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[rcentner]

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I imagine she is a bit busy/pre-occupied, lol. I have had so much to do and so little energy to do it. I am noticing that priorities change a lot after having a baby...this is our 1st one and I bet kelsey is feeling the same way I am...a bit overwhelmed. I bet her husband is a little more helpful than mine though. I love my DH and understand what his motives are, but he has been working extra overtime to cover the bills. Last night he got home from work at 9:30, leaving me with Shane non-stop, no help. Today I have to figure out how to carry a baby and 100 lbs of chicken feed by myself. I have to say I am a little frustrated. Please don't judge my DH to harshly but I do need to vent a little. I was hoping I would have a little more help or even a little more confidence in caring for Shane by now. 2 weeks in and I still wonder if what I am doing is correct, especially at night time when I cannot seem to console him. I have no idea if I am supposed to hold him during his poop faces or if I can put him down. He makes lots of noises when he sleeps and I still have to keep an eye on how warm he is. I keep freaking forgetting to put a hat on him and turn the heat on.

oh..crying baby, gotta go

 

[KellyHM]

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I imagine she is a bit busy/pre-occupied, lol. I have had so much to do and so little energy to do it. I am noticing that priorities change a lot after having a baby...this is our 1st one and I bet kelsey is feeling the same way I am...a bit overwhelmed. I bet her husband is a little more helpful than mine though. I love my DH and understand what his motives are, but he has been working extra overtime to cover the bills. Last night he got home from work at 9:30, leaving me with Shane non-stop, no help. Today I have to figure out how to carry a baby and 100 lbs of chicken feed by myself. I have to say I am a little frustrated. Please don't judge my DH to harshly but I do need to vent a little. I was hoping I would have a little more help or even a little more confidence in caring for Shane by now. 2 weeks in and I still wonder if what I am doing is correct, especially at night time when I cannot seem to console him. I have no idea if I am supposed to hold him during his poop faces or if I can put him down. He makes lots of noises when he sleeps and I still have to keep an eye on how warm he is. I keep freaking forgetting to put a hat on him and turn the heat on.

oh..crying baby, gotta go

I'm sure you're doing fine. He could be a little colicky at night. Mylicon drops worked wonders with Wyatt...we called it baby crack b/c he would go from screaming to silent and happy in 1/2 a second.

I don't mean to be a downer, but just to be practical, don't expect a lot of help from DH at this point. I think my husband felt really awkward/insecure with the baby at that age. At 10 months, he's finally not afraid to hurt him anymore, but the main responsibility still falls on mom, at least for me and everyone else I know.

 

[Shireshome]

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I imagine she is a bit busy/pre-occupied, lol. I have had so much to do and so little energy to do it. I am noticing that priorities change a lot after having a baby...this is our 1st one and I bet kelsey is feeling the same way I am...a bit overwhelmed. I bet her husband is a little more helpful than mine though. I love my DH and understand what his motives are, but he has been working extra overtime to cover the bills. Last night he got home from work at 9:30, leaving me with Shane non-stop, no help. Today I have to figure out how to carry a baby and 100 lbs of chicken feed by myself. I have to say I am a little frustrated. Please don't judge my DH to harshly but I do need to vent a little. I was hoping I would have a little more help or even a little more confidence in caring for Shane by now. 2 weeks in and I still wonder if what I am doing is correct, especially at night time when I cannot seem to console him. I have no idea if I am supposed to hold him during his poop faces or if I can put him down. He makes lots of noises when he sleeps and I still have to keep an eye on how warm he is. I keep freaking forgetting to put a hat on him and turn the heat on.

oh..crying baby, gotta go

Why do you have to put a hat or heat on him? Except for the first five hours after birth your baby doesn't need a hat unless it is very cold or draftly. Your baby should not have any more clothes/heat then you do. If you are making him too hot this could be a big part of what is wrong with him especially since boys run hotter than girls. You should try not keeping him so warm and see it that helps him. A dead giveaway is if he is panting (short quick breaths) while sleeping or calmly laying in your arms also if his temp is 100 to 101F your are cooking him out mommy! Another thing to try is Gripe Water or, if you don't have a health food store nearby let me know I'll tell you how to make it. I have some good tips on how to console him; they will also help narrow down to whether or not there is a problem or just a baby that loves to be with his mum.

You also have NO business moving 100 lbs of anything. You should leave it where ever it is and if you have to, pay someone 5$ to move it for you, maybe a neighbor, a teen, someone. It isn't worth losing your uterus over. As for your husband, he sounds a lot like mine. Guess we both have good taste

I find that with my husband, if I just write down on paper 4 or 5 things for him to do that I simply cannot do like move a feed bag out of the car I just hand it to him and say "hey, I need my big stronge husband to help with these 5 things" Then hand him the paper and XOXO. As tempting as it is to hand the baby over to dad when the baby is crying, new dads are often just puzzled

as to what to do, and if the baby keeps crying or cries more while dad is holding him that only aggravates, after all men don't get a new dad brain like we get our new mommy brains.

 

[Shireshome]

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Congratulations happytxchick. Wow your baby was HUGE!

