Does anyone else NOT get along with their Dad?

[scbatz33]

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Amen to that. Having lost my father, who was my hero, to cancer 3 years ago, I can attest to the fact that even though I had a great relationship with my dad-I still wish for one more day with him. Miss him every day of my life.

200x! My father and I were close. Far closer than I've ever been to my mom. We were very very alike. He died 5 years ago July 23rd. I miss him daily and especially when I need advice or want to share a funny thing or just say hi.

It's sad when you don't have a good relationship with your parent - mom or dad. My kid's bio donor is a waste of space and he's made no effort to be a father to any of his children. I know that has been really hard for my kids growing up. My husband has tried to be a good dad to them, but it's not the same.

Good luck to you.

 

[QuinnP]

my parents & I are on speaking terms, but they took my little girl away from me & don't understand how devastating it was & is. They dont understand why I had to move 3 states away from them in order to get along with them. They are always telling me that since I have no job I'm not as good as they are. Because I'm poor I am not a good Mom. Talked to them the other day, I told them thet I would never be whole without Aaren, & they both downplayed that.

 

[PineappleMama]

I don't see mine much, never have, since he's in another state... perhaps that plays a part in us not chafing much?

Now my mom on the other hand... well, I love her but I don't like her much.

 

[seedcorn]

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So why don't you get a job, give Aaren a stable home?

 

[tinahoak]

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Ditto here. My dad is the absolute BEST. It is not possible to admire a person more than I admire him.

Don't be sad. Just speaking for myself, but I am sure that others have learned valuable lessons as well. I am a better person for having watched my father do the things that he done. I learned never to treat people badly and I also learned that I never ever wanted to grow up like him. I honestly feel that people like my father are unhappy and miserable and therefore, must try and make everyone else miserable.

Do I wish he was a good person, sure! But, I have learned that we except what is given in our life and we make the best of it. It doesn't sadden me that some have wonderful parents that they admire. It actually puts a smile on my face.

nop169

I'm proud that you made the best of a bad situation and now a have a wonderful family that you know how to love and care for.

My parents have been divorced 27 years . My dad cheated on her their entire marriage ( 28 years). My mom is great ! (Glad she's mine) She has managed to remain friendly to my father but the above staement hit home as this is my Dad. I have held him up to my two boys as an example many a time, of the type of person NOT TO BE. I am blessed to have a wonderful father inlaw and an awesome husband.
Both of whom are people that my boys can admire and strive to emulate. I am saddened when I think of the missed possiblities for a relationship with my dad ....thinking of all the things that might have been. But then , that is his choice not to be a part of his families lives . HE will grow old and be lonely , not me. I don't hate him . I just get tired of being told he's got more important things to do or more important people to be with...literally . It has been 1 1/2 years since we've spoken . I decided it was time I made myself happy as I have worth and I *AM* important ....just not to him. His loss. My gain. I have my sanity and self worth back . Any guy can be a sperm donor , yet not all can be a "DAD".

 

[Organics North]

Oh wow... I feel for all of you with a not so good relationship with a father.
THIS thread should be a MUST read for all men that ever consider procreation...........................!

I am fortunate to have had a beautiful father unfortunately he has passed away (My best friend he was.). My mom is still alive and a pillar of all things important in life to me.

With that said, I have a father in law that is difficult to say the least, and my spouse suffers from the life long struggle..... I have had a range of emotions twords the man.. Know I try to just maintain a sense of sympathy..No hate..no anger..no disgust.. (I try to not have those emotions.)

Be strong..Be well
ON

 

[darkmatter]

Not sure I should post on this thread, my Dad passed away this year, we got along well. I left home at 17 to join the military and we always communicated. He was a WWII vet, Omaha beach on "D" day, battle of the bulge, liberated the V engine factory and concentration camp---3 bronze stars. He was married for over 50 years till death did him part. I'm a Dad with two kids and been married for over 32 years now and good relationship with my adult Kids, they are very independant and self supporting (Yeah!....did something right).....So I feel for those who didn't get along with their parents. P.S. my profile "website" links to my facebook--there is a public album of my Dad with his WWII pictures.

 

[Three Cedars Silkies]

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I'm so thankful for your dad's honorable service. My dad was my hero and he too was a WWII vet at Iwo Jima...South Pacific. Because of brave men like them we live free!!

I've thought about this thread so much the last couple of days and even shared it with my DH. He has been a great dad to his son (first marriage) and about as good a step-dad as he knew how to be to my daughter. He is stunned by the sorry-a$$ dads that have been shared here.

 

[Organics North]

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I'm so thankful for your dad's honorable service. My dad was my hero and he too was a WWII vet at Iwo Jima...South Pacific. Because of brave men like them we live free!!

I've thought about this thread so much the last couple of days and even shared it with my DH. He has been a great dad to his son (first marriage) and about as good a step-dad as he knew how to be to my daughter. He is stunned by the sorry-a$$ dads that have been shared here.

I know this is not the place for this, but I just needed to add, my dad who passed last November was a WWII vet too.. Infantry man, European theater at the end then Pacific theater until we bombed Japan and the war was over.
Not too many WWII vets left alive anymore!
(As I said earlier, great man.. sure do miss him.)
ON

 

[Mandalina]

Um...we get along ok on the phone.I dont go home too often to see him anymore although I should.He is an alcoholic and get pretty mean when he drinks so i pretty much try to avoid him being around me and my kidlets when I do go up there.I need to though, he is sick and he is reaching out to have some form of closeness but I just cant see me taking down the last 27yrs worth of built up wall for that.