Getting tired of rudeness....

[AngBantamLuv]

I let everyone have a few opportunities to let things slide.. after that, it's not even worth the time to read anything they have to say (there are a few people i see stirring the pot in post after post).

But as my ignore list has gotten longer, byc has become more pleasant!

 

[ShrekDawg]

Making fun of another person on here is unacceptable if it is done just out of the blue without and for no basis. By that I mean if they ask for trouble by being a complete dumba_ _. Well then I can see how that easily works it self out very easily. BYC does have a moderator or two and there is not supposed to be anyone on here chatting under 18 but it does happen so be careful. Rudeness is just unacceptable. I don’t like being treated rudely and I have been treated that way by the moderator in my book. So go figure. However, I hold no grudges. I have learned a lot from a handful of people on here and some facts from the rest that are debatable.

This is actually technically supposed to be a family friendly website and everybody, even kids, are allowed and even encouraged to be here. There are plenty of kids on here but they don’t allow them to reveal their age if they are a minor for safety reasons. So you won’t necessarily know which ones are minors but they are allowed to be here.

As for the moderators, it is unfortunate that you were treated that way but the moderators are just people like everybody else and they have bad days, etc. too so please try not to hold that against them.

You can see all of the staff members here. There are currently only two mods. There were 3 or 4 before I think but they do change sometimes.

https://www.backyardchickens.com/members/?key=staff_members

 

[TheMother]

an explanation to the original poster, and its generational.

Culturally, we are in our second generation where facts don't matter. The first generation was taught that all opinions were valid, without regard for the underlying facts, and the current generation is being taught that motive matters more than anything else, championing even lies so long as they are for good purpose. While certainly not true of every member of the most recent generations, its been a theme in teaching and the media. Logic and Rhetoric are hardly taught at all anymore.

Without agreement as to facts, finding agreement as to what conclusions to draw from those facts is increasingly challenging.

and anonymity (on the internet and elsewhere) tends to result in a lowering of social filters. Whether or no there are consequences for one's statements (here, they are few). Add the stresses of the past decade+, and... a general degradation in the quality of discourse and the social lubricant of mutual respect is evident everywhere.

**my opinion only**

This explains what is up with peoples brains. There is no such thing as logic or absolute truth. Remove the two and the only existing facts are our feelings. Our feelings and opinions are facts. If a tree fell in a forest and no one heard it fall, did it really fall? Good luck to all.

 

[SegiDream]

Totally agree with you here... there are some that seem to think their opinion is the last word and seem to struggle to get their point across without being rude..... tbh it puts you off posting to try and help if those sort of people have been there before you and slammed their 10 cents on the table and chopped up anyone else's opinion on the way.... someone else's opinion is their opinion and we all must respect that even if we don't agree....

Yes, agree too. I was just trying to be helpful and experienced this. I may have a low post count but it doesn't mean that I don't have experience or know what I'm talking about, when I'm not sure I try to express that as well... actually I wrote a mini book put a lot of effort into trying to be helpful and as accurate as possible... and then someone comes along takes one little piece of something I said that wasn't necessarily wrong and implies that it somehow is...

I let everyone have a few opportunities to let things slide.. after that, it's not even worth the time to read anything they have to say (there are a few people i see stirring the pot in post after post).

But as my ignore list has gotten longer, byc has become more pleasant!

lol I just found the ignore feature! I have a hard time letting things slide sometimes. I tend to get myself into trouble because of it thyroid issues don't help... and it's not really an excuse but it certainly can bring my temperature up if not careful...

 

[mviera101]

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I find the majority of people on BYC to be incredibly helpful and have genuinely good intentions. People post here looking for help and asking questions, hoping to get the answers they seek. While I agree difficult to convey tone in a text, there is no excuse for downright rudeness. One of the reasons I don’t have Facebook and never will! I come to this forum as a reprieve from the every day. Thank you @Sammi_0411 for bringing this up as a reminder to all of us as to why we are here and what this forum is for.

I feel you! I have no social media at all. I love this site and all the wonderful helpful people. I am learning so much and enjoying all the forums ,contests and banter. I agree that there is no excuse.

