So very sorry Star. My father was the same way. My mom is the most unselfish person I know. After Dads death she is finally able to buy some clothes & such. Has made really good financial choices. Only to have my oldest brother milk her for everything she's got because he is worse than my dad was. Selfish, self centered people make me vary mad. My oldest has married a man very similar to her Papa. Its usually all about him, never about her or the children. I have shed a river of tears over all of them, but I know that there isn't anything I can do to help. Their healing must come from God alone. I will add you & yours on my prayer list Star & just know that I care