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Congratulations!!! So glad that you're back!
Congratulations!!! So glad that you're back!
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Thanks kelseygirl707!
We are having a tough time figuring out when to tell our parents. They took the miscarriage so hard that we wanted to at least get further along in the pregnancy than the last time, which we have. The sad thing is, due to the dangers of my work environment, my coworkers have to know that I am pregnant. So they know before our parents! Our parents are so excited for us to have children, I wouldn't want to leave them out too long either. They are close to us and would want to enjoy the pregnancy as well. Thoughts anyone?
We are having a tough time figuring out when to tell our parents. They took the miscarriage so hard that we wanted to at least get further along in the pregnancy than the last time, which we have. The sad thing is, due to the dangers of my work environment, my coworkers have to know that I am pregnant. So they know before our parents! Our parents are so excited for us to have children, I wouldn't want to leave them out too long either. They are close to us and would want to enjoy the pregnancy as well. Thoughts anyone?
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Well first of all I just pray everything goes well for you guys this time. But I think I would tell your parents, if god forbid something does happen, I think they won't take it as hard because I know from experiance, once you have had a MC, you don't feel truly comfortable with the current pregnancy until you hit that 2nd trimester, and even then (At least for me) I didin't feel "safe" until about 18-20 weeks, so they will just be more aware that the first trimester can be scary. DH and I had a MC almost 3 years ago, but when we got prego this time around, we told the fam the day after we tested at 6 weeks, then just set a frame of mind that everything will be fine, but DH barely let me move until I was 12 weeks along
. But I would hate telling anybody before I told my family, I didn't even let DH's parents know before mine, they got to know the day after we told my family, LOL.
Well first of all I just pray everything goes well for you guys this time. But I think I would tell your parents, if god forbid something does happen, I think they won't take it as hard because I know from experiance, once you have had a MC, you don't feel truly comfortable with the current pregnancy until you hit that 2nd trimester, and even then (At least for me) I didin't feel "safe" until about 18-20 weeks, so they will just be more aware that the first trimester can be scary. DH and I had a MC almost 3 years ago, but when we got prego this time around, we told the fam the day after we tested at 6 weeks, then just set a frame of mind that everything will be fine, but DH barely let me move until I was 12 weeks along
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Congrats! If you want to try and save them the heartache I would wait to tell them until you're at least 12 weeks since 90% of miscarriages happen in the 1st trimester , and 6 weeks is nowhere near out of the danger zone (not being negative, just realistic). I'm sure you'll be fine though! I always thought I'd wait until I was 12 weeks to tell everyone, but I didn't last 2 days and neithr did DH.
Congrats! If you want to try and save them the heartache I would wait to tell them until you're at least 12 weeks since 90% of miscarriages happen in the 1st trimester , and 6 weeks is nowhere near out of the danger zone (not being negative, just realistic). I'm sure you'll be fine though! I always thought I'd wait until I was 12 weeks to tell everyone, but I didn't last 2 days and neithr did DH.
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I like waiting until I'm in the second trimester to tell everyone (if I can help it). I'm 12.5 weeks right now, and just told my boss yesterday. Did you see the heartbeat at your ultrasound recently? Supposedly the risk of miscarriage drops significantly once you see the heartbeat.
Personally, I would wait until you get one more ultrasound or until you hear the heartbeat again. At that point, everything should be fairly secure! Congratulations again!!
I like waiting until I'm in the second trimester to tell everyone (if I can help it). I'm 12.5 weeks right now, and just told my boss yesterday. Did you see the heartbeat at your ultrasound recently? Supposedly the risk of miscarriage drops significantly once you see the heartbeat.
Personally, I would wait until you get one more ultrasound or until you hear the heartbeat again. At that point, everything should be fairly secure! Congratulations again!!
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Just want to say
to everybody. I've not been participating much ... sorry! I have bought the material for my baby's quilt. When I'm done I will post a picture.
Congrats to our two newbies ... suz. & krc.!!!
Suz: I know how you feel - we weren't planning on having more either! I know we will love her so much, too, of course! However, I am still not thrilled that I'm going to have to go through all of the baby stuff again - post-partum recovery, trying to lose all this stinkin' fat I've gained, late nights/up all night, diapers, feedings, crying, toting a big o' infant carseat, etc, etc, etc.
Krc: I knew you'd be back soon! Congrats! I've had two miscarriages, too, so I understand about the waiting to tell. My miscarriages were both at around six weeks, so @ eight weeks I feel good to spread the news -- of course, this time, being a nurse, I did have to tell some people sooner so that co-workers wouldn't think I was just being lazy asking for help lifting/moving/supporting patients as necessary.
Y'all try to stay warm...where ever you are!!
Congrats to our two newbies ... suz. & krc.!!!
