wishing, I wouldnt ask him to change it. It might make it to where he wont want to ask again. I would stay home first. I dont mean to be cold so please forgive me when I say, you cant do anything for them that has passed on but this is a big one for your son. I would give anything to hear words like that. I invited someone over.
Yes, that's my dilemma exactly. I will see what they come up with as an alternative before I decide. Maybe he can go to her place and get inspected by the parents.
Going to the service is more to support the widow. Her husband was diagnosed with a terrible disease (amyloidosis) and died from it all in a few months. They are our backyard neighbor that we share the well with.