I am so mad I could spit nails!

[SterlingAcres]

Yeah.... I say kick it in the a$$ right now... because it only gets worse. My 'little' brothers are 20 and 22... They act like your 18 and 16 yr old. Video game addicts, without jobs, that constantly ask for money-rides-etc from my parents and when they don't get what they want, they throw a hissy fit tantrum to get it... So lazy it's disgusting. I swear, I'm the only one that escaped with a brain...

Good luck....

 

[Poison Ivy]

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I've done that before when my kids were small they would have everything locked in the closet for a week or 2. Only thing left out was their bed & clothes. No toys or tv. They learn real quick when I say to clean up or feed the animals. I thought I was the only one who did that.

 

[Lobzi]

It is so sad the way things are going. Young folks have no respect for their elders. I am a teacher and you should hear what these kids get away with saying to us in the classroom. One of my students told me he was going to kill my Chickie because I told him to turn off his music. Amazing. Are they getting these attitudes from movies and TV? In sitcoms today the people speak to each other so terrible and it is laughed at.

 

[asher]

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heh Yeah...mine don't always get them back, either.

Then again, I'm the mean mom that when they have so many toys/things that they can't respect them enough to take care of them and they do not correct that, we donate them to a charity or home that will appreciate them. (And you know, they have *never* ever lamented later about missing them so I know they didn't need or appreciate those things to begin with.)

 

[SterlingAcres]

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I've done that before when my kids were small they would have everything locked in the closet for a week or 2. Only thing left out was their bed & clothes. No toys or tv. They learn real quick when I say to clean up or feed the animals. I thought I was the only one who did that.

I had a friend in high school, his mother was hilarious. If she said to clean his room and he didn't, he'd come home to his sh*t on the lawn. Literally. She's thrown his video games, clothes, shoes, anything laying on the floor RIGHT OUT HIS BEDROOM WINDOW.

He learned real quick too, since he had to clean that up and throw away broken stuff.

 

[asher]

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Sadly, it's probably partly movies, tv, music (and I listen to hard rock and metal so I'm not knocking all of it! hehe), but also some parents doing the same thing and setting that example. (Not saying the OP at all, btw. Just saying it's not always outside influences causing this total lack or respect, anger and just total selfishness.)

 

[shmooborp]

omg! that sounds exactly like my brother!!!! hes 18. and a j e r k. he wont get a job because of the excuse that he cant "Pass" the drug test.. stupid... somethimes i just wanna.. ugghh!!!! im 16 i have a job and i get up a 6 oclock and feed and water my chickens. and dog. he needs to grow up and get a life. he treats my mom the same way and into tears.. i wish he would start thinking about how things are sopose to be. UGH!

sry... hope all goes wellwith ur kids

 

[chickn]

i didnt read the whole thread i am wondering are these kids in school?
drive them to their girlfriends! i think not!! are you kidding me.
i think they need a little lesson in you do for me i do for you.
close up shop and let them sink or swim out the door i say.

what i do is leave a note do this do that and if i get home and its not done they are miserable for the rest of the day

they hate that worse than doing the things on the list

 

[Coop-a-kick]

lilshadow, I think you have every right to be upset. No excuse for that behavior-- everyone is in agreement!

I remember saying really really really stupid things to my mom (who I love just about best on earth) in the months before I got the boot for bad behavior. I hope your boys will come around. Truly, they do not understand how good they have it, because all they can focus on right now is themselves. If you take away some of the things they think are so important they may react badly right away but it will eventually allow them to step back and take stock of their situation.

Stay strong!

 

[Silkie's Grandma]

I agree with the majority - the 18 year old needs a wake-up call. When I turned 18, my parents made it VERY clear that I was of age to get out on my own if I didn't like their rules. (which included my share of doing chores both housework & outside animals/ garden / lawn) My mother told me it was a priveldge to live under their roof & NOT A RIGHT. Mother enforced the chores by a list of assigned duties posted on the fridge every day of summer vacation. I raised my kids the same way. Responsibilty & chores never hurt anybody - lack of the same has created a lot of clueless adults!