 

[GambaDawn]

Making fun of another person on here is unacceptable if it is done just out of the blue without and for no basis. By that I mean if they ask for trouble by being a complete dumba_ _. Well then I can see how that easily works it self out very easily. BYC does have a moderator or two and there is not supposed to be anyone on here chatting under 18 but it does happen so be careful. Rudeness is just unacceptable. I don’t like being treated rudely and I have been treated that way by the moderator in my book. So go figure. However, I hold no grudges. I have learned a lot from a handful of people on here and some facts from the rest that are debatable.

Well, I guess if I see it again, I will definitely comment!

 

[HomesteaderWife]

Maybe someone will see this who needs to, maybe not. But please be considerate with your words everyone - so many people, especially youngsters who may be coming here wanting to know more about their chicken friends, may be facing enough hardship in their real face-to-face world and interactions. Be welcoming, be helpful, understanding, and try to literally treat others the way you want to be treated. It's so easy to become impatient or blow up. But these are online conversations you take the time to type- consider your words, read them over, and think before you post. You're not blurting out something suddenly - you have the capability to edit your conversation and mull over what you're saying. So many people come to BYC because they genuinely want to learn and grow as a poultry caretaker. Educate in a positive way, help in a genuine way, and be friendly and courteous. If you're having a bad day, take some time off the internet and enjoy the outdoors. Give your flock some extra TLC. Words have more impact than you may realize whether face to face or online.

 

[thepick4uchicks]

Maybe someone will see this who needs to, maybe not. But please be considerate with your words everyone - so many people, especially youngsters who may be coming here wanting to know more about their chicken friends, may be facing enough hardship in their real face-to-face world and interactions. Be welcoming, be helpful, understanding, and try to literally treat others the way you want to be treated. It's so easy to become impatient or blow up. But these are online conversations you take the time to type- consider your words, read them over, and think before you post. You're not blurting out something suddenly - you have the capability to edit your conversation and mull over what you're saying. So many people come to BYC because they genuinely want to learn and grow as a poultry caretaker. Educate in a positive way, help in a genuine way, and be friendly and courteous. If you're having a bad day, take some time off the internet and enjoy the outdoors. Give your flock some extra TLC. Words have more impact than you may realize whether face to face or online.

Amen! I had to take a week off of BYC. I got really frustrated with the attitudes of a few people and how patronizing and rude that they as old timers and some upper management were being towards those of us with what I thought were as having the more generous and helpful attitudes which really surprised me and hurt my feelings. But I had to overlook their oversight in my opinion and let them have theirs and just get over it. I had to pull away and decide if I wanted to keep learning and keep making friends and being a friend and as helpful when I found opportunities to be helpful. So I will do that and take a break when I need one and bite my tongue. I will not be rude or tolerate it either but I will promote returning rudeness with more of it. That doesn’t solve anything. BYC has the opportunity to accomplish a lot of good but that has to come from the members as a whole and not from the people who write the rules alone and enforce them.

 

[thepick4uchicks]

Amen! I had to take a week off of BYC. I got really frustrated with the attitudes of a few people and how patronizing and rude that they as old timers and some upper management were being towards those of us with what I thought were as having the more generous and helpful attitudes which really surprised me and hurt my feelings. But I had to overlook their oversight in my opinion and let them have theirs and just get over it. I had to pull away and decide if I wanted to keep learning and keep making friends and being a friend and as helpful when I found opportunities to be helpful. So I will do that and take a break when I need one and bite my tongue. I will not be rude or tolerate it either but I will promote returning rudeness with more of it. That doesn’t solve anything. BYC has the opportunity to accomplish a lot of good but that has to come from the members as a whole and not from the people who write the rules alone and enforce them.

SORRY what I meant to say was....
I will not be rude or tolerate it either but I will NOT promote returning rudeness with more of it.

 

[Sammi_0411]

I made this post cuz i felt bit low and wanted people to realise how some individuals make others feel and to try be more mindful majority of byc is brilliant really u always gona get some issues i know i just ignore it