Suz: I know how you feel - we weren't planning on having more either! I know we will love her so much, too, of course! However, I am still not thrilled that I'm going to have to go through all of the baby stuff again - post-partum recovery, trying to lose all this stinkin' fat I've gained, late nights/up all night, diapers, feedings, crying, toting a big o' infant carseat, etc, etc, etc.
Krc: I knew you'd be back soon! Congrats! I've had two miscarriages, too, so I understand about the waiting to tell. My miscarriages were both at around six weeks, so @ eight weeks I feel good to spread the news -- of course, this time, being a nurse, I did have to tell some people sooner so that co-workers wouldn't think I was just being lazy asking for help lifting/moving/supporting patients as necessary.
Y'all try to stay warm...where ever you are!!
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Thanks everyone! I guess I am kinda excited, just the possibility of having a girl gives me little hopeful flutters in my heart! But I am bracing myself for another boy, I figure God knows what he's doing, and maybe I am somehow just better with boys. Plus my DD would not be my only princess anymore, and I think that would be a tough transition for her.
I'm kinda just telling myself 'Its a boy and your gonna love him just like the others, so get over it!' (and I will!)
I am not looking forward to the whole postpartum stuff either- its rough! Ugh! The bleeding, the cramping, the leaky boobs, the back aches, the never sleeping more than 2 hours at a time, those knarly first tarry poops that take 20 wipes to get off their bottoms, first colds, and of course, the dreaded weight loss. That part is the worst for me, I gain 60 to 70 lbs every, stinkin', time! Takes me a whole year to lose it and it seems like forever- at 5' 2, 155 lbs is not so pretty to me (I'm usually about 125, and being short means every lb determines whether my jeans will fit, literally!)
But in the end, its all SOOOO worth it. Its so stinkin fun taking a new baby out and showing him/her off to the world- so much pride and love! Firsts are the best- smiles, giggles, belly laughs, rolling over, all that stuff, its just amazing everytime.
I'm so excited for all you first timers- you'll NEVER forget any little detail! The first is just so amazing and magical, nothing in the world compares, nor can anyone or anything really prepare you for it.
If you ever have a worry, concern or question, dont hesitate to post it- I'm sure one of us 'ol timers has been through it and can help or at least give some suggestions..
My biggest thing is those Sea Bands someone mentioned earlier- they WORK!! At least they do for me. I had the WORST morning sickness (all day, all night) with my 2nd boy and had to take a Rx for it. I tried the bands with my 3rd boy and it was like someone turned a switch to OFF, used them for my 4th boy from day one and NEVER had any issues, just once in a great while if I ate way too much, or not enough, but never tossed my cookies! This time I can only use them when no one is around or when I wear long sleeves, and boy, do I notice a difference! You can usually get them at any drug store or walmart- not too expensive, definately worth a try if your having tummy troubles.
I'm kinda just telling myself 'Its a boy and your gonna love him just like the others, so get over it!' (and I will!)
I am not looking forward to the whole postpartum stuff either- its rough! Ugh! The bleeding, the cramping, the leaky boobs, the back aches, the never sleeping more than 2 hours at a time, those knarly first tarry poops that take 20 wipes to get off their bottoms, first colds, and of course, the dreaded weight loss. That part is the worst for me, I gain 60 to 70 lbs every, stinkin', time! Takes me a whole year to lose it and it seems like forever- at 5' 2, 155 lbs is not so pretty to me (I'm usually about 125, and being short means every lb determines whether my jeans will fit, literally!)
But in the end, its all SOOOO worth it. Its so stinkin fun taking a new baby out and showing him/her off to the world- so much pride and love! Firsts are the best- smiles, giggles, belly laughs, rolling over, all that stuff, its just amazing everytime.
I'm so excited for all you first timers- you'll NEVER forget any little detail! The first is just so amazing and magical, nothing in the world compares, nor can anyone or anything really prepare you for it.
If you ever have a worry, concern or question, dont hesitate to post it- I'm sure one of us 'ol timers has been through it and can help or at least give some suggestions..
My biggest thing is those Sea Bands someone mentioned earlier- they WORK!! At least they do for me. I had the WORST morning sickness (all day, all night) with my 2nd boy and had to take a Rx for it. I tried the bands with my 3rd boy and it was like someone turned a switch to OFF, used them for my 4th boy from day one and NEVER had any issues, just once in a great while if I ate way too much, or not enough, but never tossed my cookies! This time I can only use them when no one is around or when I wear long sleeves, and boy, do I notice a difference! You can usually get them at any drug store or walmart- not too expensive, definately worth a try if your having tummy troubles.
Well, I am back from my first doctor visit!! I totally underestimated being around 7 weeks.. I am 9 weeks and 1 day according to the sonogram. The baby is an inch long.. We were able to see it's little heart beating like crazy at 176 beats per minute.. And it would wiggle its arms and legs.. It is finally starting to seem real!! I am going to have a baby..
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