You say she wasn't there for the daughter through the suicide attempt? Maybe she is just offended because she is not happy with her own mothering abilities? Or jealous? I'm curious as to how she would know you call them your kids too? Is it that you do it in front of her or she jsut doesn't like YOU period? I think as long as you and the "kids" are ok with it and there is nothing you can do for your relationship with her(if it's bad) then boo hoo on her. If your trying to be friendly with her and have to be around her then maybe twist your tongue around her to make her happy, and smile on the inside because you know how how you feel on the inside
Like a proud Mama and Gramma. Congrats BTW on all the new babies!!!!