangement and doing his laundry...are you kidding me?????????

 

[ranchhand]

No kidding Sonoran.

I'd like to see the court order that requires the mother to leave her home so the ex can spend time with the children. That's just nuts. Where is she supposed to stay?

Uhm, I guess I'll be the bad guy again. Does the mom have a habit of making herself the victim? Is she cooperating in hope that he will mend his ways and come back?
It seems that she is cutting him way too much slack. Time to cowgirl up and do what's best for the kids?

I'd definitely suggest another mediator if this is really factual information.

 

[NoseyChickens]

I would think having him come back into the home like that would make it even more confusing to the kids. He gets to come back in and make himself at home as if nothings changed and then abandon them all over again essentually every time he comes to visit. It's not a good message for the kids and she needs to make that clear to the courts/mediator. He needs to see the kids in his own space, not in the family home he decided to leave. It's no wonder they are acting out.

 

[Ang]

Are you sure that the court ordered her to leave her house so he can stay there to see the kids? If that's the case, she had a crappy lawyer. She needs to go back to court and get that fixed. Probably no other way that it is going to change if the judge actually ordered the visitation to be handled this way.

 

[redhen]

I can GUARANTEE you that if it is on court papers somewhere...she AGREED to it.
Her fault. Sorry...

 

[EweSheep]

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[redhen]

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LOL..what? I bet she did agree with it... like in mediation or something..

she HAD to have AGREED to let this man come into HER house and sleep there... its common sense!

 

[redhen]

I think waht happend was she agreed to it..thinking it would be best for her kids...
And now shes sorry she did it..its coming back to bite her in the butt...
She needs to go back to mediation and chage it ASAP...

 

[Dar]

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[Carols Clucks]

If he is being abusive, by sending her nasty messages or in person, she might want to try and get a restraining order against him. That should solve his staying in the home.

Something sounds fishy, but I do know some one who set up a custody arrangement where the kids stayed in their home, the parents each had their own room and they were the ones that move back and forth (the parents).