 

[greenfamilyfarms]

Congrats!!! My grandparents are wishing for a red-headed grandchild.

In the meantime, I've put this cross stitch piece up for auction:
https://www.backyardchickens.com/forum/viewtopic.php?id=511019

 

[rcentner]

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I imagine she is a bit busy/pre-occupied, lol. I have had so much to do and so little energy to do it. I am noticing that priorities change a lot after having a baby...this is our 1st one and I bet kelsey is feeling the same way I am...a bit overwhelmed. I bet her husband is a little more helpful than mine though. I love my DH and understand what his motives are, but he has been working extra overtime to cover the bills. Last night he got home from work at 9:30, leaving me with Shane non-stop, no help. Today I have to figure out how to carry a baby and 100 lbs of chicken feed by myself. I have to say I am a little frustrated. Please don't judge my DH to harshly but I do need to vent a little. I was hoping I would have a little more help or even a little more confidence in caring for Shane by now. 2 weeks in and I still wonder if what I am doing is correct, especially at night time when I cannot seem to console him. I have no idea if I am supposed to hold him during his poop faces or if I can put him down. He makes lots of noises when he sleeps and I still have to keep an eye on how warm he is. I keep freaking forgetting to put a hat on him and turn the heat on.

oh..crying baby, gotta go

Why do you have to put a hat or heat on him? Except for the first five hours after birth your baby doesn't need a hat unless it is very cold or draftly. Your baby should not have any more clothes/heat then you do. If you are making him too hot this could be a big part of what is wrong with him especially since boys run hotter than girls. You should try not keeping him so warm and see it that helps him. A dead giveaway is if he is panting (short quick breaths) while sleeping or calmly laying in your arms also if his temp is 100 to 101F your are cooking him out mommy! Another thing to try is Gripe Water or, if you don't have a health food store nearby let me know I'll tell you how to make it. I have some good tips on how to console him; they will also help narrow down to whether or not there is a problem or just a baby that loves to be with his mum.

You also have NO business moving 100 lbs of anything. You should leave it where ever it is and if you have to, pay someone 5$ to move it for you, maybe a neighbor, a teen, someone. It isn't worth losing your uterus over. As for your husband, he sounds a lot like mine. Guess we both have good taste

I find that with my husband, if I just write down on paper 4 or 5 things for him to do that I simply cannot do like move a feed bag out of the car I just hand it to him and say "hey, I need my big stronge husband to help with these 5 things" Then hand him the paper and XOXO. As tempting as it is to hand the baby over to dad when the baby is crying, new dads are often just puzzled

as to what to do, and if the baby keeps crying or cries more while dad is holding him that only aggravates, after all men don't get a new dad brain like we get our new mommy brains.

well good to hear I am not the only one doing this by myself, mostly. My DH is good, when he is home.

we found that he sleeps better and is less fussy when he is warm, he doesn't pant or sweat or look uncomfortable when he is heated. I have tried the gas drops and they seem to help, but is it really ok to do every time I feed him? I hate to do it unnecessarily, but he was better last night. Don't ya know I spilled almost the entire bottle this morning

. yet another thing I have to go get today. It is difficult to try and time our outtings, but atleast he sleeps real well in the car seat

ok, another thing I wonder about.... after I have fed him, changed him, fed him again (this is unfortunatly the routine we have fallen into) he poops again...so I am often left with the dilemma in the middle of the night. Every time I change him he wakes up and wants to be fed again, leading to this never ending cycle of feeding, pooping, diaper changing. Then I don't know when to expect him up again cause we eat a full meal, change diaper, snack, change diaper and snack again. Sometimes I feel like this could go on all day and night if I didn't neglect to change a diaper occaisionally. any ideas here? I feel like a bad mama when I don't change a diaper right away, but at 1am, 3am and 5am I just wanna go back to bed. If I start with a diaper change before I feed him he is frantic and it is harder to change him and I know I will still need to change him again.
I think I might be starting to get a little crazy and could use a few hours of rest. I really dont want to fall into post partum blues, but feel like I might be headed that direction.. or is it the lack of sleep?

I need some help, but what kind of help? What can I ask anyone to do? Hopefully once I start the bottle it will be easier. sorry to address issues that are not really belonging in this thread, but you guys have been real helpful and supporting.

 

[CranberryCreekFarm]

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Haha I have a blonde and a redhead already....get ready for the tempers! haha I love it though, shes so sassy! number 3 on the way...we will see if he is blonde, red, or brown haired....

Hubby says he hopes for a brown headed boy so we can have "neopolitan kids"

 

[greenfamilyfarms]

Neapolitans. LOL!

 

[KellyHM]

rcentner - Start pumping and get someone to do one of those middle of the night feedings! I started doing that at 1 week of age and it was wonderful to get a full 4 hours of sleep at a time. It will make you feel much much better.

 

[Quail_Antwerp]

well, back from the Dr.s she said I don't need to be worried about the Fifths Disease. And....because baby measured a week behind where they thought I was by my last cycle, they've now changed my due date from September 16 to September 23

So, I'm not 23 weeks and 4 days, but 22 weeks and 4 days. sigh.